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originally posted on 26-03-2015 10:45 PM
Heya. Despite reminding myself everyday this was on, I still forgot. 😕
Let's talk about 'healthy relationships'. What is a 'healthy relationship' and how would you know if you are in a healthy or unhealthy relationship? What should you expect from a partner in a healthy relationship?
For me, a healthy relationship is when there is respect for both people involved in the relationship. There is no one being dominent or submissive. People are equal.
Just from my past experience, comparing 2 relationships, I noticed that they were completely different. Of course there was some aspects to the healthier one that was still unhealthy, like needed to know where I was, but it was different in that he wasn't forcing me to be somewhere I didn't want to be. He listened to me, and respected me as a person. And I think the lesson I learnt from the healthier one was what it is like to be respected in the bedroom.
There are many warning signs about an abusive relationship and I'm pretty sure there was an infographic posted on a GR or INFOBUS in the past.
My entire life can be described in one sentence: It didn't go as planned and that's okay. ツ
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originally posted on 26-03-2015 10:30 PM
In Healthy relationships, people arerespectful
communicative
empathetic
trusting
Plus you
feel free to speak your mind'
both have your own space
it's all about balance!!
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originally posted on 26-03-2015 10:28 PM
Something I always think about is that stuff at the start of a relationship that can feel like someone really cares about you, but really it could be warning signs that this could be heading towards an unhealthy relationship... I'm thinking about- the person gets too serious very quickly about the relationship
- they want to know where you are all the time
- jealousy
- does favors that you don’t want / puts on such a show of generosity that it feels uncomfortable
- wants to be with you all the time/calls you /texts all the time
- attracted to vulnerability
One of those things on their own might not be so bad - but combined is a definite warning sign (if thats true for you you can contact 1800 RESPECT)
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originally posted on 26-03-2015 10:31 PM
I think those are some great warning signs to look out for! Ive dated someone who acted just like this! I wish i'd known earlier to look out for this stuff
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originally posted on 26-03-2015 10:38 PM
We have shared a bunch of links and resources with you, (hopefully) theres two more I want to add..http://theline.org.au/
All about healthy relationships.
And keep in mind that you can get a medicare card at 15 so if you want to do that the link is below...
http://www.humanservices.gov.au/customer/services/medicare/medicare-card
One more thing, there is a youtuber, Laci Green, may not be the most scholarly or credible source in terms of school or anything, but she has some great info on consent and sex and relationships, and its really worth watching if you are interested 🙂
https://www.youtube.com/user/lacigreen
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originally posted on 26-03-2015 10:41 PM
Just wanna say thank you to everyone for making my very first ReachOut forum so much fun! Thank you ReachOut for having us, (and for making my picture green, how did you know it was my favourite?).- Mark as New
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originally posted on 26-03-2015 10:43 PM
Stay healthy and safe everyone, and try to be open to talking about sex, its not taboo, its a wonderful part of human life. Night everyone! 🙂
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originally posted on 26-03-2015 10:43 PM
@Fox ring it did that to me too when i joined... so weird haha
thanks all! was a bit of a quiet one but it was good 🙂
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originally posted on 26-03-2015 10:41 PM
laci green is great!! Online Community Manager
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originally posted on 26-03-2015 10:47 PM
@Sophie-RO wrote:
laci green is great!!
I love her youtube channel!
My entire life can be described in one sentence: It didn't go as planned and that's okay. ツ
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originally posted on 26-03-2015 10:37 PM
Well, what a great chat we had tonight! Thanks so much to everyone for your great contributions - and especially to @Fox ring and @rose1234 from YEP CREW!!!!
Tonight we talked about technology as part of all our relationships, romantic or otherwise and how there are new and different things to think about in the digital age to keep ourselves safe and supported. We agreed that anonymous chats online can help us to talk about sex and sexual health because it can sometimes be hard. We also talked about what a safe relationship online looks like and how you can talk to your partner about sharing information about you and/or your relationship through social media - which can be part of negotiating boundaries more generally. Though we agreed that talking about condoms, contraception or sex can be awkward but it is important. We looked at the implications of nude pics or sexting And we finished up with defining 'healthy relationships'.
You guys are best I always feel so energised after these discussions. Thanks everyone!
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originally posted on 26-03-2015 10:39 PM
Thanks for a great chat everyone 🙂- Mark as New
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originally posted on 26-03-2015 10:42 PM
Thanks for all your thought provoking opinions and perspectives 🙂
I wish you all safe sex and healthy relationships!
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originally posted on 26-03-2015 10:38 PM
Any last comments everyone??? Or just say GOOD NIGHT!!! Online Community Manager
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originally posted on 26-03-2015 10:30 PM
Very true Sophie, but I would also add dependance onto that list, no one person should be completely dependent on another, especially at the very start of a relationship.- Mark as New
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originally posted on 26-03-2015 10:22 PM
In a healthy relationship you can have fights but still get through them, being comfortable in anything and everything, be able to communicate and have trust but also be able to be honest without hurting the other person, i think only you could know if you were in an unhealthy relationship because you know what you are going through, like if you were constantly down because of the other i would try and get out of that relationship- Mark as New
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originally posted on 26-03-2015 10:26 PM
I think its important not to squash your wants, needs and aspirations together with your partners too much. I think when you can totally adore each other and still maintain a sense of yourself as a complete individual, thats a great relationship- Mark as New
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originally posted on 26-03-2015 10:25 PM
In a healthy relationship you feel safe and free to be you.
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originally posted on 26-03-2015 10:27 PM
I agree with you both j95 and rose1234 you should be your own person, be individual, you should be able to keep a sense of self and not feel the need to be whoever you're partner wants you to be.- Mark as New
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originally posted on 26-03-2015 10:25 PM
I agree with most of that dreamer95, only because I think sometimes relationships can be unhealthy without realising for a long time. Coercion/manipulation is very powerful, and often very subtle and unnoticed.- Mark as New
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originally posted on 26-03-2015 10:27 PM
Very true Fox ring, sometimes people don't know but that's why i would hope that they have good friends and family that could try and help them through those times or even show them what may be happening- Mark as New
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originally posted on 26-03-2015 10:29 PM
Dreamer95, very true, everyone deserves good friends and family who love, accept and can see when you don't have what you deserve.- Mark as New
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originally posted on 26-03-2015 10:08 PM
so true @Fox ring its those sort of things that come in handy, just in case.
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originally posted on 26-03-2015 10:04 PM
Definitely sad and emotional dreamer95, but it does hit home, and it does its job.- Mark as New
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originally posted on 26-03-2015 10:07 PM
Sometimes if my boyfriend doesn't automatically put a condom on, i will just say, "honey i really want to have sex so i'll grab you a condom from my drawer" and then ill put it on for him so we don't lose the moment too much!
