My partner has been using meth for the past 3 months, and I’m extremely concerned. She has graduated from prescription medication and her tolerance has been growing. She doesn’t have a job and has been relying on others buying it for her, but now she has started to turn to me to pay for it. She has ADHD and says it helps her focus, although it’s clear it’s more of an escape. It has been really hard to get through to her that whether or not I can afford it, I am extremely uncomfortable paying for it- I don’t want to enable her. She tends to become really agitated when I refuse, and it’s sometimes easier to just agree to avoid intense arguments or a split (she has BPD and is currently unmanaged for it.)
I am plagued with guilt that I could be doing more to help her, or more to set standards.
I would like advice on how to set boundaries with someone going through this, and maybe what angles I could address this from, and when does it become unsafe for me to be in this relationship? I am also worried that I am treating her like a child, and want to know how to stop this.
I am really grateful for any information, and that I could share what’s happening for me recently too. I wish the best for everyone in this community
