Hi @Watermelon_Springs
I'm so sorry that you got cancelled on. I know exactly what you mean, I also find it difficult to understand why people cancel because of the "if they wanted to, they would" idea. It can feel exhausting to feel like you care about it more than they do. You're not too sensitive at all. Sometimes we can just feel a bit attacked when people cancel on us, it's totally understandable.
I'm only just starting to begin to accept that sometimes plans don't always work out. It's taken a long time to get to this point for me. I usually try and mentalise how the other person/s situation/s are when they cancel. Such as, I wonder if maybe something urgent came up, or maybe they're feeling low and not up to it, or maybe they just don't want to anymore. It's definitely worth clarifying why they've decided they have to cancel.
I would say that it is definitely worth focusing more of your attention on the friendships you enjoy, that feel the most reciprocal, however, because if the same people are cancelling all the time then there might be an issue there to look into. But definitely focus on the friendships you enjoy the most, as was also suggested by @Catlover101@Catlover101
