Hi @Blueberries
It sounds like you have been having a difficult time, and I just wanted to let you know we are here for you. Thank you for sharing your thoughts with us.
I think when people have that discussion, it's not about you having to change who you are as a person as I agree with you in that you shouldn't have to change yourself for other people.
It may be more about taking away the power that others have to make us upset by choosing to not give them time and a reaction, and instead focusing on ourselves and knowing our worth and values. So in a sense, you are changing for yourself because unfortunately some people can and will say whatever they want and it can be hurtful, but we don't have to always be affected by their words. You deserve peace and happiness regardless of what other people may say.
I hope you have a wonderful start to next year ❤️.
