Hey @litgym I'm so sorry to read that you feel like your Mum isn't noticing your cry for help. Are you seeing a counsellor or psychologist at the moment? I'm just thinking they might be able to help you and your Mum's communication about this?   Also in terms of getting you some more support, this is a great RO resource page  and of course if you need some one-to-one support tonight, there are the following helplines, which may also be able to help you with communicating what you're feeling to your Mum    Kids Help Line 1800 55 1800 Lifeline 13 11 14 ... View more

I'm glad the info helped @Blurryphaced and just remember we're here to support you through this  ... View more

Welcome to RO @Blurryphaced and thank you for posting what you've been going through. It takes courage to talk about these things, so I can understand your reluctance in bringing it up with your counselor. However, I think @Loop is right, it's really important to share this because while you may not have any intention to actually harm yourself, it will help them to understand how you've been feeling and the intensity of that feeling. Does that make sense?   I have found some resources about suicidal thoughts here on RO, which you might find helpful in terms of understanding why you may have experienced this, and why it's so important to share this with your counselor. Let us know how you go with the resources and please know we are always here to listen    Also you might notice I just popped a "Trigger Warning - SI" (SI = suicidal ideation) in your thread title, just so people know what we're discussing as it might be a bit triggering for some. ... View more

How about the idea of writing down your questions @Matty D? Then you could show them all to her at once when she's free and able to help you? ... View more

OK fantastic, well at least that helps with reducing your frustrations with being interrupted when your busy @Matty D. I'm sorry to hear you're heartbroken with yourself right now. This situation is a little bit tricky because I can see that you want to be able to give your Mum some space and let her have some personal time but then something might come up for you that you feel you really need to chat to your Mum about? Does that sounds right?   I wonder if you need some advice while your Mum is having her personal time, perhaps, if it's not urgent you could write it down and show it to her after her personal time is finished?  ... View more

Hey @litgym I'm sorry to read you're going through a tough time and forgive me I'm just catching up on this thread, have you booked in to see the psych yet? and I know it's hard in your house at the moment but is there anything self-care wise that you can do for yourself today / tonight?  ... View more

Hey @Matty D that sounds pretty frustrating. Phone calls and texts can feel like quite an interruption when we're busy. I wonder if maybe during these busy times you could put your phone on 'do not disturb', that way if your best friend or anyone calls it will go straight to voicemail and the texts won't come through until you turn off 'do not disturb'?  ... View more

Welcome to RO @the_killers_are_cool and thank you for sharing what you've been going through. It takes courage to share our stories. Just know you're not alone and we're all here to listen and offer our support. It can be really hard when we don't get along with or like our friends, partner. It can make us feel like we're on the outer and can be quite a lonely place to be in. I'm sorry this has happened, it sounds pretty confronting and unsettling.   Do you have some other friends, like at netball that you can chat to and spend time with? You also mention self-harm, have you spoken to anybody about that before?   Also just a quick FYI, I've added a trigger warning to your post and I did edit out some graphic description words related to self-harm, as we try and be a bit mindful that certain descriptions can be triggering for other members. For more info about this, feel free to check out our community guideline here. ... View more

Hey @DruidChild I'm sorry to read that you've been having a tough time lately. I think it's great that you've been able to enjoy dinner, listen to some tunes and watch Brooklyn 99 tonight... Maybe it is worth going in tomorrow, if you're pretty concerned re. the ED stuff, at least then you've chatted to someone about it, had it checked and can go from there  ... View more

You're not alone @Stagnator, I think many of us would have felt both the frustration you describe and the confusion about what will be helpful @Stagnator. As @N1ghtW1ng said there are so many options out there, it can just be a bit of a process to find one that works for you.    With regards to the truth of the situation, or using the right words when chatting to someone, I think just be as open and honest as you can (as you are on here) and overtime the counselor or psych will be able to build up their understanding of not only what's happened but how it's affected and is still affecting you now.  ... View more

I've just read over this thread @roseisnotaplant and I'm so sorry to hear about this loss. It must be really difficult heading back to a school and a community that's grieving such a loss. I guess just try to be gentle with yourself and remember that grief tends to roll over us in waves   I'm not sure if you're up for it but I did find some grief related articles on RO, which may be helpful in understanding the process of grief and how to support yourself and others. ... View more

Hey @Jesssister2001, I don't think you can update you're username, so if you would like to change it, I believe the only way is to re-register under a new member name ... View more

Welcome to RO and thank you for having the courage to reach out @Broken_heart.   Break ups can really feel like such an overwhelming and painful experience and we can really lose our sense of control and self-worth. Break ups are also one of those things where we can offer awesome advice or support to our friends going through them but when we're going through it ourselves, it can feel like nothing works and nothing helps! It really is a bit of a process that takes time and some self-compassion      What might help though is to try and shift your focus from your ex to yourself. So maybe when you're up for it, use this time to work on yourself (emotionally, mentally and physically) and to schedule in all the things you enjoy.   For some more practical help, you might also want to check out RO's "coping with a break up" and the "breakup shakeup" app?   Now this may sound silly but personally, I like to create upbeat, feel good playlists; and yeah at first it feels a bit odd listening to it when you don't feel that way but then all of a sudden you kind of find yourself feeling a little lighter and a bit more energised and empowered!   I wonder if any of our other members have found some good resources (books, movies, apps, activities) for their "break up toolbox" ? @lokifish @N1ghtW1ng @DruidChild @Bee @ErinsAntics         ... View more

As @lokifish @gina-RO said, this is such a powerful and important post @redhead and I think it's really important to acknowledge your courage for sharing @redhead @Eden1717 @lokifish.   It sounds like it can often be quite a scary, confusing and isolating thing to experience   I also think you're right @Eden1717, unfortunately the media, movies etc has perpetuated a lot of myths and unfairly stereotyped people with mental health difficulties, particularly those who have experienced psychosis. This is why posts like these are so important, as they help others to really understand and empathise.   ... View more

Hi @Eden1717. I've left a longer reply over on your new thread but I just wanted to add here a big thank you for your thanks below, it's very much appreciated ... View more

Hi @Eden1717, I've just read your response to @Jess-RO and @Sally-RO on your other thread and I'm so sorry you're in this space of feeling so depleted and on edge. I know it's hard to recognise our strengths and positive qualities when we're feeling like this but please know we regard you as an important and valuable person, who often compassionately supports others  through their tough times, even when you're going through your own tough times I wonder if someone else on RO was going through this experience, what would you say to support them?   And finally, as @scared01 has asked, do you feel you can stay safe tonight? and are you able to chat to your Mum about what's happening for you?         ... View more

That's a hard question to answer @bojack because everyone's journey is so different but it sounds like by coming on here that you're motivated to try and find something that works for you? When you say nothing works, has there been anything that you felt was even a little bit helpful?   I'm about to log off for the night but I'll tag a few of our members for you as they might be able to offer some more support and advice and we'll check in with you tomorrow! @jess1600 @DruidChild @cj123 @Bee @ErinsAntics @lokifish @letitgo     ... View more

Welcome to RO @bojack and thank you for sharing what you've been going through. I don't think what you're feeling is trivial and I'm sure quite a few RO members have felt at their wits end, so you're certainly not alone in that. Also thank you for sending through that your post didn't post correctly. I've fixed this up for you and I've edited some of the more graphic details from the post. For more info on this, feel free to check out our community guidelines here.   With regards to the body image difficulties, a fantastic and more specific resource and helpline (8am to 12pm) is available via the Butterfly Foundation    ... View more

I'm so sorry to read that you're feeling like this @Eden1717. I've just sent you an email, if you could please take a look  ... View more

I can understand why you would be feeling that way @redhead. It can be a bit daunting to know where to start when it's been a while in between sessions. What might help is starting the session by saying exactly what you have below to your psychologist, that way they can maybe ease your concerns a bit and direct the conversation a little bit more?   Whatever happens, we'll be thinking of you and here to support you  ... View more

You will @mrmusic it just takes some time  ... View more

Hey @mrmusic I'm sorry to hear you're having a rough night... I think one thing to try and take on board is that "perfect" is not a very attainable ideal. So really when we equate perfection with being good enough, we're actually (most of the time) setting our expectations so high that we're setting ourselves up for almost certain failure... which then makes us feel like we're not good enough... It's kind of a vicious cycle.    So really it could be working on letting go of your current conceptualization of "perfection". Does that any sense?      ... View more

Welcome to RO @yenka and thank you for sharing what's been happening for you. I'm sure you'll find that loneliness is a very common theme across the forums and a few of our members have felt the same way... Do you chat to a counsellor or psych at the moment?   Also I'll tag a few for you so you can get the support and advice you need @DruidChild @less123321 @scared01 @Bee @mrmusic @Stussy @Bubblycoco ... View more

I just want to reinforce what @DruidChild has said @scared01. Sometimes there's no rhyme or reason to why we're having a rough day / night and sometimes there are reasons or patterns that we just haven't been able to spot yet. They could be hormones, small stressors that have built over time, we could be run down or feeling exhausted... or all of the above. I know I've probably said this before but when we judge our own feelings it can really compound them so working on self-compassion in these moments can be key  ... View more

It didn't come across that way at all @DruidChild. I just figured when I'm in that type of headspace it's hard for me to see the good stuff, if that makes sense? So I just wanted to make sure you knew that you're recognised as an important, supportive and valuable person.   Thanks for letting me know about your safety, I can see the support you're giving @scared01 right now and it really is amazing advice  ... View more

I know you're struggling right now and feel angry and frustrated but I think it's important for you to acknowledge that you while you feel lonely you have made strong valuable social connections here on RO and you have shown you're a compassionate and caring person. I also think that when you're listening to music / podcasts or writing that these things aren't just passive distraction activities? I'm sure there's a sense of enjoyment, relaxation, learning or entertainment there for you?    Importantly I do need to ask @DruidChild do you think you can stay safe tonight? and do you have a safety plan or self-care strategies you could use right now? ... View more

Hey @j95 I know you're in a difficult headspace right now and that the pause on Wednesday will be creating all kinds of anxiety for you but please know everyone here on RO does want the best for you and as @Bee mentioned now is the time to really focus on becoming the best version of yourself and then in no time you'll be back on    Also I hate to do this but it's 10:10pm, so I will have to pop your overnight pause on. If you're feeling like you need extra support tonight @j95 please give mensline 1300 78 99 78, kids helpline 1800 55 1800 or lifeline 13 11 14 a call  ... View more

That's fantastic that you're working on getting some support @j95. You should be really proud of yourself for that, it's such a big positive step forward.    I'm just mindful of time so how about I tag a few members for you as I'm sure they'd like to spend as much time as they can with you @Bee @scared01 @missep @Nightruner23 @mrmusic @LeoTheLion @DruidChild ... View more

Hi @j95 I've just found your agreement and it looks like you are allowed on the GR thread until 10:30pm but nowhere else on the forum. Unfortunately tonight you've kind of strayed off the GR thread though. I realise this is a really hard time for you and I do care about how you feel and what you're going through... As the GR thread isn't really active right now and as a compromise what I'm going to suggest is staying on this thread (and this thread only) until 10:00pm ... View more

Hey @j95 I'm not sure exactly what I can help with. I can see, like @mrmusic that perhaps tonight might be a rough one, so I encourage you to give some of your self-care strategies a go, as I'll need to pop your ban back on for the night as the GR session has wrapped up. ... View more