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I had an important conversation I needed to have with someone and I wasn't sure how it would go but now we are both on the same page and things can start to improve!  ... View more

@scared01 Your circumstances are yours. Try to remember you owe no one an explanation for having a different story. We're all living our lives, contributing what we can when we can and it's always different. Having a degree doesn't always bring happiness. The daily acts of love can sometimes mean so much more. Being happy with who you are and what you do matters too.    What is is the worst thing that could happen if you did try something new? Yes you care for people and I'm not suggesting you abandon that but it's your life. If there's something  you've always wanted to try, go for it! As a silly example, one day I took a deep breath and introduced myself to people in a lecture and started a conversation. For years I'd struggled to do it. Give it a go and see what happens! 😄 ... View more

@mrmusic I'm sorry if that sounded condescending. Sometimes I don't express things as well as I'd like. I'm sorry I don't have any suggestions regarding how to cope In public but good luck! 😄 ... View more

@Jay-RO Yes I did. It seems to be fine now. Thanks for your help. 😄 ... View more

@mrmusic I've experienced the meltdowns you describe for years. They really can be very inconvenient and frustrating. Have they ever happened in public? What has helped for your autistic meltdowns? Could you use the same strategies? Have you been tested for any medical conditions which could cause these symptoms? I'd have a chat to your GP and psychiatrist. They could arrange some tests to see if there's anything physically causing your symptoms.    I find I cope better if I can control the physiological sensations caused by the anxiety as soon as they hit(through deep breathing or talking myself through what's happening at a biological level) rather than waiting for them to manifest completely. I also ackowledge the other person's views straight away so we can focus on compromising on the solution. often people simply want what is best for us and it helps immensely to expresss this openly so they see you are willing to accept that although things may not go your way, you are still willing to adjust your expectations between what you want to happen and what is practical.    obviously there are times it doesn't work.    When it it happens, I apologise, give a reason and come up with a plan to minimise their frequency and duration in the future. Over time, it happens less and less and you also get better at dealing with it and identifying triggers. Some days you will feel you will never get them under control but with patience it'll happen. I don't have the answers for what will work for you. That's for you to decide as every situation is different and we all have different needs and resources available to us.    I hope you get some answers as soon as possible.  ... View more

1. Saying hello and introducing myself to people today  2. Writing an email requesting what I need and not feeling bad about it.  It may not work but at least I tried and the words flowed better this time!        ... View more

Feelings are neutral. It's our perception of them that make them good or bad. Feeling like disengaging is understandable. Health care settings are tough to work in as you know and if you've experienced any form of trauma as a patient and not had space to work through it, it's easy to think you'll never make it in a health career. Yet you survived such experiences and the skills learnt enable you to help others cope with such experiencs of their own. What that looks like is up to you but you know what works for you. Take those ideas and use them to help others. Prolonged trauma caused by miscommunication around quality of life and values is not something that is talked about much and it should be. Feel free to disregard this but have you thought of writing a blog or guide of how you want things to look? You write very well.    I'm grateful you brought this up. It's an important topic. ... View more

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For me, the future is full of possibility. The way I see it, there are challenges but the process of going through them creates a sense of achievement even if we can't see it at the time. It's possible to have joy too- especially if you learn to laugh in the face of challenges. It gives you space to breathe.    Future unknowns can be daunting to face without a space to voice concerns but you've made a plan of how you'd like things to look which means there's a part of you that believes things will improve for the better. Hold onto that. Believe in yourself. You haven't got this far without caring about something and remember, a lot can change in a year.   One last thought: Have you considered working in a GP's clinic part time @DruidChild?  Your tutors would have  suggestions If you are up to asking them. Nurses are always in demand. You'll find something to suit you.          ... View more

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cooking from scratch again and experimenting with new spices  ... View more

Christmas Very Bright In Australia    P H P V H  ... View more

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Finding the Christmas ornaments I needed  ... View more

Ouch @redhead! I’ve had one of those- they are so painful! I’m glad they found it so it can be treated before it bursts if it hasn’t already. Has anything helped ease the pain? I found heat packs helpful. Are you able to have someone supportive with you when the doctors speak to you?  ... View more

Placing a wet cloth or ice pack on your neck can provide some relief from the nausea. Would you be able to tolerate anti nausea meds in wafer form? I find I can tolerate them better than capsules. Talk to your doctors and see. I hope it’s a option for you @redhead. I hope too that tonight and tomorrow are as good as they can be.  ... View more

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Getting to a place where you can acknowledge and accept the role played by both sides as you have, isn't easy. The fact you can do so is something you should be proud of @minakshi1. It can take years to accomplish and some things are just unforgivable even if you can move on and that's nothing to be ashamed of.    I smile and say hello if I happen to see the people who bullied me. It doesn't happen often but by being pleasant, it shows that you can be the better person. What they did was petty but reflects more on their character than it does yours and unfortunately, they are unlikely to change once they've left school. Moving on can be difficult but try to remember that regardless of how unpleasant it was, they can't hurt you. The events are in the past and you've made the choice to move on. How you do that is up to you but it will take time and patience. There will be good days and bad but it may only take one person to consistently show you that you are worthy of respect and care to enable you to change the ingrained beliefs created by the bullies. Take one day at a time and trust you'll get there. One day you will.  ... View more

Life Now Just Eases Somewhat   K I T P N  ... View more

Paper calendar    roses or tulips?  ... View more

Yes   As in agreeing to a friend's request for dinner to help avoid isolation  ... View more

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asking questions rather than getting angry when I found out how busy the next few weeks are going to be     ... View more

1. Making chocolate crackles  2. Packing for our holiday 3. The Christmas concert on the weekend  ... View more

@MemphisBelle That was rude of your friends to swear at you. Has your anxiety been bad when playing with them before? Sometimes, if it's the first time people see a panic attack or something similar, it can be difficult to know how to react and the reaction that does occur isn't always the most helpful. RO has fact sheets on anxiety and things which could do to help you if you want to give them some suggestions so they know how to help if it happens again. If you aren't comfortable explaining what happened, is there another group you could play the game with?  ... View more

What sort of camp is it @Dleehy2002?    Challenging yourself can be fun. Mistakes are made as you learn new things about yourself but that's part of the experience and can beneficial in other areas of life because the skills you lean in one experience can help in another. Once you've been to camp, you'll be able to see how you coped so when you have another opportunity to challenge yourself, you'll be able to remember this experience and be more confident in yourself.    Being nervous is understandable but  your determination to make it a positive experience will help you through it. The best case scenario of everything going well is more likely to be a reality than you think but if it doesn't go to plan, there are always going to be other opportunities.      ... View more