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TW : The Yo-yo effect. (Kind of).

Before and when on Christmas holidays, I was smaller. My body has changed and I'm struggling to lose weight. 

With the start of year 11 and ATAR I have been experiencing a lot of stress, as well as unrequited obstacles. I met this guy at the start of the year too. He approached me and I found that we both really clicked. We had much in common as well as the same interests. A few weeks later, he said he had a crush on me. I accepted and we both really enjoyed our time together. Although, after a while he said he still wasn't ready for a relationship yet I still promised I would wait for him. After two weeks into our break, he got another girlfriend. It hurted, and the academic expectations I was placing on myself only hurt me more. For relief, I turned to eating and stopped exercising, which turned out to be the biggest regret of my life. I have a fear of gaining weight so I'm now trying to change, albeit struggling with a never-ending, yo-yo weight gain and loss situation. 

 

I am more than grateful for any tips or facts provided. Lately, I can't help but feel like I've dug myself into a slippery dirt hole in which the walls crumble everytime I try to climb out.

Moonpearl
MoonpearlPosted 18-05-2022 02:40 PM

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Iona_RO
Iona_ROPosted 18-05-2022 04:14 PM

Hey @Moonpearl😊

 

Thank you for posting up how you're feeling ❤️ We've had quite a lot of discussion in the community around body image recently, so you're not alone in dealing with these thoughts. Feeling comfortable and confident in your body can be really tough.

 

It sounds like you have a lot going on at the moment with school. And then dealing with the situation with the guy you liked too, that's a lot! I'm really sorry you had to deal with his inconsiderate actions. It sounds like he really disregarded your feelings and trust. It's totally understandable that you would be feeling really hurt. Have you been able to chat to any friends or family about how this made you feel?

 

You've mentioned that you want to lose weight, can I ask why that is? I know we can feel like gaining weight is a 'bad' thing and something we need to 'fix', but focusing on weight loss can be really damaging to our self-esteem and mental health too. We want to make sure we're looking after our bodies and brains in the best way possible. Butterfly Foundation are amazing if you wanted to chat to someone over the phone or via webchat. This article is from their website and has some really helpful tips 😊 We also had a really good chat about this as a community that you might want to have a look over here.

 

(Also just letting you know that I edited your post slightly. We need to make sure that everyone is safe in the community as certain topics can be triggering, especially when talking about weight loss. Have a look over our guidelines for a refresh 😊)

 

 
 
Moonpearl
MoonpearlPosted 18-05-2022 09:34 PM

Thank you! Next time I will make sure that my post is thoroughly looked over. I do chat with friends and family but I think your options will be better! 

 

Thank you for your response and I will absolutely take your considerations into mind! ☺️

 
 
 
Iona_RO
Iona_ROPosted 20-05-2022 10:25 AM

Thanks @Moonpearl😊

If you want to chat some more about how you're feeling or if you have any questions after reading the resources I shared, we're always here for you ❤️

 
fishyie
fishyiePosted 18-05-2022 03:20 PM

Hey @Moonpearl , thank you so much for sharing with us today. It can seem daunting so it's really awesome that you took that step and reached out to us! I'm sorry to hear that you're going through so much stress and sadness at the moment. Starting Grade 11 and the ATAR prep would be difficult by itself, and it seems like the situation with this guy is only adding to the pressure and low emotions that you're feeling. It really sucks that the guy seemed so interested in you only for him to get a girlfriend while you were on a break. Your pain is totally valid. 

 

It can be so hard when life means that you stop exercising and change your eating habits. I know that when I've felt bad, often exercise is just too draining, or you feel like you don't even have time for it, and then your body starts to change in ways that you'd rather it didn't. And that in turn can make you feel worse, as you've mentioned in your post. It can be really disheartening, especially when our minds are so conditioned around the Euro-centric beauty standard. I'm not sure if you've seen the Body Image on Social Media (TW) post here on ReachOut, but I've found it to have some really helpful advice on how to look at my own body. I hope you can find it helpful too 😊

 

Again, thanks so much for sharing how you're going with us here, and letting us help support you! It's such a big and brave step so kudos to you💙

 
 
Moonpearl
MoonpearlPosted 18-05-2022 09:29 PM

Thank you so much for replying! I totally relate to what you have said, it is really reassuring to know that others go through the same thing. 

 

I will definitely check out the body image section and once again, thank you so so much for the advice! I hope you are going well ❤️

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