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Hello hello, ive really been struggling with holding friendships lately because of focussing all of my energy on my relationship. Recently though, I have ended that relationship to focus on bettering myself as a person and I'd really love to look for new people to talk to and meet whether its for a one time chat or becoming close friends.

AtlasxSimes
AtlasxSimesPosted 22-11-2024 09:10 AM

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Gemz
GemzPosted 25-11-2024 02:37 PM

Hey, first off, I just want to say it’s really brave of you to take that step of ending the relationship to focus on yourself. It’s so important to have that self-awareness and know when something isn’t serving you anymore, even when it’s tough. Sounds like you’re in a bit of a growth phase, and wanting to reach out and meet new people is such a healthy way to move forward.

Balancing relationships and friendships can be tricky, especially when you’ve poured so much energy into one person. Now that you’re focused on yourself, reaching out and meeting new people—whether for a one-off chat or to build a deeper connection—is such a great way to shift your energy.

It’s awesome that you’re open to both casual chats and the possibility of forming new, close friendships. You never know where a good conversation might lead, and something small could turn into something special.

If you’re not sure where to start, try putting yourself out there little by little. Even something low-pressure like joining online communities or local groups around things you enjoy can help you meet people who have similar interests. It might take a bit of time to find the right crowd, but the more you practise reaching out, the easier it’ll get.

And hey, don’t be too hard on yourself if it feels a bit overwhelming at first. Rebuilding a support network after a big change can take time, and that’s totally fine. What’s important is that you’re prioritising yourself and taking steps towards building genuine, meaningful connections.

You’ve got this! It’s a journey, and I’m sure you’ll meet some awesome people along the way. If you ever need advice or just want someone to talk to while you’re navigating it all, feel free to reach out.😊

 
Howl42
Howl42Posted 22-11-2024 02:21 PM

Hi @AtlasxSimes

 

I'm really happy to hear that you're focusing on bettering yourself and are open to meeting new people, it's really inspiring to read that. I'm also sorry to hear about your relationship ending but it sounds like you're on a really good journey right now. 

 

All the replies I've seen have given amazing suggestions for ways to make friends and meet people. Maybe it could be a good time to reflect on the qualities you value in friendships/ other people and the people you see yourself surrounding with. This can be a good starting guide for you as you build new relationships or reconnect with old ones, so you find connections that are meaningful and align with who you are. 

 

Also small, everyday interactions can be a powerful way to make friends and build connection - whether it's chatting with a classmate/ co-worker/ neighbour/ or people you see everyday. 

 

Personally, I've made new friends by going to events and starting conversations with people who are mutual connections to my other friends. 

 

ReachOut has done a great post here with some tips: https://au.reachout.com/relationships/meeting-new-people/how-to-make-friends 

 

I'm wishing you all the best as you take these steps and I'm excited to hear about how it all goes! ðŸ’›

 
Be_the_Light
Be_the_LightPosted 22-11-2024 10:30 AM

Hi @AtlasxSimes,

Hope you’re well!

 

Thank you so much for sharing this. I can understand how having other priorities can sometimes cause us to lose touch with other connections. It sounds like you are going through a challenging time but it is so great that you are trying to find ways to help. Friendships are super important and it’s so great that you are open to making new connections with people!

 

If you’re looking to make new meaningful connections I think it can be helpful to explore communities and activities that align with your interests. Whether this be hobbies, sports, online communities or even volunteering. Things like this can be a great way to meet people who are like-minded and that share your interests. 

Are there any activities, hobbies etc. that you are passionate about or even want to explore more?

 
KaizerBiker
KaizerBikerPosted 22-11-2024 10:09 AM

Hello @AtlasxSimes 


Sorry to hear that you have ended your relationship but it’s good to see that you are going about meeting new people after the relationship has ended.

 

After your relationship has ended, have you gone about revitalising the  friendships that you previously l had?

 

In regards to meeting new people, as an international student that has first come into Australia a few years back, one of the few things I did to meet and talk to people were through University hosted events, club gatherings etc, seeing if I get to meet new people and form friendships. Personally, close friendships that stick with me in the end were people I met during my course work such as tutorials, group meetings as well as informal study sessions.

 

In any case, there are a lot of ways in which to meet friends that could form close bonds, so it’s always good to sorta put yourself out there and be open and patient with what is to come. Hopefully these are of some help and I wish you the best on making friends 😊

 
sunnygirl606
sunnygirl606Posted 22-11-2024 10:03 AM

Hi @AtlasxSimes welcome to the forums and thank you for posting!

 

I understand where you are coming from - it is easy to get caught up in a relationship and put less effort into other friendships/relationships we have, especially when it is new. Recognising this and wanting to better ourselves is a great first step to have.

 

Is there any clubs or classes your local community offers to help you build new connections and friendships? When i was in uni, there was a lot of different clubs that was a great way for me to get out of my comfort zone and make new friends.

Welcome back!

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