Hey @meowcalvin ,
I'm so sorry to hear that things are so hard for you at the moment. Although i'm not trans, as a queer person I really feel for what you're going through at the moment. I can absolutely remember a time when I wasn't out to my family yet, specifically my parents, and I can remember just how emotionally tough this was - you're absolutely not alone here. Even though my family are and have always been so lovely and accepting, I can remember just how rough and upsetting it felt for them to make comments which assumed certain things about my identity, even though, as someone who is very gender-conforming and straight-passing, there wasn't really any way that they would've known I wasn't cis-het! Not being out, not feeling ready to be out, or not feeling safe to come out can be such a painful experience, and really is something that only you know is right for you to do.
I can really imagine just how upsetting it might be to feel like you don't pass. I'd really like to let you know that you are just as valid and worthy regardless of whether you pass or not. Please be gentle with yourself at the moment and give take some time to do your favourite things and practice some self-care - this is so necessary and can also be really soothing when things are tough too 🥰.
I know there are lots of other lovely trans and queer people on here who might be able to weigh in too with some experience that sits a little more closely to yours. I'm thinking of you, and sending lots of love your way. We're all here for you, and happy to listen if you feel like chatting a little more 💗
