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Hi, I moved into a room in a flat with other girls. Here is the thing, I don't feel like I can get close to them. I tried but even small talk didn't go far in a way... I just ask "how are you", "how was your day", and it goes nowhere. Outside it is also difficult to make any friends for some reason. I feel bored and isolated and I start to sleep only. I don't know what to do with my time, I just sleep, it does not feel like I can do anything else and I don't want to be alone.
The first year I was at university, I should have enjoyed but I slept for a whole year mainly. I stayed in my room. I am not anxious necessarily but it just doesn't feel like I can get close to people. I can't enjoy with them.
Please help, because I can't live like this any longer. What should I do? I am seeing a therapist but it costs a lot of money and doesn't even help.
JellyfishXxx
JellyfishXxxPosted 13-06-2017 10:45 PM

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lokifish
lokifishPosted 16-06-2017 11:17 AM

Hey @JellyfishXxx, sorry it's taken a while to get a reply but welcome to RO 🙂

 

Sounds like there's a lot going on right now and you're feeling pretty isolated 😞 Regarding therapy costs, if you're still studying then most unis have counselling services for students which are generally free. Alternatively there might be a headspace centre near you - most of the time you don't have to pay for appointments there either. Could either of those be an option for you? Sometimes it can take a while to find a therapist who actually helps (I've seen countless ones over the years) just like it can take time to find a good hairdresser or mechanic. That doesn't mean you won't find a good one eventually though

 
 
basketofmonkeys
basketofmonkeysPosted 16-06-2017 08:49 PM

Hi @JellyfishXxx, welcome to RO!

 

It sounds like you're having a bit of trouble solidifying friendships at the moment, and I know how crappy that can feel 😞 . There are definitely periods in your life where friendships come easily and periods where they don't and I totally understand how it feels when things don't seem to be clicking into place the way that you want them to.

 

You mentioned that because you're having problems with friends you tend to feel bored and then isolated...do you feel like doing something such as joining clubs or groups might help you feel less isolated? When I moved from school to uni I had hardly any friends but I found that joining a group (I did kung-fu!) really helped me out 🙂

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