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Re: TW: being transgender makes me dysphoric

Hello @not-an-otter! Smiley Happy

I find sports bras really helpful, I tend to lean towards racer-back style because those ones don't stretch as much which means they last longer and stay nice and tight and comfy. I used to wear shorts under my skirt (thankfully at my school, we had the option of a dress, or a skirt) because I can't wear skirts/dresses without shorts underneath which really helped on that front. If you're not wearing shorts (like bike shorts) underneath already, would that help at all?

It can be overwhelming having to wait, especially when you can't be yourself. Those little moments though can be the greatest, especially when you have a space or community where you can be yourself Smiley Happy Would making plans for the future be helpful for you now?

We'll always be here when you need a place to be yourself and chat Smiley Happy

Re: TW: being transgender makes me dysphoric

Hi everyone and thank you all for your incredible advice, the support made my day Smiley Happy
I'm doing all I can at the moment but obviously fucking dysphoria doesn't just go away no matter how hard I try, it makes me feel useless and it's like I can't fucking do anything without it being there and interrupting. Honestly there really is nothing I can do right now and today wasn't great I haven't been doing well recently because dysphoria makes me feel like shit about myself all the time...

Re: TW: being transgender makes me dysphoric

So my mum just said that I look nice with my hair out and it feels like I just got punched in the stomach because she doesn't know how much those comments hurt me and now I feel even shittier about myself

Re: TW: being transgender makes me dysphoric

Hey @not-an-otter 

 

It must be really hard to hear those comments when you're already battling gender dysphoria Heart I remember reading that you have decided to wait until you're 18 to come out - I'm just wondering if there's anything you can communicate to your family in the meantime to reduce any commentary on your body/presentation? 

 

Hope you're feeling better today Heart 

Re: TW: being transgender makes me dysphoric

So this week was really difficult dysphasia peaked last night and I think I might be going downhill after I thought maybe it wasn’t going to be so bad, this week really just made everything a whole lot worse. I couldn’t get onto qlife all at all this week, they must have been really busy (which is fine- I know there’s heaps of other people who need them too) but I’m not getting any better

Re: TW: being transgender makes me dysphoric

[R] Hi @not-an-otter. How have you been today? Sorry to hear about the dysphoria getting worse. We're here to chat if you need to talk about what's been going on.

Re: TW: being transgender makes me dysphoric

@SomeoneNADJS honestly today hasn’t been any better except that I didn’t have to go to school today, but I’m really just not coping at all

Re: TW: being transgender makes me dysphoric

[R] @not-an-otter That sucks when that happens. Have you got anything you could do to try and keep your mind off it for a little bit?

Re: TW: being transgender makes me dysphoric

@SomeoneNADJS I don’t know how to keep my mind off it, it’s like everything I do I somehow manage to relate back to dysphoria and make myself feel shitty. I tried to stop thinking about it by occupying myself with other things but it never works for very long and it’s like dysphoria is everything. It’s all I think about and it never gives me a break.

Re: TW: being transgender makes me dysphoric

Hey @not-an-otter

 

I can't begin to imagine how difficult it must be for you right now. Dysphoria is an incredibly jarring and almost "itchy" feeling of not feeling safe in your own body. I was wondering if expressing your gender ever helps relieve some of the feelings of dysphoria? Sometimes it can make you feel a bit more comfortable to assert your identity. You could try doing this privately in your own room; many people who experience gender dysphoria feel it helpful to use clothing, jewellery, makeup, or body shaping tools (like binders or padding), to better represent their internal state. 

Some of my trans friends also find that detaching themselves from their identity can help relieve their dysphoria. For example, one of my friends really enjoys being out in nature - whether that means going for a walk, going into his garden, siting in a park - as  doing so allows them to just feel human, without any labels or judgement (from themselves or others). By being in a place where social constructs don't exist - at least for a moment - it allows him to not focus on societal pressures/expectations on what it means to be a gender.