Hi @Red_Giraffe
It sounds like you're craving deeper communication, which is completely valid, especially if you're feeling unheard in the relationship. Your partner's avoidance of conversation is tough because, as you said, without addressing issues, it's hard to "just be better." Healthy relationships thrive on open communication, boundaries, and understanding each other's needs.
It might help to explain to him that talking doesn't have to feel confrontational. You could try setting a specific time when neither of you are upset and approach the conversation with a calm, non-accusatory tone. You could even frame it as, "I just want us to work as a team, and having a quick chat about our needs would help me feel more connected to you." Sometimes breaking it into smaller, less intense discussions can help ease the discomfort.
If he still resists, it might be worth exploring why he feels so resistant to talking. Maybe he’s uncomfortable or doesn’t know how to express himself. Offering patience and reassurance might help, but it’s important to remember that both partners need to be willing to put in the effort for growth. If he’s unwilling to engage at all, you might want to reflect on whether this dynamic works for you long-term.
I hope that helps and please do keep us updated :))
-D_D 💜
