Having anxiety
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Hey @Kristy21, how did the event go? Was there anything that suprised you about it or how you managed it?
Hey guys!
The night went OK. Anxiety did get the better of me a couple of times. I looked so obviously nervous at times but once I began talking I calmed down. I met a few people already working for this business and the employer said he'd love to have me on board. Unfortunately, it's a commission only job and wasn't quite what I was looking for. I think my time would be better spent studying and looking for a better paying job or work experience in the industry I want.
On the plus side, despite my anxiety being at an all time high and me dealing with so much I put myself out there, I started conversations, I met a whole heap of new people, I practiced my sales and networking skills and felt more confident afterward.
Hey @Kristy21,
Great work! Meeting new people and applying or interviewing for jobs can be so stressful. But it sounds like you handled it really well! Do you have any tips to share with others who might also be prone to anxiety? Was there anything specific that you did before you went, or while you were there, to keep your anxiety at bay?
blithe
Having anxiety isn't very fun, I'm not very good in public places either but try to think about why you're there. You're going to be meeting a potention employer, creating new connections and testing your skills. All good things, because that's what this event will be.
Like @Ben-RO said, being nervous is totally normal! Remembering to take deep breaths is important, to help you focus. (Also called Mindfulness!)
To help with the negative thoughts of yourself, have you tried writing a list? Make it two columns. One one side, you can write one or a couple of things you're thinking is bad about yourself. In the other column, write the same amount plus one good thing about yourself. Or you can try to expand on why you think that and work to fix it, for example you think you're not a very good horse rider, was there an event that made you think that? Why? As an example, of course, you could be an excellent horse rider! 🙂
You've got this Kristy 🙂 Even though it's probably already over, but you've got this.
Hey @Kristy21!
Being nervous is a totally normal response to something like a job interview or another big thing in your life. It might not feel like it, but it's actually how your body gets ready for a fight (or a job interview which is kind of the same thing). Your kidneys are dumping adrenaline into your blood stream, your muscles are getting pumped up and your brain is kicking into overdrive, ready to solve all the problems (or think too much about something). Seems to me like perhaps your body is reaaaallly good at doing all that, and goes a bit overboard sometimes. Have a read of this article! I think a lot of what you're experiencing is similar to this. Is there anything in there that helps? Or something that doesn't make sense that you want more support with?
There's lots of things you can do to remind your body to chill out a bit, some of them take practice but things like just breathing and doing a bit of self-care are stuff you can start any time at all. Here's a giant list of things you can do to help your body get out of fight or flight mode.
Let me know how you go mate! Good luck!
