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Hi @Sunset_Crab 

Thank you for reaching out. I have really struggled with this too and prioritising others needs over my own. For me it was almost linked to a lack of self esteem because I thought if I wasn't helpful to others and fulfilling their needs they wouldn't like me anymore. (Turned out not to be the case lol)

I am not sure if that plays a role into your people pleasing behaviours but if it does, let me be the one to tell you that shouldn't be the case. You are not a tool for your friends to use, it should be a mutual relationship with respected boundaries.

I know its really hard to set boundaries with them especially when they weren't there before. But it is obviously really draining your mental energy so I think it is really important to slowly set them up. Maybe next time someone asks something of you that you don't want to do try and redirect them to someone else or just let them know you have a lot of your own things to deal with and suggest for them to speak to whoever it is directly.

You have the right to complain and you have the right to change! Its so hard but for the longevity of your wellbeing and relationships with others it is really important to nip these things in the bud. You can be a supportive friend, give advice when you want and help when you want, but when its too much try and redirect them to other options. (I find that a bit easier then just saying no)