Hey @plup firstly welcome to the community and thank you for sharing all of this with us. It sounds like such an upsetting situation to be in with your dad making threats to hurt Harry and parents wanting to send him away. I'm really sorry this is happening 😞 It sounds like you have a really strong connection with Harry, have built up trust over the past 2 years, and it's really clear how much you love him and want to protect him.
Cats, especially ones who are grown up when we get them can definitely be very strict with their boundaries and maybe not as "social" but it sounds like you've been able to understand and respect Harry's boundaries and have built up that trust with him. It also sounds like Harry is reacting with aggression when he's feeling threatened by family and this wouldn't be happening if he was given space?
It sounds like your parents are worried about Harry's behaviour being harmful to your brother and don't see things in the same way you do, which is hard. Making threats to hurt Harry wasn't an okay thing for your dad to do, even if he wasn't serious, and I can appreciate how distressing it would be to worry about Harry getting sent away.
From what you've shared, I don't think there's anything you need to be feeling guilty about. It sounds like you really care about Harry and also your brother and don't want anyone getting hurt.
If you're wanting to chat with someone one-on-one about how you're feeling, it could be helpful reaching out to Kids Helpline or ReachOut's PeerChat service.
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