Hi @PSYC_G4L 💟
Firstly - I’m proud of you for reaching out for help during such a stressful time even though you don’t usually. It seems like there are many things going on for you right now, which I imagine must be super tough.
As a fellow psych student, I understand both how busy this time of year is, and how much you want to be able to help the people you love through difficult times. While you cannot be their psychologist, I think all you can do is be the best friend and partner you can be for right now. Do you feel like you could explain your situation (exam stress) to your friend and partner? This way you can acknowledge that you cannot be as involved as you would like to right now. I know if I was in either of their situations, I would understand that uni exams is a hectic time and that it is not a reflection of you not caring enough. It may also be helpful to actually ask them something like: what do you need from me right now? and then tell them what you are capable of giving so you can achieve a healthy compromise. Communication is so important as we often assume what the other person is feeling or thinking without actually knowing.
It may seem selfish, but I think it’s impossible to be able to give your friend and partner the support you’d like to give them without putting yourself first. This way, your needs are met, and they also receive some support - everyone wins. You might want to check out this great post from @Green_Ghost which includes tips for Supporting someone going through a tough time
sending love and strength, and hope to speak again soon 🫶🏻
