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Jardin
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11-05-2018
17-07-2019
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17-07-2019
09:44 PM
1 Kudo
Hey @MisoBear and @WheresMySquishy thank you both so, so much for your support and wonderful replies. You guys truly rock.
I will try the great tips and ideas you guys have mentioned.
I will keep trying hard to be better.
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17-07-2019
09:34 PM
1 Kudo
Thanks so much @MisoBear :)
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16-07-2019
09:35 PM
Hey everyone,
its been a while since I have posted anything.
I just had a conversation with my parents tonight about my sister. She has had anorexia for around two years now. They told me she might have to be hospitalized soon.
Some of my closest friends have also had eating disorders. Around a year and a half ago I visited my best friend in hospital. She was so thin that it was even affecting her memory.
I am just so scared. I read an article saying that the more people around you with an eating disorder, the more likely you are to get one yourself.
So many people around me have had them and I am terrified that I will too. Because of this fear I find it really hard to be around my sister. Every time she starts freaking out about food I am scared I will start thinking like this too. I get so fearful that I have to leave the room. I just feel like I can't breathe.
My parents are saying that I really need to support her. And my mum says I should try eating as much as possible in front of her. But how can I support her and eat in front of her when I'm terrified? When I'm scared that I will start thinking/acting the same?
I have struggled with eating at times in the past as well. I don't want to go back to that.
I am probably being selfish. But I just don't know how to answer the questions I have mentioned above.
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02-04-2019
07:39 PM
2 Kudos
Today I practiced self care by going to the gym for a while with some friends. I also brought a book to the library to read during my study breaks.
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02-04-2019
07:35 PM
3 Kudos
I'm proud of myself for moving out of home. I was really scared at first that I wouldn't know how to do anything myself, but I found out that I am more capable than I realised :)
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02-04-2019
07:31 PM
5 Kudos
1. Got to sleep in a bit because I had no classes today 2. Fixed my study chair 3. Got to go to the gym with some friends. Finally could get back into it after being sick for the past two weeks
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02-04-2019
07:27 PM
3 Kudos
Today I'm grateful for my gym membership :) I love doing the classes there (especially Zumba!!)
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12-10-2018
03:55 PM
1 Kudo
Thank you so much @N1ghtW1ng :) I definitely am feeling better now. Though I struggled at first, I have finally have created a study routine! And I am sticking with it (well mostly anyways). I have never really created and followed a study timetable before- so it was quite surprising when I did. I realised that everyone studies a bit differently, so my study time table will probably look different from others in year 12- and that's okay! Once I realised this I was able to create a routine that is suited to me- making it much easier to follow The HSC is so close now- only about 5 days away. I am terrified, but at the same time I am so excited. I am almost there- and summer is almost here
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06-10-2018
01:58 PM
1 Kudo
1. Woke up and watched a bit of a wolf documentary 2. went skateboarding outside 3. watched a video with my sisters and laughed a bit
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06-10-2018
01:54 PM
1 Kudo
Hey @safari93 and @Taylor-RO, thank you so much both for your replies. I am feeling a bit better today. I have been through the resources on reachout numerous times throughout year 12. Watching the videos of people talking about their own experiences of year 12 has been particularly helpful. It's really hard for me to make study plans though. Even when I do make one, I just can't seem to stick with it. Also it takes me quite a while to construct them in the first place. I do have friends that I talk about the HSC with. Like me, they are all just exhausted and want it to be over.
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06-10-2018
05:23 PM
I am really freaking out right now. My HSC is coming up so fast and I just feel really underprepared. My exams all happen within a week (which is pretty fast for the HSC) meaning that I will not really have any time to do study in between my tests. I am so terrified. I have a lot of sleeping issues the night before exams and I am scared this will effect my performance. It just feels like suddenly I have no time left and that I am trapped- unable to stop the HSC coming closer and closer. I just can't seem to get myself into a study routine. I start daydreaming and suddenly 20 minutes have gone by. Also for some reason my legs always ache- and even when I go for walks to stretch them, nothing seems to help. I wish it was just all over already. I am so tired. .
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20-09-2018
09:46 PM
2 Kudos
1. It was raining today, and it was beautiful 2. I got to go to the gym 3. I did a wild dance and made some people laugh
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20-09-2018
09:38 PM
5 Kudos
Hey @annabethxchase, I was just about to make a post about this topic, when I saw your post. I have parents sort of like your friend's- my mother in particular is very controlling, which can be very hard at times. Although my experience probably differs slightly from your friends, I can give you some tips of what has worked for me. I hope they help So in my experience, I found it very hard to change my parent's expectations. They are strict- so they tend to be pretty stubborn too. However, a big thing that helped me was changing my way of thinking. Instead of always saying to myself 'I have to live up to my parents expectations- I don't want to disappoint them' I would remind myself that the most important thing is for me to be happy/proud of me . I would remind myself that I am not studying for my parents- I am studying for me, to build my future. Of course, this can be quite difficult to get in the habit of- especially since parents are a major part of our lives. Naturally we don't want to upset or disobey them. But, I have to say that it is very important for your friend to follow her own dreams and to believe in herself. She should still try to do as best she can with her studies, but rather than making her parents proud, she should aim to make herself proud. I have seen so many people who have simply done what their parents wanted, rather than listen to their own wishes- and it usually does not turn out that well. It is pretty hard to be happy when you are living someone else's (i.e. your parents) life. I just wanted to say that it is so awesome that you are trying to help a friend, @annabethxchase. Great work
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16-09-2018
10:15 PM
2 Kudos
1. Got to go to the gym 2. It was a beautiful day. 3. Laughed with my mum and sister at weird fashion
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13-09-2018
07:56 PM
1 Kudo
ha ha yeah @scared01, I would have to concentrate quite a bit too- especially when I'm just getting the hang of things. Just having the music and TV for background noice is a good idea- I wouldn't want to be in complete silence.
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12-09-2018
08:15 PM
1 Kudo
Do you do it while watching some tv @scared01? If I gave it a go, I would probably catch up on some of my favourite shows while crocheting.
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12-09-2018
08:12 PM
3 Kudos
Thank you so much @LeoTheLion . I agree with you completely- it is very important that I remember to do things just for enjoyment. Sometimes I forget that I am human and need to give myself time to do stuff I like.
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12-09-2018
08:03 PM
2 Kudos
Hey @scared01, those are great suggestions. I have always wanted to try crochetting- maybe now is the time
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10-09-2018
06:48 PM
2 Kudos
Hey @Birdeye, thanks so much for your response . I feel like our experiences are very similar indeed. I can definitely relate to preferring fiction over non-fiction. Also, I agree completely that there is not enough time to read all the brilliant books out there! When I was younger, I also found non-fiction dull and information-heavy - and wondered why people read them as all. Growing up, that thought stayed with me for a while, which I guess caused me to avoid reading non-fiction all together. Lately however, I have found that some non-fiction is actually quite good- and like you I have been much more careful in selecting which non-fiction books to read. I coming to terms now that it is okay to read a book simply for enjoyment. And I think that your approach- allowing yourself to do different things at different times- is great. I guess I'm the sort of person who is all-or-nothing, which can be very unhealthy. So, I hope I can be more like you in the way that you allow yourself to do a variety of things
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10-09-2018
06:31 PM
3 Kudos
Hey @Asche, thanks so much for your reply it has helped me out heaps. I think I often forget that fiction can be educational too. I just read the article you attached and it was wonderful . It has brought up many great points that I hadn't even thought of. Thank you so much! It is also great to find someone else who enjoys reading as much as I do
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08-09-2018
01:58 PM
Hello everyone, sorry that I have been making so many post lately!! Just have been thinking about a lot of different things. Anyways, I just wanted to see if anyone else feels the same way as me. Okay so, I like reading in my free time- but in the past year or so I have stopped myself from reading fiction books because I feel super guilty whenever I do. I just feel bad for reading something that isn't academic/educational- which is silly I guess because the whole point in having free time is to do something you enjoy. Also I guess a part of me is scared too... I am really wary of what influences me. Sometimes I get so into a book that the characters and their mindsets rub off on me. So when a character is super negative in a book I'm reading then I start to feel negative too. I don't know if other people experience this too? I guess I am just influenced easily by others emotions and thoughts. I really enjoy reading fiction (mainly fantasy/sci-fi/supernatural books- I know I am sorta nerdy) but I seriously am doubting whether I should or not. Reading non-fiction is okay I guess- I learn a lot- but I don't seem to enjoy it as much. A part of me feels like I need to grow up- and that I need to stop reading fiction.
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08-09-2018
08:14 PM
1 Kudo
I know I'm sorta late to this chat, but I wanted to answer some of the questions anyways because the final HSC exams are coming up okay so: 5. How are you going to take care of yourself during the end-of-year study-slog? - make sure I get enough sleep (and relax an hour or so before bed) - drink lots of water - stay positive 6. Thinking back to your previous exams, is there any advice you would give yourself? - dont stress too much --> just remember you are trying your best - start early and don't leave things last minute 7. What the best way to celebrate finishing exams? - sleeping - meeting up with friends - enjoying summer :)
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08-09-2018
08:03 PM
2 Kudos
Hey @litgym, thanks for the suggestion I think that will help heaps. I sorta have a sleep routine- I brush my teeth and then hop in bed to read for half an hour or so.
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07-09-2018
07:39 AM
2 Kudos
Hello everyone, I was just wondering if anyone has any tips for: 1. Falling asleep 2. Getting good sleep This past week I have had a lot of trouble with these two things so I was curious if anyone has things that work for them that they can share. These are the things that I have found to help me with sleeping so far: 1. Reading in bed 2. Exercising during the day 3. Drinking a glass of milk before bed 4. Avoiding electronic screens late at night Thanks
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02-09-2018
02:23 AM
2 Kudos
Well I guess this is technically for yesterday since its like 2 am now. 1. went out and had a fathers day brekkie with whole family 2. me and my family helped save a plover's nest (which was located just outside of the restaurant we had breakfast at) - we put flowers and branches around the eggs so that people wouldn't accidentally step on them 3. then we went to go bowling and I almost beat my mum. It was great going bowling, especially since I haven't been for so long.
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31-08-2018
08:36 PM
3 Kudos
Hey @N1ghtW1ng and @Esperanza67, thank you both so much for your replies Sorry I haven't answered for quite a while- I had my HSC trials on the past few weeks and was studying like crazy. I haven't had time yet, but I am definitely going to try a pros and cons list. It sounds like a really great method for making decisions and I think it will help heaps
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15-08-2018
05:50 PM
1 Kudo
Yep @Esperanza67, I think I can definitely relate to over-thinking things. I guess I mull over a decision way to much- even when I don't need to. I know that in order to move forward, wrong decisions are necessary. I just need to stop beating myself up so much when I make them. I think planning a schedule is a great idea I'll try and give it shot.
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11-08-2018
04:32 PM
Hey everyone, I've never started a topic/thread before, so hopefully I am doing it right. Anyways, I posted here because I want some advice/suggestions for decision making. The past few years, Ive found it harder and harder to make decisions. I struggle to make decisions quickly- always terrified I am going to make the wrong choice and there will be no going back. And when I finally do make a decision, I feel extremely nervous that I have chosen the wrong thing. As soon as someone questions or challenges a choice I've made, I immediately loose faith in myself and become so unsure that I end up doing nothing at all. This is especially the case with school work. Often I try to study as much as I can, but lately I have recognised that I need to take breaks to remain productive and motivated. I have started doing more exercise as it helps me focus and I like feeling fit. It is also a great de-stressor from study. However, whenever I ask my parents (particularly my dad) to go to the gym, I feel confident about the decision until they question if I should be studying instead. I know personally that I work better when I get exercise, but as soon as they ask I feel really guilty for taking time off study. This leaves me completely doubting my decision, and I end up either: a) feeling trapped, but staying home anyways to do study. b) going to the gym and feeling really guilty for being there. I just wish there was a way I could be more sure of myself. Its just so hard to tell sometimes if Im doing the right thing. When people (especially parents) challenge me on the choices I've made, I feel really unconfident and feel like Im making bad decisions.
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05-08-2018
09:45 PM
3 Kudos
Thanks so much its a joy being apart of such a great community
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