Is this reaction normal
So I have liked a girl for a while now. She is straight/female I am bi/male. I was/am crushing on her hard and making it (accidentally) very obvious. I told a few people including one of my friends. My crush then asked him if I liked her. By this point I had liked her well over a year and people were starting to catch on. We were close friends (and I mean close) anyway, my friend said told her of my affections and I don’t blame him. I had dragged it out too far by this point and he wanted me to get it over and done with.
So she knew and I freaked out, less that I thought I would but I still hyperventilated and had a mini panic attack. I managed to convince the teacher that I had something bad for lunch and when to the bath room to splash water on my face. At the end of the lesson I embraced it and just when to my usual spot and sure enough my crush was there and she ignored me. Usually she would say hi and ask me what class I was coming from. I tried to pretend nothing had happened and simply said hi and something I can’t remember to witch she responded “oh yeah” in a lazy voice whilst giving me a scowl. That was the last time we spoke and now the holidays are over and she is ignoring me, to her I am invisible. And yet, every time I look at her in class she is looking at me.
I don’t know if I even like her any more. Is refusing to speak and starting a common thing for a girl to do. I am roughly half way through high school if age helps understand. I don’t want to date her anymore but I still like her or at least don’t not like her.
Idk if any of this helps understand but thanks for reading
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Thank you for sharing you experience with us, It sounds like you are going through a very confusing time right now. I hope that you were okay after your initial mini panic attack/hyperventilation. I think you did a good thing by taking yourself a side to calm yourself down and recover.
Regarding the girl, its unfortunate that she has not been communicating with you and I understand how frustrating that must be. Are you able to talk to any friends that you have that is mutual to get a better understanding of the situation? There are also times that people just need space and It may be best to just continue to give her time until she is ready to talk to you.
I hope you are doing well ❤️
Wow, @Cobalt_is_cool that sounds like a very tricky situation. Especially considering it was your friend who told her, and not you.
I think situations like this are always a bit awkward, and it might take some time before things settle down. It's hard to know how she might feel about the situation unless you talk to her though I suppose. Do you think it's worth taking the time to have a conversation with her, to clear the air? Then maybe you can work together to decide whether you can continue your friendship, whether she might need some space, etc. and let her know your feelings.
I can imagine it's all pretty confusing and it's okay to feel out of sorts for a while.
