Sorry to hear you're having a bad day @redhead  ... View more

It is hard @scared01 but it's a skill you can build on!  ... View more

@Bee took the words right out of my mouth @scared01. Self-compassion may be a key component to finding your way through this  There are some awesome mindfulness books out there which can give you practical and theoretical advice on developing some self-compassion. I'm about to log off soon but I just wanted to again say how much you're appreciated and valued at RO and while you may not be able to accept the compliment right now, I hope you can acknowledge it. ... View more

I understand @Matty D. I'm glad you were able to clear things up with them and that you spoke to the RO community about it. Do you feel that chatting to everyone helped with your anxiety about it? ... View more

Hey @cj123 I'm just catching up on your thread. I'm sorry to hear things feel this way at the moment. Please remember you're not alone and we are here to support and listen to you. Has something upsetting happened over the last few days? Did you end up going to see the counsellor?  ... View more

Hey @Matty D as @Bee said that's what we're here for. I'm thinking if you're concerned about picking the wrong time to chat to your parents, maybe it's worth writing down how you're feeling, and if you feel up for it, giving them the note? This may give you some space and time to write what you need and give them some space and time to respond? ... View more

Hey @Cheeseburger that must be both exciting and maybe a little overwhelming considering you've just broken up with someone? Maybe focus on getting to know this new guy and developing a solid friendship, that way trust may not be as much of an issue? ... View more

You are not a hopeless case @scared01. You are a kind, compassionate, intelligent person who is going through a hard time. Things will get better, you just have to try and push through this rough patch. If this was happening to a friend what would you say to them about it?    I would give the DBT book a look over again and maybe even try to look up some inspiring biographies or books, they don't have to be self-help based to help. I think it's about finding your motivation again and what works for you. ... View more

Well done @Zeldasmile, you've shown such bravery in taking this step  ... View more

It can be hard to find someone you click with @scared01 and I can see how much you've tried and hear how frustrating things are for you right now Is there any particular type of psychological, counselling or even spiritual perspective you've been able to identify with or found helpful? Psychoeducation and self-help can be a powerful tool to use and if there's a particular perspective you like or prefer maybe you could look into some books or reading? Or maybe others have some some good reading recommendations for you?      ... View more

It can be pretty hard when we take on other peoples pain and worries @scared01 on top of our own. No wonder you're feeling this way. Is there a local psychologist, counsellor or youth group you could engage with?  ... View more

It sounds like things are pretty overwhelming right now  @scared01 and from looking over your below posts it also sounds like you might be feeling unsupported? Can I ask is it day to day stuff that's piling up or do you think something in particular has pushed things over for you? ... View more

I'm sorry to hear this @scared01, was there anything in particular we could help with or that you wanted to chat about? ... View more

I'm here @scared01. I've been off for a couple of weeks though, how have you been? ... View more

Hey @gymnast_24 I'm just about to log off for the night. I hope some of the resources I've listed are helpful and I'll make sure we check in with you tomorrow  ... View more

Also just a note I edited out the more descriptive / graphic details in your post as we try to be mindful of what may trigger other members. For more info on this you can check out our community guidelines here. ... View more

Hi @gymnast_24 It sounds like you're in a pretty vulnerable space right now. I would really encourage you to have a chat to one of the below helplines as they can offer some one-to-one support. Have you ever called one of these services before?   Lifeline 13 11 14 Suicide Call Back Service 1300 659 467   I've also just found a resource on RO "self-help for self-harm" that you might find helpful, it goes through different coping strategies and has some links to further info and strategies. ... View more

Hey @mrmusic I'm sorry to hear you're in this space at the moment. This really is such a personal and subjective process that I'm not sure how much I can help but perhaps it might be worth adding in some smaller reasons that speak to you, kind of like "feeling the sun on my back", "swimming in the ocean", "reading a good book", "watching a sunset" etc   Just remember though that when we're in that dark headspace we can tend to challenge the positives or try to pick them apart rather than finding ways to build them up. Does that make sense? ... View more

As @Asche said there's a lot to unpack here but to me it sounds a little bit like an existential rabbit hole, which can be quite a dark place to find yourself in. I know right now this might sound like I'm not connecting with what you're saying but I think its really important to try and focus your energy on the things that you can do rather than on what can't be done. As I said before these don't need to be major world saving tasks but you can contribute to healing the world by focusing on small goals at first like reducing your waste, maybe trying to live more minimally (there's a whole movement on this out there), joining local environmental groups (where you might find like-minded friends) and researching careers that you feel might align with your passion.  ... View more

No worries @Briglett. Let us know how you go  ... View more

There seem to be quite a few stressors going on for you at the moment @hmm789 and when we're run down and tired they can feel pretty overwhelming. So I've really got to give you some major credit for being able to recognise what was happening for you and for engaging in a positive strategy instead, like coming on RO    You are 100% right, you being able to step back from that is a big step forward. I know it's hard but we grow through what we go through, so if we were to skip past all the negative stuff, we would never be able to get to where we need to be. So just remember to breath, go slowly and make sure you have a list of self-care strategies available to you for when you find yourself in this same space.       ... View more

I would just say exactly what you have here on RO @Briglett and talking to your psych is another good option for you too      ... View more

Hey @Stagnator I think a lot of people have experienced very similar thoughts and beliefs about the world we live in and at times things can feel pretty hopeless. However it may be worth considering that we have the power to channel those feelings and thoughts into making choices to improve things... These don't have to be tackling global warming or consumerism as a whole but it could mean making small everyday choices or maybe working in particular job that aligns with our values and beliefs.   If you could change anything about the world what would it be? And what impact do you think you could have on encouraging that change? ... View more

Hey @ImTired, you've been given some good advice below. I'd suggest perhaps give her some space (be friendly but give her some room) and then when you feel a bit clearer about everything, attempt to focus on rebuilding the friendship first and then go from there... Especially if as you say, she seems to be in a happy space at the moment?   Also I've just noticed you have two very similar threads going for this topic. We tend to try to avoid "cross posting" similar threads, as it can make it hard for people to keep track of the convo and story across two or three pages. I'll pop a link to to the   other thread here   but I'd encourage you to maybe pick which thread you'd like people to focus on ... View more

Hey @ImTired, you've been given some good advice below. I'd suggest perhaps give her some space (be friendly but give her some room) and then when you feel a bit clearer about everything, attempt to focus on rebuilding the friendship first and then go from there... Especially if as you say, she seems to be in a happy space at the moment?   Also I've just noticed you have two very similar threads going for this topic. We tend to try to avoid "cross posting" similar threads, as it can make it hard for people to keep track of the convo and story across two or three pages. I'll pop a link to to the other thread here but I'd encourage you to maybe pick which thread you'd like people to focus on  ... View more

Welcome to RO @Briglett. It sounds like things are pretty challenging at home. Have you contacted your local youth / mental health centre? They may have some programs / resources available to you. You might also like to contact Centrelink to see what your options may be?   This may not 100% apply to you and your situation but RO has some general information on moving out of home here, which you might find helpful. ... View more

It sounds like you're in quite a vulnerable space tonight @redhead, which is understandable considering what you're going through. Do you feel like maybe some one-to-one support through a helpline might be helpful right now?     ... View more

I'm sorry to hear how difficult things have been for you @redhead. It sounds like this week has presented some pretty tough challenges that would be taking a massive toll on you both physically and mentally.    While I wasn't there to hear what the HDU staff said, I'm hoping they may have meant that they had done all they can to heal you physically and that you may need further support that they can't offer to help address what's going on for your mental health?    Either way just know that no one at RO is giving up on you and we are here to listen and support you through this. Are there any self-care strategies you could use tonight to try and help manage the pain and feeling down?     ... View more

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Sometimes it's a good ice breaker to let them know you're a bit nervous. I think you'll do well @Bee. A sleep meditation sounds good and maybe even a meditation just before you go in might be helpful? ... View more