TW: My boyfriend is in a crisis mentally
Recently my bf has told me of some deeply concerning things that he has planned to with his life and I seem to be the only one that knows about it, he doesn’t want anyone else to know including his parents and brother who have the ability to keep him safe if they just knew. I have no idea what to do because he has made it clear that no one knows, but I feel like this is unfair on me and too much for just me to handle.
I have no idea what to do, please help me
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Hi @EternalBlue
It sounds like you're going through something really tricky, and i'd like to thank you for sharing, it can be really tricky ❤️
I think it would be good to maybe talk to him about this, see if you can come up with a safety network (consisting of you and other people) and a safety plan. Talking through those difficult things and why he might be feeling like that can be the first step in this.
It seems you're a really important person in his life, but I agree it isn't fair for him to put all this on you. Finding someone trustworthy to talk to about this would certainly be helpful right now. Are there some ways you could be even just a little bit more kind to yourself? It could be as simple as going for a walk to clear your head, doing a hobby you enjoy, or watching your favourite show, whatever comforts you 🙂
I'm here for you and I hope I could help a bit 🥰
Hey @EternalBlue,
I’d firstly like to welcome you to ReachOut and thank you for sharing what you’re going through. What you are experiencing sounds incredibly tough and is completely understanding that it is too much to handle. I am curious to know if there is anyone you trust in your life who you can talk to about this? For additional support I encourage you to connect with Kids Helpline as they have free phone and online counselling, 24/7, for young people up to 25 years old.
It can be super overwhelming and scary to not only be told such details, but to also be the only one carrying the information. I would like to emphasise that you are not alone, and that you’ve done an amazing job by reaching out for support. You should be so proud of yourself! With what you are going through it can be really useful to read this article on supporting a suicidal friend, as it has a number of tips that are really important to consider when you are worried about a friend or partners risk of suicide. It is also important to make sure you are okay, so I am wondering what you will be doing today to take care of yourself?
An email has also been sent to you so please keep an eye out for it.
