it's so nice to hear from you @StormySeas17 especially as another ace person! it's been hard for me this entire time to decide whether I want to end it for my own personal reasons or if I just think I should because of the influence of other people/social norms. that uncertainty is part of what makes me feel stuck. most likely it's a bit of both 😕
Let me know if this makes sense. I feel like the social norm is that everyone should want to find 'the one' and fall in magical love and have magical sex and get married. So if I was "normal" I would end this relationship straight away because he is obviously not 'the one' and I need to end this so I can find 'the one.' But I don't believe in 'the one,' I don't really understand what falling in love is, I'm not sexually attracted to people, and I don't like the idea of getting married. What I do know is that my partner and I care so much about each other, and if I break up with him, I will make him sad and I won't get to be his special friend anymore. so, I stay with him.
But on the other hand, there are things I don't like about the relationship, and I can tell we are an awkward fit. I wish we could just be a pair of committed, cuddly friends, instead of romantic partners... but when I try to communicate that, he always says, "what's the difference?" And I can't really answer that.
