Wanting to disconnect when we're being encouraged to connect
I am finding it hard at the moment to connect with friends and family, not wanting to join in on the multitude of zoom calls that are happening or family dinners. What I really feel like doing is disconnecting and being alone in my own space for a while, but I am feeling pressured to socialise digitally and 'catch up' with everybody. I want to be alone but I live in a full house where everybody is at home (in the current situation). I want to retreat but I feel like I can't, and feel guilty for doing so.
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I want you to know that its okay to want to feel like taking time alone and to be by yourself and just work on yourself. I personally agree that it's not always a good idea to always be "connecting" and that finding a balance between personal time and taking time with your family is important.
I hope you find a way through this.
Hey @Eucalypt21 ,
I can really relate to that a lot - we were actually chatting in our team meeting this morning about how draining all of the Zoom / Google Hangout/ Facetime calls can be. On one hand, it' s lovely to connect with friends and loved ones. On the other hand, it's a really weird and unnatural way to communicate in a lot of ways- you don't have the normal non-verbal cues you'd normally have, you have those weird technical glitches, and the awkward moments when people talk over each other. Our brains aren't necessarily wired for communicating like this all of the time and it can be exhausting!
I know a lot of people are trying to stay connected, which is wonderful - but I think it's totally okay to step away when you need to for self-care. Some people find it helpful to turn off the video component and just have the voice part, so that might be something that helps a bit?
Getting personal space can also be really hard - do you enjoy taking walks, or jogging at all? A lot of people need space and time to themselves to decompress, and it can be really hard to get that at the moment.
