Hi @Sky_Stegosaurus,
I really appreciate you sharing your experience with the community. I’m sure many of us here can relate to how you’re feeling. We’re at the stage where we’re figuring things out and trying to establish ourselves as adults and seeing our peers seemingly so ahead of us can be difficult and discouraging. It’s understandable that you’re feeling this way because there is a lot of pressure around us to be at a certain stage in life at a certain age.
I can relate to this feeling so much and with every rejection email I get from the jobs I applied for, it becomes increasingly hard to not compare myself to my peers whose careers are taking off even while still in university. I agree that some days it’s easier for us to remind ourselves that we have our own pace, and it may be slower than the others and we’re all gonna get there someday, but there are also days like this when it just feels like we’re not doing enough. But as hard as it is to believe right now, we are doing enough. We’re all trying our best and I know that everything will fall into place at the right time. We may feel slower than the others right now but it’s okay, I believe good things are ahead of us.
I know it’s difficult to be kind to ourselves during this kind of day, but I’m wondering what do you normally do at these times to make yourself feel better and if you’ve had the chance to do it? Sharing your feelings and experience is already a huge step in self-care but I’m wondering if there are other things you can do to take care of yourself. Recently, I received another rejection email from a job I really wanted to get into and it made me feel really bad so I went to get a sundae and then watched my favourite show to make myself feel better. I’m still a bit sad about it but the sundae and the show really helped a lot.
I wish you all the best and I hope that you achieve all the things that you want to accomplish. You’re not stagnating at all, you’re taking steps towards your goals and while it may take some time, you’ll get there eventually. Right now, you should be proud of yourself for everything you’ve accomplished. None of it is small by any means, being at uni itself is a huge feat. I know you got this! 💙
