Hi there @Lime_Walrus
I don't have much to say, but I'm also one of those people who finds positive comments annoying, and the worse I feel the more annoying they ge
But there are other ways you can talk to them!
Validation can be important. Sometimes if someone isn't feeling good and everyone's being super positive, it can feel like your feelings don't matter, you know?
Sometimes people need to hear that their feelings are okay and aren't silly.
You could say things like "that sucks" or "that sounds really hard"
Another thing is what @Taylor-RO said - it can sometimes feel unrealistic or uncertain, or like things getting better is so far away that it might never happen.
But there are positive things that can happen within a set timeframe.
Like they might not feel like things getting better is concrete enough to look forward to, but getting pizza with you on Tuesday, or doing a long-distance movie marathon or a nice phone call? That's something that is realistic, and that they know they won't be waiting forever for it.
It also means that you and your friend get to do fun things together.
Another thing that can help is letting them know that you're there for them and that they can talk to you.
And like @Lost_Space_Explorer5 said, always put your own oxygen mask on first.
Anyway this turned out a bit longer than expected, but I hope some of it helps.