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Jardin
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12-05-2018
19-01-2021
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19-01-2021
02:59 PM
Thank you @Janine-RO for telling me about these services It makes me feel much better knowing there are other ways to get help besides face-to-face counselling.
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19-01-2021
02:52 PM
Hi @GioDes, Things are going alright - my sister is away at the moment (though she might come back this weekend). I have found something to lock away my things in, which should make me feel better when she's here. I got my car serviced today - finally the aircon is working again! Just in time for summer
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10-01-2021
11:46 PM
1 Kudo
@Macaria I think both the ideas are really great ones I shall try and give them a go
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10-01-2021
11:26 PM
Hey @Macaria I'm actually in uni at the moment, so I don't have a locker :( And yeah, it's hard when my mum wants to pretend that everything is normal when it's not. But to be honest, I can't blame her - I have three sisters and I understand it can be hard when we all throw our problems at her.
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10-01-2021
11:17 PM
Hi @Andrea-RO No, I haven't spoken to a professional about it. Honestly, I think I would feel too embarrassed to talk to someone face-to-face. It just feels like my feelings are so ridiculous. Not only that, but the GPs I go to are pretty bad. Often you are waiting for your appointment for over an hour, and then when you finally get in the appointment has a time limit of 15 mins, so you run out of time to get a referral (and then are asked to come in another time).
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09-01-2021
08:58 PM
Thank you @squiggly and @clarii3105 , the lockbox idea is a good one. To be honest, I really don't think my feelings are normal - or at least, they are too extreme to be normal. I mean I am actually terrified at the thought of my sister sleeping in my room and being around my things. I hate that I feel this way. I hate that it is stopping me from leaving the house. The thing that makes it worse is that my sister will probably be moving home for a couple months. I was so glad when she moved out (a year ago) but now she is coming back. I've had nightmares of her coming back, and now it's coming true. I'm just so scared. I don't know how I am going to avoid her when we are in the same house.
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09-01-2021
07:51 AM
1 Kudo
Thank you @Hannah-RO , @GioDes , @clarii3105 , @squiggly for your replies Yes, I have spoken to my mum about how my sister makes me feel and she is aware of our bad relationship. Unfortunately, she tries to pretend everything is fine and gets angry at me whenever I bring it up. I also know that even if she promised that my sister will stay out of room, she could go back on her word and then lie about it when I got home (she has done similar things in the past). I haven't even tried talking to my dad about it. I already know he would get extremely angry at me and I rather not get yelled at. I really like your suggestions about getting about getting a lock for my door. In fact, I have wanted this for many years. I've asked mum before, but she always replies "don't be silly" or "why would you need a lock?" I think the best I can do at the moment is try to hide everything that is precious to me. I'll ask my my mum again about a lock, but I doubt she'll say yes.
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07-01-2021
11:36 PM
Hi everyone, Basically, whenever my sister is visiting (she currently lives out of home) I get really scared to go out - particularly if I am going to be gone overnight and therefore she might sleep in my room. My sister and I have a bad relationship, and I really, really hate the idea of her being around all my belongings. I know it's paranoid, but a part of me always feels she is going to do something to damage or take my things. She doesn't have a history of stealing or anything, but I feel like she could just do it out of spite. The thought that she might scares me so much, that I am afraid to even leave the house when she's here. It makes it hard to go out and get on with my life. I was wondering if anyone has experienced this or has any insight into why I feel this way? Any suggestions for how to overcome this feeling? Thanks, Jardin
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07-01-2021
11:17 PM
2 Kudos
Hi @Kaylee-RO , yes I am excited to move into the city whether it be with my family or on my own. My family and I have been living out in the country for around seven or eight years now. It's the longest we have ever stayed in one spot. I think the things I miss about the city and am excited about would be visiting friends and shops/malls that are close by.
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06-01-2021
12:14 AM
6 Kudos
Hi everyone, Sorry I haven't been on ReachOut for a while. Thank you @A_Friend , @ayrc_1904 , @Anzelmo , @Macaria , @StormySeas17 , @GioDes , @Hannah-RO so much for your messages To give you all an update: I am still working at my job and in hindsight, am really glad I took the opportunity. Weirdly enough, the more I worked there, the less trapped I felt, and now I quite comfortable and contented at my job. In saying this, I know I am not well suited to my current job but am glad I am giving it a go anyways. I haven't gone back to the doctors for a referral, but I might depending on my mental health (I'll keep an eye on it). On a completely different note, my family could (possibly) be moving to a city in the next year or so (we currently live in the country). I think this would be great. I miss being in the city and having everything close by. Once again, thank you for all the support. Jardin
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09-12-2020
08:47 AM
4 Kudos
Hi @Hannah-RO , Thanks! Yeah I do feel proud of finishing this year of uni and sticking to my degree. To keep on top of things I have found that talking to other people has really helped. I think it is good to get an outside perspective on the situation, especially when you know you are not acting normally. I went to the doctors yesterday. Unfortunately, they were very busy and the doctor I saw was new, so we ran out of time to make a mental health plan and get a referral for a psychologist. They said to make another appointment - so I shall do that soon.
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07-12-2020
09:42 PM
3 Kudos
Hi @Taylor-RO , Yes, I think a psychologist would be a good idea. I talked to my parents this afternoon about seeing possibly seeing one and they agreed. I also had a talk with my mum and my sister which helped, as well as a chat with one of my friends via FaceTime. I am still trying hard to stay positive and not give in to some of my emotions. It's a struggle but hopefully I can stay on top of things tonight and tomorrow before my next day of work. Thanks so much for your suggestions I will try to put them more into practice.
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07-12-2020
05:24 PM
3 Kudos
Hi everyone (I apologize in advance for the long post) At the moment I am really struggling with feelings of being trapped. I am a uni student and am currently on summer holidays. My parents both want me to work over the holidays to save up money (I live at home). I already have saved up a decent amount over the past year and really wanted to use these summer holidays as a break (there's a whole list of books I've been wanting to read). But every time I tell my mother this she says it's not healthy to be at home all the time and that I should keep on saving up money. The thing is I'm perfectly fine with spending time at home - I am not bothered with being alone. Anyways, I began working at a café for a couple of days, but I began getting super stressed out. I had trouble sleeping and felt nauseous and scared. For me, it's not the interacting with people that stresses me out, but rather the feeling of being trapped. Like I have no control whether I work or not. I have realized that this intense fear of being trapped has shown in other areas of my life as well: I struggle to commit to things because I feel like walls are closing in around me, and then I want to back out. This is true for my university degree (I changed degrees twice in one year) and with relationships (I don't like getting to close to people because it feels like I will be trapped in a relationship). I think it really all comes down to control. I really, really hate feeling out of control. And when I feel like I am being trapped, I feel like I have no control over my life and that terrifies me. I had OCD a few years back which I think was also stems from my strong desire to remain in control. I guess the point of this post is to ask if anyone experiences the same extreme fear of being trapped (I mean like to the point where you can't sleep, can't focus on anything else, feel like vomiting)? And also if anyone knows if this is some sort of disorder I am experiencing that I don't know about? How can I stop myself from feeling so utterly terrified? Any help would be appreciated . Thanks, Jardin
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06-08-2019
08:35 PM
3 Kudos
Thank you so much @reach804 and @Claire-RO . You are both so kind-hearted and supportive and I really want to thank you guys. I will look up some free counselling services and do some more Yoga . I am really glad there are forums like ReachOut. They make a huge difference when you have things going on in your life that you find hard to talk about. Thank you to every one who has replied on this thread You are all amazing.
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30-07-2019
06:02 PM
1 Kudo
Thank you @Maddy-RO , @WheresMySquishy and @MisoBear for all your wonderful comments and help I definitely think practice deep breathing should help me. I guess when I am panicking I often forget to breath properly. Also on a side note -- I love Yoga With Adrienne's youtube channel!! I've done a few of her back ones when I gotten a sore back. I think you guys were right when you said I am grieving my sister. I just miss our old friendship so badly. I part of me doesn't know if we can ever have that again. I agree that it's important to acknowledge that the eating disorder is controlling her for now. She's not doing these things willingly. About the councillor... I would really love to talk to someone but I just don't want to cost my parents any extra money. They are already paying a lot for my sister to go see all her specialists so I think I would feel bad to ask them to spend more. Once again guys, thanks you so much for all your tips and support You guys are the best!
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27-07-2019
01:41 PM
1 Kudo
Thank you @Claire-RO
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27-07-2019
11:38 AM
2 Kudos
Hey @MisoBear , thanks so much for asking . I'm sorry I haven't been on Reachout the past week or so- I went to see an Opera with my mum in Sydney- it was heaps of fun! Also I finally got my Ps Things with my sister have been a bit up and down. I have been trying really hard to be a better listener and to comfort her. At times though I get really scared and feel like I cannot breathe. I am trying to get over my fear that by spending more time with her that I will develop an eating disorder too. I know that it is silly, so I am trying to stop feeling so fearful. A part of me is also really scared that the person who my sister was before the eating disorder is gone. I really miss the old her... we used to get along so well. These days she is always on social media and often only talks either about herself or food. I find it so hard to connect to her. It can be really tough at times. But I am really trying my best to help her while looking after myself. Sometimes I don't know whether I am doing the right or wrong things.
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17-07-2019
09:44 PM
2 Kudos
Hey @MisoBear and @WheresMySquishy thank you both so, so much for your support and wonderful replies. You guys truly rock.
I will try the great tips and ideas you guys have mentioned.
I will keep trying hard to be better.
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17-07-2019
09:34 PM
2 Kudos
Thanks so much @MisoBear :)
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16-07-2019
09:35 PM
Hey everyone,
its been a while since I have posted anything.
I just had a conversation with my parents tonight about my sister. She has had anorexia for around two years now. They told me she might have to be hospitalized soon.
Some of my closest friends have also had eating disorders. Around a year and a half ago I visited my best friend in hospital. She was so thin that it was even affecting her memory.
I am just so scared. I read an article saying that the more people around you with an eating disorder, the more likely you are to get one yourself.
So many people around me have had them and I am terrified that I will too. Because of this fear I find it really hard to be around my sister. Every time she starts freaking out about food I am scared I will start thinking like this too. I get so fearful that I have to leave the room. I just feel like I can't breathe.
My parents are saying that I really need to support her. And my mum says I should try eating as much as possible in front of her. But how can I support her and eat in front of her when I'm terrified? When I'm scared that I will start thinking/acting the same?
I have struggled with eating at times in the past as well. I don't want to go back to that.
I am probably being selfish. But I just don't know how to answer the questions I have mentioned above.
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02-04-2019
07:39 PM
2 Kudos
Today I practiced self care by going to the gym for a while with some friends. I also brought a book to the library to read during my study breaks.
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02-04-2019
07:35 PM
3 Kudos
I'm proud of myself for moving out of home. I was really scared at first that I wouldn't know how to do anything myself, but I found out that I am more capable than I realised :)
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02-04-2019
07:31 PM
5 Kudos
1. Got to sleep in a bit because I had no classes today 2. Fixed my study chair 3. Got to go to the gym with some friends. Finally could get back into it after being sick for the past two weeks
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02-04-2019
07:27 PM
3 Kudos
Today I'm grateful for my gym membership :) I love doing the classes there (especially Zumba!!)
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13-10-2018
03:55 PM
1 Kudo
Thank you so much @N1ghtW1ng :) I definitely am feeling better now. Though I struggled at first, I have finally have created a study routine! And I am sticking with it (well mostly anyways). I have never really created and followed a study timetable before- so it was quite surprising when I did. I realised that everyone studies a bit differently, so my study time table will probably look different from others in year 12- and that's okay! Once I realised this I was able to create a routine that is suited to me- making it much easier to follow The HSC is so close now- only about 5 days away. I am terrified, but at the same time I am so excited. I am almost there- and summer is almost here
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07-10-2018
01:58 PM
1 Kudo
1. Woke up and watched a bit of a wolf documentary 2. went skateboarding outside 3. watched a video with my sisters and laughed a bit
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07-10-2018
01:54 PM
1 Kudo
Hey @safari93 and @Taylor-RO, thank you so much both for your replies. I am feeling a bit better today. I have been through the resources on reachout numerous times throughout year 12. Watching the videos of people talking about their own experiences of year 12 has been particularly helpful. It's really hard for me to make study plans though. Even when I do make one, I just can't seem to stick with it. Also it takes me quite a while to construct them in the first place. I do have friends that I talk about the HSC with. Like me, they are all just exhausted and want it to be over.
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