Hi @cakepops_4ever 💘
it sounds like this whole situation with ‘Ellie’ and ‘Hannah’ is getting a bit too much to handle. You should be proud of yourself for seeking support. Hopefully getting this off your chest has helped a little. After reading the whole thing, I can see how you would be tired of this dynamic. As someone who also struggled with high school trio friendships, I completely understand where you are coming from. It’s hard, and you are valid in feeling aggravated that this new person is coming between you and your friend. 😞
I understand you don’t want to have a big conversation with either of them right now to express how you are feeling. I think it’s still important to establish boundaries wherever you feel comfortable. For example, when ‘Ellie’ is gossiping or being mean, you could explain that you don’t feel comfortable hearing that or engaging in such behaviours. I find it a bit less daunting that confronting the person and having a big discussion. Being clear with what you don’t like as it comes up can be a bit less attacking towards the other person if that makes sense.
As for your friendship with Hannah, could you organise some things to do just you and her? Maybe catch up outside of school? This way you could spend some uninterrupted quality time together to ensure your friendship stays strong. I know you mentioned you aren’t feeling brave enough to talk to Hannah, so you may want to check out these 6 steps to help you tackle difficult conversations . Even though it can be scary, clear and honest communication is really the only way we can get other people to understand how we are feeling.
sending love, and hope to speak again soon 🫶🏻
