I feel like I'll never find love.
After several disastrous relationships and regretful one night stands, I've finally accepted the fact that I'm asexual. I've come out to my siblings and I'm not ashamed to tell people that I'm ace. I decided that I'm ready to go back to the dating scene and now I feel hopeless. I went out with a guy last week and very specifically told him about my asexuality and what ut all entailed. We had a good time over all but after everything he asked if he could kiss me and I told him no. On the train ride home I just ended up spiralling in guilt and disappointment. I feel like I'll never find love, maybe not in this lifetime.
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Hey there @notouchy 
You have already taken a large step in embracing your own identity by accepting it, telling it your family, and say it to other potential significant others.
Trying to navigate dating life as an asexual might be more difficult compared to other sexuality, but it is not impossible. And it does suck that the guy you had went out with didn't understand your position, hopefully you would be able to find someone who would truely understand your sexuality, emotions, and feelings. Remember, in the process of finding love, you should always know that your emotions and feelings are valid.
Try to view it in another way, it was a pity for the guy that missed the opportunity to start a relationship with you. There is always more fishes in the sea. You got this! Remember to talk to us whenever you need to.
Hope this would help.
Welcome! I want to commend you on embracing your identity and being open about your asexuality with your siblings and others. That's a big step, and it shows a lot of strength 💜
I completely understand why you're feeling disheartened after your recent date. Navigating the dating world as an asexual person can be challenging, especially when it feels like your needs and boundaries aren't fully understood or respected. It's important to remember that your feelings and boundaries are completely valid. You deserve a relationship where you feel comfortable, respected, and valued for who you are.
The feelings of guilt and disappointment after your date is a natural reaction, but it's crucial to be kind to yourself. It sounds like you were clear about your asexuality and your boundaries from the start, which is an important step in finding a partner who truly understands and respects you. It's not easy, but it's necessary for building the kind of relationship you deserve.
Finding love might take time, and that's okay. There are people out there who will appreciate and respect your asexuality. It might just take a bit longer to find them. In the meantime, try to focus on self-care and continue to connect with supportive friends, family, or asexual communities who understand what you're going through.
You're not alone in this journey.
Sending you lots of support and positive vibes. You've got this! 💜
Hey there @notouchy  👋 welcome to the ReachOut community! It's lovely to have you here 😊
It sounds like you've taken some courageous steps towards understanding and embracing your asexuality. That can take enormous courage and self-awareness. I'm really sorry to hear about your recent dating experience. I can see how that would have been incredibly disheartening after being so open about your asexuality.
Navigating the dating scene as an asexual person can certainly come with its own set of challenges, especially when it comes to communicating your boundaries and needs to potential partners. Remember, you're not alone in navigating these challenges, and it's important to find a partner who respects and understands your boundaries, even if it takes time to find that person.
It's great that you were upfront with the person you went out with last week about your asexuality and what it means for you. It shows that you are committed to being real and true to yourself in your relationships. It’s disappointing that this particular guy seemed to not have understood or respected your needs in return.
While it might feel hard at the moment, try not to lose hope completely. Take your time with dating, keep being true to yourself, and remember that it's all about finding someone who respects and appreciates you for who you are.
I also wanted to share a couple of threads on here that I thought you might be interested in. We had a guest come on and share their tips for acing asexuality here, and we also have a thread dedicated to the Asexual/Aromantic Community here. Feel free to check these out and join in on the convo if you feel like it!
Thanks for reaching out and sharing your experience with us here, we are here for you 💜
