Hey, I’m really sorry you're feeling this way—it sounds like you're dealing with a lot of emotional weight right now. I can tell you care about her and you want to respect her space, but at the same time, you have needs too, and that’s totally valid. Navigating that balance can be really tough.
From what you’ve shared, it sounds like you’ve been really patient, and you’ve been trying to keep communication open and honest. It makes sense that the shift in her behavior is throwing you off—when someone goes from being super focused on work to suddenly partying all night, it can feel like a lot of change all at once. And then when you're left feeling like you're not being prioritized, especially after a tough day, it’s even harder to handle.
I get why you'd feel conflicted about reaching out when you needed support. You’re trying to respect her fun, but you’re also looking for connection, and when she wasn’t responsive the way you hoped, it probably felt like she wasn’t valuing your need for attention. It’s tough when that happens, especially when you're already feeling vulnerable.
What really stands out is that you communicated well about how you were feeling, but it still feels like you're not getting the emotional support you need. That’s not about being overbearing—it’s about wanting to feel seen and heard, especially when things are tough for you. It’s okay to need that.
The next step might be to have a calm conversation about it when things aren’t so hectic, where you can express how much you value her fun and want her to enjoy herself, but also how important it is for you to feel emotionally connected too. It could be helpful to share that you’re not trying to control her, but you’re just finding it hard to balance your need for intimacy with her need for independence.
It might also be worth giving yourself permission to take up space in the relationship. You deserve to have your emotional needs met just as much as she does, and it’s okay to communicate that, even if it feels uncomfortable.
Whatever happens, remember: you’re not overreacting or being unreasonable. It’s natural to want support when you’re feeling low. You just need to make sure you’re looking after yourself too.🙂
