hi,
So me and my partner have run into a few problems with getting along and listening/ understanding eachother.
We are going through a very big rough patch and i have told him we need to talk about our feelings, boundaries and what our triggers are. ( because we always fight) and he just says 'i dont want to talk we both should just do better and be better'. but to me i dont get how we can just 'be better'.
like we havent addressed issues, we havent set boundaries, we havent expressed our emotions: what we like, what we dont, what we want more of.....
but whenever i ask to have a talk so we can fix our relo he just says he doesnt like talking and again that we should just do better and then end of conversation... or if i just talk anyway he says 'lets just talk about this tomorrow when we arent upset and angry' then tomorrow comes and he pulls the old 'why are u bringing this up, this happened yesterday?' .... what do? Just want my relationship to be healthy and to me this is the only way.. having a deep chat on what we need to do... i dont think we can just be better with no context... am i overthinking it and expecting too much? can it really just get better with no talking and just time? I just want him to just 'put up' with having a talk 🙃
