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18-12-2018
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18-12-2018
02:25 PM
1 Kudo
Ouch @redhead! I’ve had one of those- they are so painful! I’m glad they found it so it can be treated before it bursts if it hasn’t already. Has anything helped ease the pain? I found heat packs helpful. Are you able to have someone supportive with you when the doctors speak to you?
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17-12-2018
06:42 PM
Placing a wet cloth or ice pack on your neck can provide some relief from the nausea. Would you be able to tolerate anti nausea meds in wafer form? I find I can tolerate them better than capsules. Talk to your doctors and see. I hope it’s a option for you @redhead. I hope too that tonight and tomorrow are as good as they can be.
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13-12-2018
11:36 AM
Getting to a place where you can acknowledge and accept the role played by both sides as you have, isn't easy. The fact you can do so is something you should be proud of @minakshi1. It can take years to accomplish and some things are just unforgivable even if you can move on and that's nothing to be ashamed of. I smile and say hello if I happen to see the people who bullied me. It doesn't happen often but by being pleasant, it shows that you can be the better person. What they did was petty but reflects more on their character than it does yours and unfortunately, they are unlikely to change once they've left school. Moving on can be difficult but try to remember that regardless of how unpleasant it was, they can't hurt you. The events are in the past and you've made the choice to move on. How you do that is up to you but it will take time and patience. There will be good days and bad but it may only take one person to consistently show you that you are worthy of respect and care to enable you to change the ingrained beliefs created by the bullies. Take one day at a time and trust you'll get there. One day you will.
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12-12-2018
01:48 PM
Yes As in agreeing to a friend's request for dinner to help avoid isolation
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12-12-2018
01:33 PM
1 Kudo
asking questions rather than getting angry when I found out how busy the next few weeks are going to be
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12-12-2018
01:23 PM
2 Kudos
1. Making chocolate crackles 2. Packing for our holiday 3. The Christmas concert on the weekend
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12-12-2018
01:09 PM
1 Kudo
@MemphisBelle That was rude of your friends to swear at you. Has your anxiety been bad when playing with them before? Sometimes, if it's the first time people see a panic attack or something similar, it can be difficult to know how to react and the reaction that does occur isn't always the most helpful. RO has fact sheets on anxiety and things which could do to help you if you want to give them some suggestions so they know how to help if it happens again. If you aren't comfortable explaining what happened, is there another group you could play the game with?
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12-12-2018
12:45 PM
1 Kudo
What sort of camp is it @Dleehy2002? Challenging yourself can be fun. Mistakes are made as you learn new things about yourself but that's part of the experience and can beneficial in other areas of life because the skills you lean in one experience can help in another. Once you've been to camp, you'll be able to see how you coped so when you have another opportunity to challenge yourself, you'll be able to remember this experience and be more confident in yourself. Being nervous is understandable but your determination to make it a positive experience will help you through it. The best case scenario of everything going well is more likely to be a reality than you think but if it doesn't go to plan, there are always going to be other opportunities.
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26-11-2018
05:45 PM
3 Kudos
1. Had a delicious cup of tea waiting for my appointment 2. My next appointment is booked so I don't have to worry about it! :) 3. I have 2 new treatments to try that will enable me to stay hydrated and functional in the heat! :)
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20-11-2018
08:13 PM
7 Kudos
1. Completing my exam 2. Advocating for myself at my appointment
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16-11-2018
04:53 PM
@gina-RO Learning to accept help is hard. It means accepting that it might work and things will get better. This is definitely a good thing for both you and the people around you but also scary too. In some ways, staying angry was easier. If I remained angry, I didn't have to think about the impact it was having on family or friends or how much they were helping to keep my life running. If I thought about that, it would mean acknowledging I was taking things for granted. I hate that. I wanted to regain control. The easiest way to start was with gratitude. I've always been grateful for my life and been thankful for all the help I receive. I thank people for everything. It's just who I am.
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16-11-2018
04:09 PM
2 Kudos
Neg: trying to make the appointment for the scan was stressful. I kept repeating the wrong body part. I feel so stupid! pos: I was caught off guard because the scan isn't in a place I'm familiar with and there were several options of available times to choose from. The receptionist was very understanding and I have all the info I need. As awkward as it may have been, I'm likely to need more of these scans and since it's done at _____, I'll have more accurate info about where things are which is a good thing! Neg: Why do I feel so tired and sore? It was just a phone call! Pos: Calls are getting easier and I can relax knowing I've done what I needed to do
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16-11-2018
10:32 AM
1 Kudo
@litgym I love the shading. You've drawn the angles of the sails well too. They aren't easy. It's good :)
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16-11-2018
10:21 AM
2 Kudos
I haven't been around for the past year. There have been so many hurdles in all areas of my life that I couldn't keep up with, so after a few attempts, I stopped trying. Initially, I'd hoped the hurdles would go away, even though past experience had told me that wouldn't happen unless I actively did something about it. Doing things to help yourself is necessary and important for self esteem but the changes I was making were so different to anything I'd ever dealt with that I wanted some outside acknowledgement for any effort I made. When it wasn't consistent, I felt angry which resulted in me abandoning my attempts to try. I hate being trapped by challenges and negativity. I realised I had 2 options. I could either let my attitude continue to wear me down and keep me angry or I could use the help that had been offered to me and see what happened. If it worked, great. If not, I'd lost nothing and gained a sense of pride that I'd been proactive and tried to improve things. I chose to accept the help that had been offered to me. Initially I was worried it would be pulled from under me but I realised I couldn't live in fear of whether that would happen. I made mistakes along the way. When I found that my world wouldn't collapse despite the mistakes, I began to regain some confidence which helped me continue to try. Eventually we found things that worked, I discovered a love of drawing and watercolour and I'm finally beginning to feel like myself. Feeling like myself doesn't mean things aren't still hard. I'm still muddling my way though life with varying degrees of success, but the most important thing is I'm not afraid to ask questions nor am I paralysed with anxiety over how I'll cope if things fall apart. I have been discouraged but I've also been listened to, comforted and supported when it all gets too much, which it does sometimes. Everyone can relate to that. We all live through the good and the bad in our lives. We live through it because of the things we have some control over and the things that make us who we are. I know I'm not alone in this experience but that's hard to see when you're in the midst of it. I hope this can help others in some way. If you'd like more details on how I got to this point, feel free to ask.
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14-11-2018
09:17 AM
2 Kudos
Thanks for the feedback @scared01. I hadn't thought of that. I'm glad the timing has worked out so you can get it done sooner rather than later. Have you had a chance to work on the blanket? Crochet and I don't get along- it's hard with limited dexterity!
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13-11-2018
10:14 AM
1 Kudo
@lokifish I haven't laughed so hard in a long time. It's truly the best medicine- thank you!
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13-11-2018
10:06 AM
2 Kudos
That's perfectly fine @scared01. Juggling ongoing medical appointments/tests alongside the tasks of everyday life can be difficult and draining, especially since your schedule isn't you own a lot of the time. What support do you have available to help you after the surgery? Would staying in hospital to help get you back on your feet be a possibility? Talk to the specialist/surgical team and social worker and see what can be arranged. Long appointments can be challenging both emotionally and physically as its hard to stay focused whilst keeping emotions at bay but they also allow you to really go over everything and clarify things which is a huge help. How are you feeling about the surgery? How did you go with 'question builder', was it useful? I hope the wait isn't too long and surgery goes as smoothly as possible. You're doing a good job of handling everything, try to go easy on yourself :)
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