Hello @Andre9, welcome to the RO forums!
From reading your post it sounds like you have a very mature way of dealing with conflicts! Personally, I also do something similar. I isolate myself to cool off and rerun the argument through my head from a 3rd person perspective (or at least as unbiased as I can) and look for faults in myself (e.g. I should have said something more tactfully etc.). I also like to consult trusted friends and families to get more objective POVs. Afterwards I will reach out to the friend I fought with and apologize to them.
While sometimes I wished that the friend also apologized for their behaviour this will not always be the case 😝. In fact, there was one friend that I fought with in high school whom I have apologized to over a year later but they never replied oh well...😔.
Also thanks for making a thread on this topic! I think it will make for a very interesting discussion.
