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Hey whoever is reading this,
I just broke up with my boyfriend last night, and i'm upset, because i'm really gonna miss having that comfort there for me 24/7.
I'm actually a little bit scared. Because he has always be there for me and i've never really just had myself.
Like i'm already missing him. I broke up with him because i felt like it was quite a toxic relationship and he had hurt me in the past and i really just couldn't get past it. I'm also at a really important part in my life and i need to focus on myself and learn to love myself, because i really don't at the moment. So i ended it, and he was really respectful and understood. But it makes me question whether i made the right decision. My parents and friends think i definitely.
I do have an awesome family and they say they are always there, but it's just so different. Like i can text my mum and say i'm feeling so bad today i just want a hug. Because they wont think i'm focusing on my schooling. As i am in yr 12 and its such an important time for me to do well. I just feel confused, lost, sad and scared.
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Hey, I am sorry to hear that. I recently went through a breakup myself with my girlfriend dumping me. It will be hard at first but what I used to have to help me at the moment is talking to friends and all my family. Also, do not hold back the emotions, if you need to cry, then cry. Breakups are hard and they can truly bring out the saddest in you. Try and focus on yourself and always reach out. I am in that same boat as you @Page and it will be a bumpy ride but we'll get through it.
I hope things get better for you and who knows you might meet your future love of your life
Hi @Page its nice to hear from you again 😊 Gosh, break-ups are so painful, and having happened just last night I can only imagine the heaviness in your heart today. Missing your ex and wondering if the break-up was a mistake is a completely normal thing to experience. Despite the reason for the break-up, that person was at some stage a very important person in your life, and it can be difficult to comes to terms with losing them. This also makes it really normal to feel a bit lost after a break-up, because you have to learn to navigate life without them. Overcoming a break-up can definitely take time, but these feelings won't last forever.
It sounds like you made your decisions based on what is best for you, which is always the best option to choose. Though it's not always easy to hear, hearing out your friends and family opinions can sometimes be helpful, as they tend to notice the red flags in the relationship that you may have been unconsciously blocking out.
You mentioned that it can be a bit difficult to open up to mum about this. I wonder if sharing how you're feeling might help her to understand that you could really use her support at the moment? If not mum, is there anyone else you would feel comfortable to speak to?
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