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i think my dad is cheating on my mum
Hi,
I recently have noticed my Dad is being suspicious and I don't know how to feel about the whole situation. He picked me up from school and told me to search something on safari. And when i opened safari i saw messages between him and another woman on a sugar mommy website. I pretended like i didn't see it, but later when i told my sister and she looked through his phone he had deleted the tabs on safari. The history still showed everything though. I also found another woman on messages, who he had been texting. I found a business card given by a woman with details. The times in which he comes home varies so much. He comes home at random times or says he is doing 'overtime' or 'uberdriving' which my mum nor my siblings and I are supposed to know about. I don't know how to feel about this situation and I am starting to lose respect for my dad. I know i only have screenshots, but I don't have any solid proof. Either way, those messages are still cheating. I don't know what I should do. Should i first have a chat with my dad and ask him whats happening? My mum is also going through terrible workplace issues right now and she is under so much mental stress. If I tell her about this, it would be terrible timing. Divorce has been brought up so many times ever since my parents were married. I feel like for the sake of my siblings and i, they have never divorced or separated. Im also in my final year of school and in assessment period, and I feel like this whole issue is placing a huge burden on me. Being a female myself, i feel guilty for not telling my mum the screenshots I have right now. If I had a boyfriend, and my friend knew that he was cheating on me but didn't tell me I would be extremely frustrated and embarrassed. I fear though for my mum's mental health, if i tell her now.
If you guys could give me some advice, immediately, I would appreciate it very much!:)
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Hi @unicorn123 thank you for reaching out and sharing with us today. I'm sorry to hear that so much is going on at home at the moment and that you feel like your dad may be cheating on your mum. That sounds like such a tough situation to be in so I can understand that you must be dealing with some heavy and confusing feelings right now. You mention that you told your sister, I was just wondering if there was anyone else you might feel comfortable talking to about this? Whether it be a friend, another family member or even a health professional. I'm also wondering what you've been doing to look after yourself during all this? I can only imagine how stressful this must be for you, especially being in your final year of school, so it is important to practice self-care to make sure that you're getting through this too.
I also just want to remind you that you're not alone and we're always here for you 💜
Hi,
ive talked to 3 of my closest friends about it and they have all been very supportive. As for self care I am meditating.
thank u for ur concern:)
Hey there @unicorn123 👋
Gosh, it sounds like you've got a lot on your plate. It must be so hard to carry the burden of this information about your dad, worrying about your mum and trying to focus on school. How are you feeling about it all today?
It makes me smile to know that you have three close and supportive friends - it makes such a big difference to have people by your side. Coming across those messages between your dad and other women must have left you feeling a bunch of different emotions. I really hope chatting with your friends helps with what you're going through at the moment.
Meditation is such a helpful tool during times of stress (even good times!) 🧘♀️ Can I ask what kind of meditation you do and how it makes you feel?