Hey @Sadlife,
First of all, thank you for sharing your experience and putting your trust in us to support you. I just want to let you know that we're all here for you.
It breaks my heart to hear that you are being criticised so frequently even though you are already trying your best to deal with your tough situations and their seemingly insatiable expectations. It's very tough to feel unappreciated and invalidated, especially when the pressure is coming from someone in your household and someone that's important to you. In my opinion, you aren't being ungrateful for trying to stand up for yourself and trying to cope with hurtful comments. In fact you are very courageous for doing so and please don't give up and doubt yourself as to whether what they're saying is true or not.
I also believe it's never your fault or negligence that your parents can't empathise with your situations and see your point of view. What you can try is to focus on how to peacefully bypass those distressing judgements without entering in a conflict - which is what I believe you are already trying to achieve. In that case, @Courtney-RO's response is really helpful as she listed out some links to articles on how to safely deal with these tough circumstances. Please check them out and let us know what you think.
We're all here for you!
