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Im really glad that you were able to share these things with her. It really does sound like you are just concerned and are trying to look out for her. It can be such a relief to express how we really feel.

Do you know what she wants to do if anything? Sometimes we can go straight into 'should' mode and tell others what we think they should do. However, people can often find this not the most elpful because they can feel like they are just being told what to do. Sometimes it can just be more helpful to listen, validate and acknowledge, and then work out what they think they can do.  I can hear that you are trying to be there for her which is amazing. But what about you.. is she there for you also? Im wondering what you're to manage with all of this yourself?