Hi @Sunset_Crab š§”
It seems like being a āpeople pleaserā and trying to help your friends all get along is taking a bit of a toll. I understand that it may be extremely hard to set boundaries out of fear you are being mean, but it is a super important skill to develop. I also use to struggle with people pleasing of sorts (and still occasionally do), but even if I come across as mean or selfish, putting myself first has been so much better for my well-being. I am so proud of you for getting better at practising this and totally believe in you setting boundaries moving ahead!
I think communication is key to setting boundaries. But that being said, you also donāt need to explain yourself to anyone. I love the saying āno is a complete sentenceā because it is true. I feel so bad if I donāt have a āgood enoughā reason to put myself first, when really, we donāt need a reason. The fact that it is starting to affect your wellbeing is a really important point, and maybe mentioning this to your friends could start a conversation around what your boundaries are.
Itās amazing that you want to be such a caring friend and help them, but it isnāt your responsibility to make everyone get along. Resources are available for your friends (e.g school counsellor, teachers, psychologists, support services like here at ReachOut) so it shouldnāt be your job to be their mediator.
I think you deserve to do something nice for yourself and prioritise self care during this time to take care of YOU. sending love š«¶š» āŗļø
