I'm a nah for Valentines day as well. I like to think you can celebrate loving somebody on any day of the year, not just when chocolates and flowers are twice the price! Having spent the day both single and in a relationship, it can be pretty isolating when you're single and full of expectations when you've got a partner. But all for anybody who chooses to celebrate the day :)      ... View more

Hey @ILikeCake,   It's great to hear you're working with your counsellor right now about your worries and it's helping. Have you been able to discuss with your counsellor the worries you have about climate change and the way it's been making you feel?   I just wanted to second what @lennycat2017 said in that climate change is a huge topic! I know it's something that's been on my mind a lot lately and can understand how overwhelming these thoughts can be. Similar to @lennycat2017, when the issue of climate change or other big things in my life pop up, I like to focus on what I can control and what I can do to make a difference. So I focus on using a keep cup and having a refillable water bottle, for example, little things that can be multiplied to have a huge difference. Is this something you'd be interested in doing? ... View more

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This is an awesome thread! It can be really challenging to identify what our strengths are, but is so important!   I have also taken the VIA survey and my top 6 were: Perseverance Honesty Gratitude Kindness Fairness Hope   Which I would consider to be pretty accurate. I am definitely known to utilise the 'just keep swimming' mindset of perseverance and place incredible importance on kindness and inclusivity    Bonus question: can you think of a time/situation where your strengths have/could come in handy in your life?   The strength of perseverance has definitely come in handy over the last few years with my degree! Not sure I'd have made it this far if perseverance wasn't one of my strengths    ... View more

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That's great to hear @BunnyWalks. Please let us know how you get on :)  ... View more

Hey @BunnyWalks,   The hockey team and parties on campus sounds great. How would these activities go for your routine but with some spontaneous elements? Would they be something you could pursue? ... View more

Hey @scared01,   I'm sorry to hear that your request for help didn't go so well today, that's really tough. It's definitely not at all weird to be asking for help, I'd consider it something really normal and necessary!    Have you ever spoken to your doctor/the hospital about being a carer? It may be different where you are, but I know in my area, there are various services available to assist those who care for a family member.  ... View more

Sport has always been a big thing for me, @BunnyWalks, but it's not for everybody. I find sport has a regular training/playing schedule which helps with routine and you often share at least one common interest with the people in your team.    I like the activities you listed. Is one of the activities on your list something you'd be able to accommodate into your routine?   Have you ever researched interest groups in your area? You mentioned you're at University, does your uni offer any clubs or societies that interest you?  ... View more

Hey @scared01, I just wanted to acknowledge how difficult being a carer can be. I know from experience it can be really isolating and tiring at times. Is there a time each day you’d be able to set aside to do something for you? I know for me, my cup of tea before bed helps immensely with unwinding and de-stressing a little.    Do you have any other support around you that may be able to assist with some of your caring responsibilities?     ... View more

How would you feel about choosing a Thursday into the future and working towards going out on that night, @BunnyWalks? ... View more

Hey @peacelovepizza,   Such an important thread! I cannot even imagine spending a full day coding!    I think @scared01's suggestion of stretching during those break that you can't leave the lab is a great one! Getting the body moving a little may help with that restless feeling and give you a break from the screen.    Whenever I take breaks (especially if I've been using a computer for a while), I try and get out in the sun and get moving. If you can't leave the lab though, is running on the spot or doing some star jumps an option?  ... View more

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Another hot day, @scared01!    I hadn't considered how difficult it would be wearing a boot and climbing stairs! Glad to hear you're getting used to it though. How long will you have it on for?  ... View more

I can understand why socialising may not be a priority for you as a student and how it can be anxiety provoking, @BunnyWalks!   You mentioned expenses as one of the reasons you don't prioritise socialising. Is there scope for you to save a certain amount each week until you know you'd be able to afford that night out?    Rushing for a train and making sure you get home on time can be really stressful! I'm not familiar with Melbourne, but would you be able to choose a location that is closer to a train station to reduce some of that pressure? ... View more

Hey @BunnyWalks,   Taking that step out of your comfort zone and being social can be super rewarding, but can also pose some challenges.    Just so I know I'm understanding, are you saying that you want to go out, but find yourself doing other things (such as cleaning or prepping meals) and sometimes feel too anxious to go out? And if you were to go out, ensuring you get home before midnight may be a little difficult if public transport breaks down or runs late?     ... View more

Hey @scared01,    I hope you were able to stay cool in that heat today, 35 is hot!   How have you been finding the boot today? I bet it must feel strange walking in something like that.    As @Taylor-RO said, so pleased you made it through the day. I hope that chilling out before bed helps you recharge a little.  ... View more

So many brilliant photos on this thread! Thought I'd share a couple I took not that long ago. In case the username didn't give it away, sunflowers may or may not be my favourite flower ... View more

So glad to hear you've got a proper boot fitted now @scared01! It certainly is a lot better than nothing, like you said.  I hope you're able to get a bit of rest in between cleaning tomorrow, especially if it's meant to be hot! ... View more

Hey @scared01,   Just wanted to check in and see how you're going today?  ... View more

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Do you have any goals for 2019? Why have you chosen those goals?   My biggest goal for 2019 is to finish my degree (which is huge because I never thought I'd make it past first year). I am keen to see what opportunities are out there once I'm done!   My other goal would be to get back into sport and make a routine of it. I spent most of last year injured so wasn't able to do a whole bunch (and I really missed it!). Now that my injury is well on the mend, it means I can start playing sport again :)      ... View more

Hey @missep,   This would be a frustrating position to be in, especially with one of your closest friends!   While it may be different for your friend, so I apologise if this doesn't ring true with your situation, but I am 100% the friend that cancels on the day every time. For me, even when it's with people I am close to, we make plans and I do want to see that person/people, but leading up to the event, anxiety creeps in and suddenly the thought of making it to the location and being in what is likely to be a crowded place with lots of other people just becomes too much, so I cancel. Generally, it's easier to say you're sick or super busy and cancel, than tell somebody the real reason. The challenge with that scenario is though that you know you'll probably enjoy yourself once you get there and the people I'm with would never know what a challenge it was for me to make it, but getting over the initial hurdles can be too much of a challenge on some days.    Have you ever asked your friend why she cancels? For my situation, I once had a friend confront me about it and I was honest with him. Since then, it's meant that he not only holds me accountable when we make plans, but also checks in before the event to ensure it's not going to be too much.    Sorry if this does not relate to you and your friend, but as the friend that cancels almost 100% of the time, I thought it might be worth sharing from the other side of this predicament!   ... View more

He's recently discovered the wonders of a pillow. So he'll actively seek out a pillow (or something that looks soft) to rest his head on before he goes to sleep ... View more

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Hey @anna_ambushed,   I just wanted to pop back in and see how you're getting on? ... View more

Hey @foodismyfave,   Welcome to ReachOut. Great username by the way!   The others have offered some awesome advice, but I just wanted to pop in as a fellow law student (final year) and acknowledge just how tough a gig completing the degree is, not to mention balancing work, your internship, family and just a general life. One thing I think us law students are programmed to do is go and go and go with little opportunity/encouragement to stop and take a moment for ourselves, but taking these moments is so important!   Are your other friends from within the degree as well? This may be different for you, but I've found since opening the dialogue about mental health with my uni friends, it's enabled us to create a group that offers support to each other, not just one individual (like yourself) supporting all of your friends.    As @Taylor-RO and @Libellule mentioned, do you have anybody you'd be able to share this load with? Maybe some of these friends who are confiding in you could be there to support you too? From what I know, most uni's have a counselling service, would you be interested in contacting them to discuss some ways to deal with the pressure that a law degree brings?   Please let us know how you're getting on.              ... View more

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