Eye opener
Hi there RO.com,
Recently my partner informed me that maybe I needed someone to talk to as I have been rather down in the dumps for quite some time now. In my early teens I sought out help as I was dealing with some very confusing and frustrating issues at the time. It seems as though it never went away and I'm still trying to deal with these issues.
I seem to have everything I could possibly want and yet I'm frustratingly unhappy. Even though I'm complimented everyday about my appearance, I don't see it. I'm often told that I am smart, however, because my highest education level is grade 10, I don't believe it. I have absolutely no self-esteem, respect or confidence. My motivation to do anything is withering away and on top of that, there is a place for me to study in University and I'm not the least excited about it. I feel like even though I HAVE been out of school for some time now that I'm just not ready for University. Like I need to hurry up and sort my shit out before I can go any further in my life.
I really don't know how to deal with this. I just get frustrated with myself for feeling so unhappy with things that other people would scream with excitement about. Any advise would be amazing.
Cheers,
Xiera
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Hi Xiera,
Just wanted to echo what NigroC and Beep said. I also just wanted to mention that you're not obligated to feel enthusiastic or happy about the same things that other people usually feel good about, though if you feel that it is because of a problem or difficult situation you're in right now, then I also suggest talking to someone about your feelings.
Nathan
Hey Nathan5653,
Really appreciate the advise. I don't really know why I want to feel like everyone else, I think it's just a habit.. I've never really fully fit into the "mainstream scene".
Xiera 
Hey @Xiera
Was just reading through this thread and your replies and I wanted to say congratulations on agreeing with @NigioC that going to speak to a professional about what you are going through is a good idea.
Also, I think it is really smart that you have decided you want to wait to begin university until you are feeling a bit better and more ready. That shows a real maturity in you 🙂
Keep working towards getting the support and help you deserve!
Gabi
@Xiera
I agree with above, there are lots of people and services out there that you can have a good chat to to talk about something bringing you down. Even if you don't know what it is!
It must suck to be unhappy, and unmotivated. But it sounds like you want to do something about it, so the best advice I can think of is go talk to someone about it! It's amazing how getting it out to the right person can help.
As for uni, you can always start it and if you're not ready pause it for the time being. Nothing wrong with giving it a shot!
Thank you Beep,
I know, all this frustration is killing me. I do need to talk to someone. As for Uni, I've decided to postpone it until the second semester as I don't feel head right to take on all the material.
Xiera
Hey @Xiera
Welcome to Reach Out!
I'm sorry to hear how difficult things are for you at the moment. It sounds like you've been struggling with stuff for a while. It can be really hard when you don't feel connected to any of the good stuff in your life and you feel weighed down with unhappiness and confusion.
What do you think about your partner's suggestion that you talk to someone?
There are some great services available that might be able to help. Headspace have centres all over Australia.
Lifeline and Kids Helpline both offer phone and web counselling.
Is this something you would feel ok about?
Thank you NigioC,
I think it's a fair call. I've been lashing out at him for the smallest things and it gets me more frustrated with myself. The last think I want to do is upset anyone. My moods have been so up and down it's not funny.
And to your suggestions about counselling, of course. I'd prefer to at least try and understand what's going on in my little world..
Xiera
