Hi @ShyRose 🩵
First off - welcome to the ReachOut community, it’s so great to have you here. After hearing your situation, I want to ensure you that you are not an idiot, and there is nothing wrong with you. It is completely valid to be hurt by your mum’s words, it is an unfair statement, and shouldn’t be said at all let alone many times. You are definitely not useless. Uni is extremely hard so you are not alone in feeling a bit overwhelmed.
Have you tried reaching out to staff at your university? I imagine online classes could be a bit isolating, but often there are people ready to help if you know where to look. There are a few things in place for people managing assessments etc such as learning access plans (LAP), peer advisors, counsellors (at least at my uni anyway). It’s hard to manage completely alone, so your uni may be able to help ease some of the difficulty with your schooling.
I know it may be difficult but could you also express to your mum how you are feeling? Clear communication and letting her know that she has hurt you could ease some of the stress of managing this alone and replaying it all over in your head. If not, is there anyone else you could turn to for some support during this time? Maybe a friend, other family member etc. You shouldn’t have to deal with this alone ❤️
sending love, and hope to speak soon 🫶🏻
