Hey there @Tiny_leaf,   Thank you for taking the time to create this thread and share what's been going on at home for you. It can be so difficult being around people who are constantly negative about the things that make us happy and the things we can't control.    Their actions are in no way your fault. You are never to blame for how someone treats you. It doesn't make you useless or any less deserving of happiness or good things. It would be great to hear about some of the things you enjoy (such as tv shows) in Hanging Out, if you feel up to.    It can be hard when other people just don't understand the pain we're in, or how difficult things really are. Have you tried talking to your GP or another professional about strategies to deal with your family's comments?  ... View more

Hello all! It's time for everyone's favourite part of the week! :D     First is to Tiny_leaf for offering hope that pain will pass and that getting through the moment is possible. I love this quote: "And you don't have to apologize, I know the feeling.. But after it comes back it will go away again. And every time it comes back, you'll be more experienced at coping with it. Even though it comes back, you get stronger each time, and you'll be able to handle it better." Awesome work! Along with amazing support and companionship to a fellow user :D   Next @Bananatime04 for t aking huge steps forward this week with maintaining safety and sharing with us how proud you are of yourself!    And @I_am_not_Groot for checking in with members across the community and being a listening ear when others need it most - amazing peer support!   And @Maddy-RO for suggesting a new helpline for when someone needs a friend :)   And lastly for today @lennycat2017 for taking the lead with the GR on sharing stories this week - such an important topic and one that will help others feel confident and safe to talk.   ... View more

Hey there @mspaceK,   I'm sorry to hear about the bad dreams you've been having, it can be distressing to have dreams of dying while feeling distressed and in a tough time. Have your supports at headspace given any suggestions on coping with dreams?    It sounds like you are considering other options such as hospital to keep yourself safe and offer more support- this is such a brave step and it is great to see that you are considering what options are available to you. We are always happy to chat to you more about options for support too    You've mentioned feelings of wanting to end your life, can you confirm if you are safe today? Coping with constant negative thoughts and feelings isn't easy, and talking about these thoughts is super important. Making a safety plan can also make it easier to cope when they get stronger, what do you think about making one? If you are unsure about how to make a safety plan, Beyond Blue has a fantastic app that you can keep on your phone for easy access over here. They also have a Chat and forums that may have some resources you can access as well. Let us know if you want any support making a safety plan- many of our members use safety plan and I am sure we can work together as a community to support you      I also edited out the specific mention of what happened a couple of days ago, to keep the thread safe for other users. That being said, we are so grateful you are being open and honest with someone about what happened the other night, and we really encourage you to keep reaching out to your supports when you need them  ... View more

@Bananatime04 technically I am at work all by myself, but I am also at home :) It would be amazing if we could bring our pets to places like school and work regularly! All the wonderful cuddles :) ... View more

Hey there @Matty D,   It's great that you're being aware of the guidelines when you're posting :)   Training a dog is definitely a difficult task, and you are more than welcome to use RO as a shoulder to cry on. Sometimes just venting about the stress we're under can be a great way of relieving some of that stress, especially when we already know what we're feeling is okay.    It sounds like the advice your dad offered wasn't that helpful, is that right? If you are looking for dog training tips, there might be some good resources online that you could try. What do you think?    Good luck with the training! :)  ... View more

Hey there @BonnieBoo,    It can be difficult at times to find a psychiatrist that we feel comfortable talking to and trust. Is trust something you could bring up with her the next time you see her? It might mean that, if possible, you can change and see someone else.   When you talked to her about coping, did she offer and suggestions of strategies you could try? ... View more

That's wonderful @Bananatime04! I think it's worth a post in What are you proud of? thread.    Our ToolBox threads, like "What are you proud of?" are great positive-thinking and distractions if you need something to do for a few hours while you're driving (or sitting in a car that's moving) :) ... View more

Hey there @Bananatime04,    The Hanging Out section of the forums can be a great place to go if you're after just a chat, as some users might not come into the Tough Times sections. Some good threads for chatting include Chit Chat, Right Now I Am and TwittRO.   There are also several more Hanging Out threads about particular topics about books, cats, dogs, photography and more! :) You could also make your own, if you can't find any on a topic you enjoy. What do you think?  ... View more

Hey @Bananatime04, was there something you'd like to share or talk about?    We monitor all posts on the forums, so if you feel comfortable you're more than welcome to share what's happening without tagging and we'll still see it.  ... View more

Here is the new thread @aebarrie12 :)  ... View more

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Hey there everyone! We're running a little low on GR ideas and would love it if you could share some of your suggestions!    Thank you @dncinginthedirt and @xXLexi_Lou122Xx for already sharing yours! You can post them in this thread here or using this form here!   @_Artemis_ @aebarrie12 @afriendwithweed @Aia @AJ16 @Alison5 @Aluzar @Andrea-RO @Anonymous_Gurl @anonymousgirl101 @arkhamranger @Asche @Ash555 @Avi @Bananatime04 @Bart-Livewire @Bec98 @Bee @Bella_ @bigavocado @Birdeye @BJH @blair2019 @blissfulhope @blossomfox @Blurryphaced @boaolookto03 @Brendos94 @Cheeseburger @Chloe_green2002 @ChristianHinder @cj123 @ClippingPathManager @comerfordius @coolguy @CowboyBebop @cupcakes_032 @DaRkStAr @DIVYA @Dleehy2002 @dncinginthedirt @dontstopmenow @dragon3 @drhalloween @DruidChild @Eagle @Echomocha @ecla34 @Eden1717 @eeqweqwe @elfridaauston87 @Erin-RO @Esperanza67 @evenight @ewqeqwe @forcle @gittypoo @Groovy_Popsicles @Gropa @Han1993 @happyisgood @Haylix11 @Helpful_truth @hilarytest2 @hmm789 @I_am_not_Groot @IhaveAQuestion @ILAUVEDEN @ILikeCats22 @ilovehatevodka @indieinsanus @Isaac2554 @IsabellasRecovery @j95 @Jane_Rose @Jardin @Jasperswim @Jess1-RO @jesseka_grace @JonoG @jsting @keezeik @khaleesi_18 @kiramirror @Kosmonaft ... View more

Hey there @F3Lix and welcome to the forums.    Just letting you know that I moved your post to a new thread, so that other users can see that you're looking for support and respond :)   Do you have any friends, other family or professional supports that you can reach out to during this time? As we are an anonymous forums, we can't provide specific advice for your exact situation. However someone who you are close to or a professional (in-person or over the phone) may be able to give you more specific advice. Some good starting places include Kids Helpline and Lifeline.    When you are around them, are there any distraction strategies that help you cope with their yelling? ... View more

Hey there @mspaceK,   It can be so hard to feel motivated for work, especially when we're feeling tired. Is struggling getting to sleep something you struggle with a lot? It might be worth making a new thread about sleep as other users may have some advice you could try. What do you think?    I hope that you have a nice work day today :)  ... View more

Hey there @Cheeseburger,   It sounds like losing your boyfriend is a huge worry for you, is that right? It can be so stressful in relationships worrying if you are going to lose who you care about, I'm sure other users who have been in relationships can relate to this feeling.    Do you think making a new thread about this fear would be helpful? That way, other users who may have experienced this before can see the thread and offer their advice. If you'd like, I can also help you with making the thread. What do you think?  ... View more

Hey there @aebarrie12,    It can be difficult to know what other people are thinking about us, I'm sure it's a feeling a lot of our users can relate to. It might be helpful to turn this question into a new thread, so that other users are able to see it and will be able to offer their advice, what do you think?    If by the end of the day, you haven't made a thread, I'd be happy to move the question over to a new thread for you :) ... View more

Hey there @BonnieBoo,    I just wanted to let you know that I've moved your post to its own thread, this way other users will be able to see that you're looking for support :)   The days feeling like a blur is a feeling I'm sure a lot of users can relate to, has there been anything in particular happen to trigger these feelings?  ... View more

That does sound frustrating @Saltwaterdreamtime, it's hard to try and catch up with people when it feels like they aren't putting in much effort to catch up with you.    Can you find any positives from the situation, to change this negative into a positive? ... View more

Hey there @Saltwaterdreamtime,    It sounds like things are bit intense for you right now, did you want to make a new thread and talk about it more?   We're here to listen :) ... View more

Hey there @scared01,    There is a glitch at the moment with the time stamps being behind by one day. We've let digital know and hopefully it will be fixed soon :) ... View more

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Hey there everyone!    We've had some fantastic responses so far, I just wanted to let you all know that if you have any more feedback you'd like to share, to either post it here or use the form to help us know what we can do to help improve our GR's!    Thank you to everyone who has already given us some fantastic feedback!    @3mpty @_Artemis_ @aebarrie12 @afriendwithweed @Aia @AJ16 @Alison5 @Aluzar @Andrea-RO @anna_ambushed @Anonymous_Gurl @anonymousgirl101 @arkhamranger @Asche @Ash555 @Avi @Bananatime04 @Beaharvey @Bec98 @Bella_ @bigavocado @Birdeye @BJH @blair2019 @blissfulhope @blobby @blossomfox @Blurryphaced @BonnieBoo @Brendos94 @BunnyWalks @calliesummer @Charlie-29-1999 @Cheeseburger @cj123 @CMC02 @Cookiestarr @coolguy @CowboyBebop @cupcakes_032 @DBZ @Definitelynotmitchell @DirtWitch @DIVYA @Dleehy2002 @dncinginthedirt @dog_lover94 @dontstopmenow @dragon3 @drhalloween @DruidChild @Eagle @Echomocha @ecla34 @Eden1717 @ElephantCushion @ErinsAntics @Esperanza67 @evenight @gisforgreatgoodness ... View more

Hey there @scared01, how was your rest day?    You have been doing an amazing job supporting other users recently, and yourself. I noticed that you shared some good things of your day and how you did practiced self-care, milo and sweet potato chips sound delicious.    I hope that today has been a nice day and not to busy for you :) ... View more

Hey there @Tiny_leaf, Using the report option (which is in the three dots on any post as "Report Inappropriate Content") is the best option as we get alerted to those and are able to easily find the posts. Your response to this particular user as well was great :) As it happened overnight, unfortunately not much can be done until a staff member logs on. But reporting it using the "Report Inappropriate Content" is the best option. Thank you for being so on top of things the other night and reporting this user for us! :) ... View more

Hey there @dragon3,  It's important that if you are feeling unsafe or in danger of hurting yourself that you contact a helpline such as Suicide Callback Service, Lifeline or emergency on 000. When talking about suicide on the forums, it's important that you confirm if you are safe or what you are doing to maintain safety (such as talking to your boyfriend, as you did at the start of the thread :)), you can read more about talking safely about suicide in this thread here. I also edited out the details of self harm as it is against our guidelines (here) to describe the details.      It's great that you're able to be open with your boyfriend about your feelings. Is trying professional help again something you'd consider? It's okay when a professional isn't the right fit or unhelpful for you, sometimes it can take time to find the right person that really helps.    I was also wondering if you'd had a look at Beyond Blue's safety planning service, perhaps it is something you could do with your boyfriend, what do you think?  ... View more

Hey there @ZadieGeorgeRowling and welcome to ReachOut,   It can be difficult to get comfort and support from others who don't quite understand what you're going through. It is absolutely okay to be frustrated at the subtle homophobia you are experiencing. While others might see jokes as just being fun, it doesn't mean that it isn't affecting you.  Aside from your friends, is there anyone else you've tried to talk to about your experiences? Such as a professional?    As @Tiny_leaf has already mentioned, we do have quite a few threads around the LGBT+ community including the one they linked above, that might interest you.    I was also wondering if you're over 25, as our forums are for 14-25 years, some of our resources and helplines won't be applicable if you're over 25. You can read more about our guidelines here.  ... View more

Hey there @dragon3 and welcome to the forums,   Well done on reaching out to your boyfriend! Reaching out to those around us can be a difficult, but rewarding step. As you've mentioned self-harm and suicidal thoughts, can you confirm if you're safe?    As @scared01 has mentioned already, helplines can be a great place to start if you're unsure about where to go next for professional supports. KidsHelpLine and Lifeline have both over the phone and online chat services that you can use if you're feeling unsafe.    Another thing that can be helpful in coping with self harm or suicidal thoughts is having a safety plan, which is a plan that you can follow when you're feeling unsafe. It includes contacts, coping strategies and more. Beyond Blue has a fantastic service that can guide you through making a safety plan over here, you can also download the app onto your phone here. What do you think?  ... View more

Hey there @xXLexi_Lou122Xx,   How are you going at school today?    I noticed earlier in this thread that you talking about some bullying that happened recently. It can be really difficult to deal with bullying and frustrating when some strategies don't work. Bullying is definitely something that many of our users have experienced and would be able to offer advice on but because of the length of this thread, they may not notice that you mentioned it and therefore wouldn't be able to give you support on the topic.    If you feel comfortable with it, making a new thread on what's going on at school with the bullying may be a great way to get support and possibly even suggestions or strategies on dealing with the bullying. What do you think? If you'd like, I would be more than happy to help you with this step.  ... View more

Hey there @Tiny_leaf,   Thank you for sharing how you've been recently. Dealing with tough times can be a struggle but opening up and sharing what's going on can be a great help. How are you feeling today?    Dealing with self harm urges can be difficult and I'm sorry to hear that they're getting stronger. Thank you for confirming your safety as well, do any of the ideas in your self harm coping strategies appeal to you? Keeping a list of the ones that work best for you might be helpful so that you can go to it when you feel the urges, what do you think?    Do you think that talking to a counselor or other professional might be helpful for you? They may be able to sit with you and help go through the thoughts and feelings your having, without having to worry about guidelines or delays in responses from a forum setting. If you don't see someone, KidsHelpline or Lifeline could be better alternatives if you're interested.  ... View more