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originally posted on 13-07-2015 9:00 PM
6. Despite how much we try to help our friends, sometimes they may pick up some bad behaviours as coping mechanisms. What are some negative coping mechanisms people might adopt when dealing with illness?
I have seen friends and me myself have picked up bad coping mechanisms initially to cope with my illness.
Some have been self harm, drug/alcohol abuse, isolating oneself, shutting people out.
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originally posted on 13-07-2015 8:57 PM
4. What would you say to a friend who has just been diagnosed with an illness? And how it is important to act around them?
I would say I'm here for them and if they need someone to vent to, or to just lay about in bed with i'd be there.
I'd also treat them as I had previously whilst being empathetic to their needs.
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originally posted on 13-07-2015 8:44 PM
I have severe depression, anxiety, OCD and borderline personality disorder and I am really struggaling as I don't really have a support system
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originally posted on 13-07-2015 8:47 PM
hey @Rose61
sounds like you have heaps going on in your life at the moment 
must be so tough. i'm really glad you're here with us tonight though because we're going to be talking about getting help and how we can manage illness!
remember, if you ever feel like you need support you can always come post in other sections of the forum too and we can provide you with some specific info or tips 🙂
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originally posted on 13-07-2015 8:48 PM
Thank you 🙂
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originally posted on 13-07-2015 8:41 PM
. What are some sort of illnesses people might suffer with?Pysical illness
Mental illness
One of my best mates parents has kidney failure, pretty sad cause everyone knows what the outcome will be, its just a matter of when. 😕
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originally posted on 13-07-2015 8:46 PM
3. What are common reactions when someone who has been diagnosed with an illness and why might they experience these reactions?Fear and anxiety over the future. Worry if they can keep up with the costs of treatments... worry about how much of an impact it will have on family.
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originally posted on 13-07-2015 8:45 PM
sorry to hear about your friend @j95
physical illnesses are scary. it's easier to sort of picture in your head than a mental illness. i hope your friend is getting some support... but i know you're probably there for them. you're always caring to the people around you.
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originally posted on 13-07-2015 8:48 PM
@lanejane thanks... her mum has had it for about 7 years so its pretty tough on everyone seeing her get worse.- Mark as New
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originally posted on 13-07-2015 8:40 PM
3. What are common reactions when someone who has been diagnosed with an illness and why might they experience these reactions?
Anxiety and fear because you may not know what impact it will have on your life.
Relief because you now have a name for your illness and can 'hopefully' try and find a suitable treatment
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originally posted on 13-07-2015 8:02 PM
Hi everyone! 
Tonight we are going to be chatting about living with illness. This is a topic that might be familiar to a number of our Reachout users so we are hoping for a really active discussion here on Getting Real ! 
The chat tonight will be moderated by me (lanejane) and @OrangeOliver. We’d like you to remember to have a read of the community guidelines before starting and don't forget that if you feel at any point like you need to take a break or talk to someone we have a section for emergency help.
To start off our Getting Real session tonight we'd like to ask...
1. What are some sort of illnesses people might suffer with?
(I’ll give you a hint for one: what sort of illness do we often deal with here at Reachout?)
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originally posted on 13-07-2015 8:07 PM
Mental illness is a big one, I myself have anxiety. There are also things like disabilities that people can't see but people require treatment for. I for example also have Dyspraxia which affects my co-ordination and my speech this has led to many rounds of speech therapy, 2 operations on my palate and OT. I wouldn't class it as a illness but its something that I will have to deal with long term.
Whatever it takes I know I can make it through!
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originally posted on 13-07-2015 8:11 PM
thanks for joining us @ErinsAntics and @chandelier
sounds like you guys will be able to add lots of value to the chat tonight.
i've never heard of dyspraxia. how long have you had this for? i might have to do some google research! we are talking about all sorts of illnesses so it definitley fits in with the chat.
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originally posted on 13-07-2015 8:13 PM
I actually have a page regarding it on my blog (link removed) as I was sick of people asking me if I meant Dyslexia (I don't) and it was good to direct people to a page that I had written myself 
Whatever it takes I know I can make it through!
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originally posted on 13-07-2015 8:17 PM
@ErinsAntics so cool that you have a blog and that you are using it as a way to write about your experiences.
unfortunately i had to remove the link to your blog because its outside of our community guidelines - but i'm going to post your definition below to share with the other users! hope that's ok?
"What is Dyspraxia?
Dyspraxia is a result of weak or poorly structured neural pathways to the mouth (oral and verbal dyspraxia) or other moving parts of the body (motor dyspraxia). Some children only have verbal dyspraxia, while others only have motor dyspraxia. It is not uncommon for both types to be present in the same person.
How is it treated?
There is no cure for Dyspraxia just management and treatment. Common types of treatment include Speech Therapy (if diagnosed with oral and verbal Dyspraxia) and Occupational Therapy (if diagnosed with motor Dyspraxia). Sometimes surgery will be required to stop airflow through the nose if speech therapy doesn't strengthen the palate."
A really inspiring thing I picked up was also this that you wrote!
"Yes my life is a struggle because of Dyspraxia but at the end of day God is on my side and I refuse to let it stop me from achieving my dreams and living my life. I have no idea how it will continue to affect me but I do know that having to work a bit harder to achieve my dreams has made them that much sweeter when I do"
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originally posted on 13-07-2015 8:26 PM
In response to question 2 I just want to say that I rekon one of the hardest ways it can change our life is that sometimes we LOOK the same, but we FEEL completely different.
Can be super hard and a really big adjustment for us!
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originally posted on 13-07-2015 8:21 PM
@ErinAntics I love that blog, gave it a quick read! Unfortunately reach out is an anonymous community so we had to remove the link. It is great to see how open you are about sharing your experiences with your illness!- Mark as New
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originally posted on 13-07-2015 8:44 PM
2. How do you think living with an illness can change your life?
It can change every aspect of your daily life. Doing things such as showering and dressing on your own become something you can no longer do for yourself. The person I know has kidney failure has do a dialysis i think its once a day and really struggles to leave the house because things like going out shopping is extra tiring.
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originally posted on 13-07-2015 8:27 PM
Hi guys,Looking forward to contributing tonight. I have suffered from not really an illness but it is called NLD (Nonverbal Learning Disorder). This shaped my fine motor skills such as cutting etc, but it's all good now.
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originally posted on 13-07-2015 8:30 PM
welcome @Snakem - very nice to meet you and have you in our getting real session tonight!
i haven't heard of NLD before but i'm learning a lot tonight about all sorts of different illness and disorders that people have experiences in their life. i'm glad that yours has sorted itself out now but im sure it would have been lots of hard work and taken lots of courage to get through it at the time. good work to you! hopefully you had some good family or friends as supports.
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originally posted on 13-07-2015 8:25 PM
people can get a lot of support by reading about other peoples experiences of coping with different illnesses stories online through blogs or social media- Mark as New
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originally posted on 13-07-2015 8:27 PM
Q2.-Just frame of mind
-There could be negative stereotypes/stigmas
-Systematic issues like need for care services
