HI @Eggplant_Falcon
Thank you for sharing your thoughts and experiences with us. Sorry to hear that you have not been able to get the support you were hoping for. It can be really frustrating to be in need of comfort and find that your expressing those emotions and concerns has just led to you now needing to comfort the other person.
I think these types of situations are difficult because everyone has good intentions, but each person needs a different level of reassurance and support, and for others - being in a spot where they are being told they did something wrong, might trigger their fight or flight response and they might fail to respond in a more healthy way and talk to you about it.
I think it might be worth talking to your partner about how you have been feeling about this, at a good moment when you can sit them down and have a gentle conversation about it.
You deserve to get the support you need, and I hope that you are able to sort things out with your GF and that she is able to respond to your concerns better in the future 💙
