Hey @cakepops_4ever
That sounds like a tricky spot to be in, thanks for sharing your experience.
I have been in similar trios before, and it can be a draining experience. While it isn't an easy solution, it can be helpful to spend some more time with your friends / people you could become friends with that are not part of the trio to give you the chance to talk about different things and find some balance. When you spend a lot of time with someone, especially if you don't like them that much, they can feel extra annoying because you are just spending too much time together.
It also sounds like Ellie might be struggling with feeling included in the trio and be jealous of your friendship with Hannah. That might be why she ignored you after you left rowing early. It is hard to make her feel included if she is excluding you from conversations and not Hannah, so I can understand why you would be frustrated. When you are all sitting together, it could be helpful to just talk about stories where you were all there, so you can bond as a trio. This might also help redirect Ellie from talking about things that you don't want to talk about. Over time, as she feels more comfortable, she might stop some of those behaviours that are bothering you.
I would also echo the suggestion of others that it would be valuable to spend some alone time with Hannah- it sounds like you both have orchestra together so that is a good start.
Good luck! I hope it all works out.
