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Finding a mentor or elder

I don't really have anybody in my life that I have a connection with. My parents arent/were not great people at all and I prefer to stay as far away as possible from my Mum and I dont know my grandparents so they are ruled out. 

I think I need to find someone who just be there for me when I need, almost like a grandparent role, if that makes sense. It would help me a lot.

I've heard that you can find these people but how? what do i do for that?

 

Do I post on gumtree like that old man did for a fishing mate? Will I just see someone in the supermarket and decide to join in with them? I don't know thats why I'm making this thread

j95
j95Posted 06-03-2017 09:21 PM

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j95
j95Posted 10-04-2017 05:48 PM
I'm picturing something that's welcoming and encouraging, something that feels like a hug @Ngaio-RO I'm nervous but I also am hopeful
 
 
 
 
 
Ngaio-RO
Ngaio-ROPosted 10-04-2017 05:55 PM

Well, if anyone deserves a welcome like that, you sure do @j95

 

I think nervous and hopeful is a very natural, adult mix of feelings. 

Will you get the community to support you through it?

 
 
 
 
 
Ngaio-RO
Ngaio-ROPosted 10-04-2017 05:40 PM

Sorry @j95 Ignore my question. You answered it in your post.

 

With that approach, I think it sounds like an absolutely awesome idea.!

 
 
 
 
 
j95
j95Posted 10-04-2017 05:29 PM
Ok so I've got some news!! I'm just trying to sort some stuff out and I'll share
 
 
 
 
 
j95
j95Posted 02-04-2017 09:42 PM
Decided I'm going to participate in some free fitness activities and classes with VAHS. I think that will help me a lot and I might meet some people
 
 
 
 
 
Felkyr
FelkyrPosted 05-04-2017 08:22 PM

Hey @j95, I'm glad you were able to gain the courage to take some steps forward. The hardest part is over.

 
 
 
 
 
j95
j95Posted 13-03-2017 07:02 PM
@DirtWitch yeah i go to trade school at tafe once a week so could try that
 
DirtWitch
DirtWitchPosted 08-03-2017 04:54 PM

Hi @j95,

 

As a lot of people mentioned before volunteering to work with elder homes/organisations is honestly a great way of connecting to others and finding mentors. You can try SeekVolunteer or other volunteer sites as I know many places are often looking for companions for elders! Another way would be to contact maybe your local elder home and ask if they need volunteers or companions. I think most places would welcome that.

 

In the past I've volunteered in elderly homes and I've found the experience really rewarding because old people in general are quite fun to talk to. 

 
Stealth_ninja
Stealth_ninjaPosted 07-03-2017 12:38 PM

Hey @j95,

 

I think it's awsome that you've recognised you could benefit from something like a mentor. There are a lot of non-for profits and organisations that run mentoring for young people that I'm sure would love to have you! A lot of them are run through schools but I'm sure there are some around that run through organisations like at community centres and things. 

 

Would you be comfortable googling youth mentoring programs in your area? I know the Australian Youth Mentoring Network has a website where you can search by state. 

 
 
j95
j95Posted 07-03-2017 12:55 PM
Hmm I just googled it and nothing really came up so I went to that website and found one that sounded really good. I went on their actual website but it turns out that it's mainly focussed around youth homelessness and I'm not homeless so, I'll have to keep looking @Stealth_ninja
 
 
 
Stealth_ninja
Stealth_ninjaPosted 07-03-2017 01:04 PM

Ahh damn, yeah ill keep an eye out as well and ask around for you! It's annoying that they classify people into sections with criteria like that but there are a lot out there.

 

Also, (correct me if im wrong) were you mentoring someone for a while? Or doing some volunteering? Where was that? Would they have a program? You might be able to ask someone there? @j95

 
 
 
 
j95
j95Posted 07-03-2017 01:05 PM

Yeah I mentor with White Lion, still do. I could look into that @Stealth_ninja just not sure if you can do both. 

I thhink the mentorning thing is really cool, but even if wasn't something as formal would be good.

 
 
 
 
 
j95
j95Posted 07-03-2017 07:41 PM

I've been doing a bit of research but cant really find what im looking forward which sucks

 
 
 
 
 
Autumn23
Autumn23Posted 07-03-2017 10:14 PM

@j95 I think what you are doing is so SO awesome!! I understand that the relationship you have with your mum has been very challenging for you, so to see you actively looking for ways to fill your life with positive role models and mentors is seriously amazing!! I don't know of any programs off the top of my head but I'll do a bit of research too and get back to you Smiley Happy Where are you based?

 

 

 

 

 
 
 
 
 
j95
j95Posted 07-03-2017 10:20 PM

Based in Melbourne @Autumn23 don't want to tell you my exact suburb but like brunswick east/thornbury/northcote area but willing to travel a little bit too 🙂 thanks

 
 
 
 
 
Autumn23
Autumn23Posted 07-03-2017 10:24 PM

Perfect, I'm based in Melbourne too so will ask around! Smiley Happy

 
 
 
 
 
Birdeye
BirdeyePosted 08-03-2017 04:38 PM
Have you thought about volunteering with elderly people? I know that both nursing homes and organisations for people who live on their own are always looking for people to come add something to their lives or give them some company.
 
 
 
 
 
Trikle Trade
Trikle TradePosted 09-03-2017 04:49 PM

You find a mentor in local area where you live.You can talk surrounding people and find a good mentor.

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