Hi there @Aggie2098
I'm so sorry that this happened to you. I don't think that your partner cheating on you was your fault. Sometimes relationships can be unpredictable, and unfortunate things like cheating can occur. It seems as though you had the best of intentions, tried to make it work, tried to visit as often as possible, and planned for the future. That's all that one can really ask for, a partner who is good enough and puts in the effort. Sometimes needs of yourself and your partner don't align, which can cause cheating, especially in long-distance relationships. It was not your fault.
I'm wondering if you're receiving any other support for this? Do you have friends and family you can bring this up to outside the forums? Perhaps a counsellor?
In the meanwhile, please look after yourself and be gentle with yourself. You are not to blame 💜
