originally posted on 17-08-2015 9:34 PM

It's not my fault I'm not embarrassed by natural bodily functions and can talk about them out in the open. Hahaha.

I know what you mean @copse it is kind of like ... wha???? Just be yourself 24/7 no matter the company.

originally posted on 17-08-2015 9:36 PM

Time for the next q 🙂

What are some techniques you can use to feel comfortable and confident about who you are?

originally posted on 17-08-2015 9:41 PM

What are some techniques you can use to feel comfortable and confident about who you are?

 

Ignore the haters! Call people out on their sexism.

originally posted on 17-08-2015 9:43 PM

@j95 as the great T. Swift once said... Haters gonna hate hate hate hate hate

originally posted on 17-08-2015 9:44 PM

@FItzChivalry you didn't... did you? lol

originally posted on 17-08-2015 9:44 PM

@copse hehehehehe

originally posted on 17-08-2015 9:39 PM

This also just came to mind (little irrelevant to the question) but i feel like male stereotypes and expectations are changing, in some ways. Take Mitch Clark, an AFL player for example... He openly suffers from a mental illness and so far I have only ever seen support for him, but 20 or 15 years ago, I don't things would be the same.

originally posted on 17-08-2015 9:42 PM

that's a really good point @j95

 

I also think it can be really powerful when people who are in the public eye are able to be open about mental health. It can be inspiring and motivating for some of us. I agree that things might not have been the same if this happened say 20 years ago.

 

originally posted on 17-08-2015 9:41 PM

@j95 that's a great point and I hope the support continues and allows other footy players (and people in general) open up

originally posted on 17-08-2015 9:39 PM

What are some techniques you can use to feel comfortable and confident about who you are?

 

i think starting small makes it a bit easier. I slowly started to open up to a few of my best friends who I felt like I could really trust, and over time it began to feel more comfortable with other people. 

originally posted on 17-08-2015 9:38 PM

What are some techniques you can use to feel comfortable and confident about who you are?

This can be a really hard task! But I think finding positive people who accept you for who you are is a great way to value yourself and learn to accept yourself for who you are too, and can help you get to a place where you can accept yourself without external forces

originally posted on 17-08-2015 9:40 PM

What are some techniques you can use to feel comfortable and confident about who you are?

also doing activities that you love (and are hopefully decent at) because that builds confidence!

originally posted on 17-08-2015 9:43 PM

true @copse

 

I find that spending time immersed in my hobbies always helps!

originally posted on 17-08-2015 9:38 PM

What are some techniques you can use to feel comfortable and confident about who you are?

hang out with people who encourage that within you

originally posted on 17-08-2015 9:27 PM

Have you ever been in a situation where you have felt the need to fit the social “mould”, or fit the stereotype, even when it isn’t necessarily how you would normally behave?

High school! Oh man that place was rough. Half the cohort thrived and the other half were squashed by it.

originally posted on 17-08-2015 9:29 PM

@copse

 

Crap. I totally forgot about high school. If there's one place that I felt those pressures the most it was there! All of that stuff didn't seem to matter anywhere near as much once I went to uni! 

originally posted on 17-08-2015 9:22 PM

Have you ever been in a situation where you have felt the need to fit the social “mould”, or fit the stereotype, even when it isn’t necessarily how you would normally behave?

ALL.THE.TIME.
Particularly in my workplace or around sporting clubs. I'm slowly getting better at not feeling the need to fit.

originally posted on 17-08-2015 9:25 PM

Have you ever been in a situation where you have felt the need to fit the social “mould”, or fit the stereotype, even when it isn’t necessarily how you would normally behave?

 

Mostly when i'm with male friends, but almost every day to some small extent! For example, I sometimes feel like I need to act more manly and tough around my male friends. i even notice that sometimes the way I talk changes around them!

 

@j95 that's awesome that you're getting better at not feeling the need to 'fit in'. I imagine that it would be tough if you're working in a male dominated environment. 

originally posted on 17-08-2015 9:23 PM

@j95 it's a damn tough thing to push through! I'm working on it too but it's a long battle

originally posted on 17-08-2015 9:22 PM

I work in a particularly "blokey" environment, and a lot of my friends are all of a similar nature, so I often find the pressure to "man it up" or be a bit more macho than I normally am. It's a difficult dilemma, because I enjoy spending time with them, but maybe I wouldn't fit in as well if I didn't play that character... I think I have started accepting who I really am though and my friendship circle is starting to reflect that too

originally posted on 17-08-2015 9:24 PM

maybe not get lost but you'll be the bloke everyone takes the piss out of

originally posted on 17-08-2015 9:29 PM

I wonder how many tradies just act all macho for the sake of the stereotype. @j95

originally posted on 17-08-2015 9:32 PM

a large majority @stonepixie

originally posted on 17-08-2015 9:31 PM

@stonepixie I've often thought the same thing... I sometimes feel like everybody is putting on a mask and if everybody just took it off at the same time we would all be so much happier!