Hey @Elia ,
Thankyou so much for sharing with us and also big congrats on coming to terms with being trans 💗. You should feel really proud of all the steps you're taking at the moment with coming out to your family and buying new feminine clothes, that's such a big deal!!
I'm so so sorry that you're going through this with your parents at the moment. As a queer person myself, i'm intimately familiar with just how scary it is going through the process of coming to terms with your identity and coming out to people. I can imagine that it would feel so incredibly upsetting for you to work up the courage to be vulnerable with your parents only for them to ignore, misgender and deadname you. I'd like to tell you that this is not ok, and you do not at all deserve to be treated this way. You deserve to feel safe and respected.
It sounds like your older brother is a really great support for you, and i'm so glad you've got someone in your life who understands what you're going through. I'm wondering whether you've spoken much to your brother about all of this with your parents? It could be really great for you to have someone on your side who is aware of what the dynamics are like in your family, but who also knows what it's like to be trans. Navigating those really tough conversations is always so so much easier when there's someone there to support you who is unequivocally on your side, and is there to look after you.
I really love @Matcha_Toad 's suggestion about looking after yourself by doing things that are gender-affirming for you. I'm not trans myself but trans friends of mine have told me just how helpful it can be to do little gender-affirming things. There are so many little things you can do to make you feel a little more feminine that wouldn't even necessarily be noticeable to your parents, since you mention they've been taking your clothes.
Please know that you've got a whole community here on RO, and a whole community of queer people out in the world who care for you so very much. I'm sending lots of love your way 💜.
