Hi,
I've never posted here before but my therapist told me about this site so I thought I may aswell vent and see if anyone else relates and/or can offer some advice.
Basically I'm a 22 year old male, and have never had any sexual experience. I know lots of people will say that it's chill and normal and more people are in the same boat than you'd think, but it's kinda hard to shake the shame especially when it seems to be so prominent to diminish/make fun of people in this position (like how calling someone a 'virgin' is literally considered an insult). The funny thing is that I've never been directly made fun of for it, but it's more the indirect shame you notice from friends/media that just kinda makes you feel bad about your situation. This also just kinda feeds into my confidence issues, where I overall just kinda feel unwanted/unnattractive. People have said to me before that I look good but like I just don't believe them bc I feel like that's what they'd have to say (like what are they gonna say, 'you're right you are ugly'?). Same with personality, people have complimented me for other things but it's kinda hard to believe them lol.
Idk, I know the issue probably runs deeper but rn I'm just trying to cope as I work through things in therapy. I've also made a conscious effort to minimize social media usage, bc I realised I'm just feeling bad after prolonged usage of it. As said at the start, can anyone relate/offer advice?
Thanks and hope you all have a great night 🙏
