Im sorry to hear that @annabethxchase.   I think now is the time to go through your plan and use those active steps to avoid that.  When I felt like self harming I used to go for a run because then I am exhausted and I get all my frustration out. Are you able to go for a run?  ... View more

Super here for this attitude!   I am currently studying psychology and neuroscience and every day I learn something about the human brain that makes me say “huh, that makes so much sense”. The things I learn about neurophysiology make me feel way better about when I’m feeling a little strange. I Feel wayyyy less guilt now, because I know there’s a legit reason for it.  ... View more

@annabethxchase   That’s super cool that you know what helps you though. It took me years to figure it out!    How come you are feeling worse?  ... View more

Today I practiced self care by coming home and spending some time under my weighted blanket. It was a present from my girlfriend to help my anxiety and restless legs. I have only had it for a few days but they have been the best days! ... View more

Hey @missep!   So what I typically do in any situation when I am meeting a friend, I will go do the thing whether they come or not. For example, if we are going to see a movie, I will go even if they cancel.    This way you don't miss out on doing something cool just because they can't make it! Chuck on some headphones and go adventure! Reduces the disappointment by half ;) ... View more

Hey guys! I am a new builder here and it is super cool to see a super open LGBT+ space for discussion. I am 22 years old, and I currently and recently identify as a lesbian.    I have been dating my girlfriend for almost 9 months now - we celebrate our 9-month mark on a plane to Bali where we will spend 10 days in a private villa hanging out with monkeys! So pumped :D We met at our job in I.T. and I chased her for several months before she agreed to date me haha    I came out to my family as bisexual when I was 11 years old (young, I know) and then only dated men until my current girlfriend. I now understand why I was not really sexually attracted to any of the men I dated  ... View more

Hey @annabethxchase Glad to hear you are safe right now. :) Don't hesitate to reach out if you don't feel like you are.    I love swimming when I am not feeling the best. I think the sensation of water around me is not only refreshing and distracting from negative thoughts, but actually makes me feel super free and light. This often translates into an emotional "weightlessness" for me which is super cool.    Is it like that for you? Why do you like swimming? ... View more

Hey @Lostinthislife. How are you feeling today?   I'm sad to say this but I am familiar with this kind of situation. I, myself have been in one too many emotionally abusive relationships and it has taken me many years to gather up enough courage and learn my self worth in order to remove myself from them. It is especially hard to leave when you love the other person and have spent so long together - that was always why it took me so long to leave.   A big thing that helped me was finding stability in other parts of my life, such as uni and work and finding good friends. This started to slowly build my self-confidence and eventually made me realize that I love myself enough that I will not tolerate this kind of thing anymore. Nothing but healthy, supportive relationships from now on.   An important thing to remember is that you are not responsible for anyone's safety or wellbeing besides your own. I am familiar with the threats of self-harm and I know how stressful they can be, but that is exactly what they are trying to achieve.    Have you tried speaking to a professional (psychologist, counsellor) about this? If you feel unsafe, there are services out there to protect you both from others and yourself (lifeline and the police are a few good ones). Your local police should be able to inform you about protection from someone else should you need it.     I hope this helps! Happy to chat more if you would like :) Sending hugs x ... View more

Hey @keezeik!    How are you going with this? If you are still struggling, don't be afraid to reach out! I know it is hard being away from help (I have my psychologist on speed dial!) but the forums can be a safe space to chat until you are home.    Sending positive thoughts! ... View more

My dad was born in Zimbabwe when it was still Rhodesia haha  I have very vague, beautiful memories as a baby of the place ... View more

Hey guys!    So I was born in Australia but my family is Israeli, so I moved there when I turned 18!  I was raised Jewish but now I am more Jew-ish than anything! Still love the culture and the spirit, not so much the religion part. :) ... View more

Hi Guys! New builder here. Thanks for the warm welcome :)   Do you have any new year traditions (eg. have a new year party, glitter bomb friends)? No, not really. But I love to spend it with my friends and family. This year I spent it with my twin sister, my partner and her brother and his partner. We played Dungeons and dragons (my first time) and it was actually super cool! How do you keep yourself cool in summer? I go to the beach when I can cause I live kind of close! What's your favourite summer snack? Watermelon and fetta cheese... it's amazing! What's the strangest experience you've had on holidays/break? I spent a month living with my partner interstate. Was strange in the best way! What's one thing you're looking forward to in 2019? I am looking forward to my third year of university! Starting with a neuroscience unit, it is going to be super interesting and busy I hope ... View more

Congrats on actively making a plan to help out future you! Sometimes when things get hard it can be tough to find ways to help yourself and having options written out in advance is such a cool idea :) ... View more

Right now I am super hungry and excited for dinner after a day of work! Also trying to cool down in this heat  ... View more

Today I practiced self-care by having a hot shower and blasting my favourite music.  This is one of my favourite ways to de-stress after a long day at work! Also, you can never go wrong with a cup of tea! (or several) ... View more