About Jay-RO

Jay-RO · ‎28-06-2019

@MisoBear thank you. :) Your responses are always so spot on and impressive, keep up the amazing work! :D To every single one of you have been so, so amazing! Thank you so much :)

Jay-RO · ‎27-06-2019

Thank you @Saltwaterdreamtime! I'll miss you all too :) @Hozzles ah what a perfect gif! Thank you :) As sad as I am to be leaving, I know it's the best thing. I also know that the community is in safe hands with all the amazing staff, volunteers and users on these amazing forums!!!

Jay-RO · ‎27-06-2019

Hey there @skyfireinferno99, welcome back :) Yay to getting a job! It's fantastic to hear that you're loving it. Even though we can love what we do, sometimes it is hard to get out of the bed and actually get there. Sometimes I find reminding myself of the positivities of the job or outing helpful in getting me to go, do you think that's something that might work for you? I'm so sorry to hear that your friends have been isolating you, especially after hearing about your diagnosis'. Although it didn't work out, I'm proud of you for trying to make friends at your new place :) Do you feel like you'd be able to try again and visit a club or event to try and meet new people? It is hard feeling burnt out and not being able to take a break. If you could go or do anything for a break, what would you like to do? You are never a lost cause. Even though it doesn't feel like it, there are people out there who care. We are 100% here to listen. Do you think when you see your psych next, you would be able to share this with them? They may be able to provide some practical strategies you could try. What do you think?

Jay-RO · ‎27-06-2019

Thank you everyone @WheresMySquishy @May_ @scared01 @Tiny_leaf @Jess1-RO @mrmusic for your lovely messages! I am going to miss all of you too! Moving forward I'll be working on myself most of all. I am so grateful for the experiences I've had on the forums and the absolutely wonderful moments shared with all of you. Every single member of this community is so full of compassion and courage and are so inspiring. So, thank you all, it has been a wonderful journey! :)

Jay-RO · ‎27-06-2019

Hey there @Bananatime04, are you safe right now? Although I haven't seen the new Aladdin yes, I did enjoy the original :) I'm glad to hear you enjoyed the movie! When talking about suicidal thoughts on the forums, it's important to add that you're safe so the community knows that you're safe. Are you able to edit your safety into the post by 12pm? After then, I'll remove the mention from your post but you are more than welcome to edit it back in with your safety if you'd like.

Jay-RO · ‎26-06-2019

Hey there @Bento, Just letting you know that I edited out the name of the place you're studying at for anonymity. It can be really hard to keep up with classes when they're late at night, do you find it difficult to fall asleep on other nights when you don't study? If you're interested, we have a huge list of articles on sleep over here that might be helpful for you to read. There are often many different reasons, both physical and mental, as to why someone might be tired. We aren't able to give medical advice on the forums, so aren't able to answer your question about medication. I was wondering, have you spoken to a GP about how you've been feeling lately? They may be able to give you more practical advice on what you can do to help you feel less tired. What do you think?

Jay-RO · ‎26-06-2019

Hey there everyone! The first sexuality discussion for this month is up here! If you have some time today, we'd love to hear your thoughts on the above videos from two young people sharing their stories and what was your key takeaway from these videos- what resonated for you? @DIVYA @dog_lover94 @FootyFan26 @Hozzles @I_am_not_Groot @Jane_Rose @Ladybug @lennycat2017 @LovesFood @lr8991 @Mcro @MisoBear @missyj @mspaceK @queenP @scared01 @skyedre @statuscaring @Sunflower18 @Tasi @WheresMySquishy @Asche @Bee @ecla34 @ErinsAntics @Esperanza67 @letitgo @linkinpark13 @lokifish @May_ @missep @N1ghtW1ng @Puppies026 @blobby @SomeoneNADJS @Tiny_leaf @unwind @Bananatime04 @Brendos94 @Cheeseburger @keezeik @Matty D @MemphisBelle @Saltwaterdreamtime @xXLexi_Lou122Xx @DruidChild @Beautifullybroken @Blurryphaced @Charlie-29-1999 @dragon3 @Dyl @hellofriend @indieinsanus @Lonelyboy17 @Mrstweety5482 @nyke @rainbowpotato @skyfireinferno99 @SNUFFLES @not-an-otter

Jay-RO · ‎26-06-2019

Hey there @mspaceK, Thank you for being so open and honest with how you've been feeling. It sounds like there has been a lot going on for you these past couple of months, and often it can be difficult to cope with so much happening. It's great that the past few days have been good for you. When negative emotions feel overwhelming, sometimes focusing on those positive days and good moments can help get through them. You mentioned that you have a lot of strategies for dealing with work anxiety, are any of them helpful for other anxieties as well? It might be helpful to discuss with your psych other strategies that might be helpful for you, like some listed here, what do you think? It sounds like the next couple of weeks working every day is one of the biggest stresses for you right now, is that right? Working every day like that can definitely be stressful, but often worth it in the long run for both the money but also for the experience gained. I've found that when I have many things scheduled or am working non-stop for a few days, having some time to myself to do something fun (with someone or alone) is a great motivator to helping me when it feels overwhelming. Is there anything you could schedule with your boyfriend for the weekends? Although it may not feel like there's a point to sharing what's going on, it can be so helpful to just have everything out there. So thank you again for being so open with us, you can do this

Jay-RO · ‎19-06-2019

Hello everyone! After seven amazing months on the forums of working for ReachOut, it is time for me to move on. It has been absolutely amazing to be able to log onto the forums every week and read through some of the compassionate, empathetic support you all have to offer. To those of you who log in once a day to those who only log in once, each and every one of you are so inspirational! No matter what you're going through, you are all fantastic, amazing people :) My last day as a Community Manager will be next week on the 28th of June. Thank you for all the wonderful moment, you all rock!

Jay-RO · ‎19-06-2019

Hey there @Maryhadalittlelamb and welcome to the forums, Thank you for being open about how you've been feeling recently, it takes a lot of courage to open up :) As @Tiny_leaf has already said, you are absolutely not a failure. It's okay to not want to tell your mum that you still self-harm. Is there anyone else you can turn to for support, aside from your mum? Such as another family member, friend or counselor? Along with the Self harm coping strategies thread already shared, we also have an excellent list of coping strategies and distractions that might have some suggestions for you. Keeping a list of coping strategies, such as a safety plan, that work best for you can be really helpful for when you are in that difficult time.

Jay-RO · ‎19-06-2019

Hello everyone! So you may already know about our list of ToolBox threads in Everyday Life, perfect to help with positive thinking. This thread is a list of Hanging Out threads that are perfect for a distraction or a fun chat! Whether you're after a regular chit chat or after a particular topic such as food or movies, this thread is place for you to find what you're looking for! Chit Chatting: ATSI Gathering Place A place for Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander people to chat and chill Chit Chat Have a chat about anything with anyone Let's Be Friends Make some online friends and chat about random topics here! Right Now I Am Share what you’re up to right now. Share Your Holiday Stories Chat about things that happened on your holidays. Hobbies Talk about your hobbies here. Gush about your Special Interests Chat all about your special interests, things you love, here! Animals: CATS! Cats Cats! Have a cat? Or just like them? Talk about it here! Doggo/Puppy Appreciation Thread Share your appreciation for adorable floofers here! Cute Baby Animals Need a bit of cuteness? Check out this thread to look at and share some cute baby animal pics Animal Infodump Time Read about and share some cool facts about animals! Books, Writing and Art: Cute, Funny and Inspiring Comics Look at and share cute, funny or inspiring comics. Harry Potter Talk all about the awesome books (and movies) about the wizarding world. Books Share what books you’ve read, are reading or want to read and look for recommendations here. Writers Thread Talk about the stories or poems you’re writing and learn about what other people are writing too. Poems/Quotes Share favourite poems or quotes, whether you read them or wrote them, here! Photography Fun Check out some awesome photos from fellow members and share your own! Creativity / Community Art Try out our community art challenges, check out awesome artworks and share your own art! Food: Food and Cooking Fanatics If you like food or cooking, introduce yourself here! Recipe Exchange Share a cool recipe or check some out here! Games: Video Games Talk about your favourite video games here! Forum Games Check out our massive list of fun games threads! Movies and TV: Good TV Shows/Movies Share some of your favourite shows and movies to watch here. Game of Thrones Talk all about the great show (and books) here! Brooklyn Nine Nine Chat Talk all about the hilarious cop comedy here! My Special Interest Ninjago Talk all about the LEGO ninja show here! The Good Place Talk all about the show The Good Place here! Horror Movies Do you like horror movies? Chat about them here! ABC Kids Share your love for ABC Kids over here! Winnie the Pooh Who doesn’t love this adorable, hunny-loving bear? Chat about him here! Podcasts Check out some cool podcasts and share some here! Star Wars Do you like Star Wars? Chat about it here! Music: What are you listening to now Share whatever song you’re listening to here. What is your favourite song Share your favourite song here! Sports: Gymnastics Ever done gymnastics? Or watched a cool movie on the sport? Chat about it here! Rugby Enjoy watching or playing rugby? Chat about it here! Skateboarding Like skateboarding? Chat about it here! Surfing Chat all about surfing here! Random!: Random Questions Answer and then ask a random question! Debate Club Join us in debating random topics! 5 Random Things About You Share five random things about yourself! If you could change your name... Ever thought about changing your name? Share what you might change it to here! Memes and Other Funny Stuff Check out this thread for a huge collection of funny memes. Inspired Usernames Share the inspiration behind your username! Who's Your Role Model? Read about some awesome people and share your own role models Kmart Love Are you a fan of Kmart? Talk about it here! Tell Us About Your Avatar Share the story behind your avatar! Why did you choose it?

Jay-RO · ‎13-06-2019

Hey there @not-an-otter and @nyke, we've noticed both of you giving some amazing support recently. We think you would make an excellent applicant to the Builder program if you're interested! You can apply using this form here! :) If you have any questions, feel free to ask them here :)

Jay-RO · ‎12-06-2019

Hey there @xXLexi_Lou122Xx, this is a fantastic thread idea! It can be fun to look up name meanings and choose a name that you like :) I've just edited the original post to be about sharing the meaning and origins of your chosen name instead of your real name, as some names can have very individual meanings or be a direct translation and could breach anonymity. I've moved it into Hanging Out as well for users who might not be interested in Games to also see, because it is also a fun distraction idea! Thank you again so much for creating this thread! My name, Jay, is usually used as a nickname for names starting with j like James or Jacob, but for me it's not short for anything :) Its roots are in English. Thank you @Tiny_leaf @lokifish and Lexi for sharing what names you'd like!

Jay-RO · ‎12-06-2019

Hey there @Dyl, I've just been reading through this thread, it sounds like you are under a lot of stress from things at school and the situation with your mum, is that right? It's hard to tell someone about a tough time when they are also going through something. Do you think writing a letter might be an easier way telling your mum? That way you don't necessarily have to give it to her straight away. Another thing that might be helpful is to ask your mum if you can tell her, what do you think? Is there anything you can do to distract yourself from the stress right now? We have a massive list of coping strategies and distractions if you need any ideas :)

Jay-RO · ‎12-06-2019

Hey @bigavocado, over the past few months you've been a member we've noticed some amazing and supportive responses from you. If you're interested, we think you'd make a fantastic applicant for the Builder program! Let us know if you have any questions, we would love to have you on board.

Jay-RO · ‎06-06-2019

Hey there @Bananatime04, Road trips sure can be boring! Using the forums to distract yourself sounds like a good idea, have you tried posting in Games yet? If you'd like, you could also make a new thread in Hanging Out about road trips! I'm sure other users would love to hear about your own experience, and have some stories or distractions of their own to share :)

Jay-RO · ‎06-06-2019

Hey there @steana, I'm sorry to hear that things are bad right now, would you like to talk more about what's going on? You are more than welcome to make a new thread here for community support. Is there anyone close that you could also talk to? If you're after a distraction, our ToolBox threads can be a great way to distract from negative feelings. We're here to listen :)

Jay-RO · ‎05-06-2019

Hey there @Saltwaterdreamtime, Thanks for sharing that article! Just letting you know that I edited your post to fix the link, it is interesting to hear about the perspectives of others on a particular topic. Thank you again for sharing! :)

Jay-RO · ‎30-05-2019

Hey there @BlueFlitty and welcome to ReachOut! :) Mint chocolate is definitely a delicious ice cream flavour! I can't say I've heard of peanut butter and hazelnut before, but it sounds interesting. It's great that you have a goal for this month! Getting over any addiction can be tricky, but knowing that you want to can be the most difficult step :) If you'd like, you're more than welcome to make a new thread about your addiction over here. See you around the forums!

Jay-RO · ‎29-05-2019

Hey there @scared01, Feeling isolated is a terrible feeling, especially when you aren't able to talk to them and tell you how you're feeling. Do you have any coping strategies that are helpful when you're feeling isolated? I hope all goes well with the loan and organising everything for your surgery. Would it helpful for you to make a list so that you can keep track of everything you need to do?

Jay-RO · ‎29-05-2019

Hey there @Beefsteak95 and welcome to ReachOut :) It can be tricky to move forward into a new relationship when past issues may hold us back. Stopping negative thoughts can be difficult, but not impossible. ReachOut has a great factsheet on challenging negative thoughts that may provide some ideas, including some questions you can follow. What do you think? @lr8991 has also provided some great advice, talking to your partner can be a great way to gain some insight into how they may feel. Is that something you would feel comfortable doing? I hope that today is better for you, we're here to listen :)

Jay-RO · ‎23-05-2019

Hey @scared01 , I'm sorry that yesterday was so tough for you. It can be difficult to see the point of things when we're struggling, have any of our Toolbox threads been helpful positive-thinking tools for you? I hope that today has improved for you and you can find some positives in your day :)

Jay-RO · ‎23-05-2019

Hey there @BonnieBoo, Finding out that your crush doesn't like you can be disheartening. I noticed in your other thread that you were considering reaching out to him, is this when you found out he doesn't share your feelings? What are some things that you do for yourself? Doing things you can enjoy can be a great distraction from negative thoughts. We have a fantastic thread over here that has a huge list of things you can do if you need ideas. Other things you could try are talking to your support network, is there anyone you'd feel comfortable telling about these feelings?

Jay-RO · ‎23-05-2019

Hey there @WheresMySquishy, how are things going with your eye? Hopefully the new ophthalmologist provided some new insight :) @Tiny_leaf it can be scary to think of what some medical professionals may be doing! I love the dog pictures you shared earlier in your thread, they are so adorable! :)

Jay-RO · ‎22-05-2019

Hi there @Kourtney and welcome to ReachOut, Thank you for being so open and brave in sharing your story with us. It sounds like the events at this party has had a strong impact on your life. What happened at that party is in no way you're fault. You are not responsible for how other people act, and their behaviour to tease and insult you is not okay and absolutely untrue. People make mistakes all the time, and one mistake does not define you. We have a great article about moving on after making a mistake with some tips that might be helpful to you. Have you ever spoken to anyone close to you, such as a friend, family member or even a professional about what happened for support? Reaching out to someone and talking about it can help you cope with what happened. Something else that can be helpful is taking some time for yourself and doing self-care (which you can read more about here) Is that something you'd be interested in?

Jay-RO · ‎22-05-2019

Hey @Tiny_leaf, Thanks for letting us know about this issue. I will forward it with digital and hopefully we can find a fix soon. Could you please let me know what browser and device you are using when this issue occurs? In the mean time, I have a temporary solution that has worked for me in the past when this occurred and may work for you as well. Essentially, after you have written your reply, pressed post and get to the "authentication ticket expired" page, press the "back" button on your browser. Don't exit out, or check your drafts or leave that page at all except to press that "back"/"previous page" button on your browser and it should take you to the reply page with your fully written reply.

Jay-RO · ‎16-05-2019

Hey there @Tiny_leaf, Thank you for taking the time to create this thread and share what's been going on at home for you. It can be so difficult being around people who are constantly negative about the things that make us happy and the things we can't control. Their actions are in no way your fault. You are never to blame for how someone treats you. It doesn't make you useless or any less deserving of happiness or good things. It would be great to hear about some of the things you enjoy (such as tv shows) in Hanging Out, if you feel up to. It can be hard when other people just don't understand the pain we're in, or how difficult things really are. Have you tried talking to your GP or another professional about strategies to deal with your family's comments?

Jay-RO · ‎16-05-2019

Hello all! It's time for everyone's favourite part of the week! :D First is to Tiny_leaf for offering hope that pain will pass and that getting through the moment is possible. I love this quote: "And you don't have to apologize, I know the feeling.. But after it comes back it will go away again. And every time it comes back, you'll be more experienced at coping with it. Even though it comes back, you get stronger each time, and you'll be able to handle it better." Awesome work! Along with amazing support and companionship to a fellow user :D Next @Bananatime04 for t aking huge steps forward this week with maintaining safety and sharing with us how proud you are of yourself! And @I_am_not_Groot for checking in with members across the community and being a listening ear when others need it most - amazing peer support! And @Maddy-RO for suggesting a new helpline for when someone needs a friend :) And lastly for today @lennycat2017 for taking the lead with the GR on sharing stories this week - such an important topic and one that will help others feel confident and safe to talk.

Jay-RO · ‎16-05-2019

Hey there @mspaceK, I'm sorry to hear about the bad dreams you've been having, it can be distressing to have dreams of dying while feeling distressed and in a tough time. Have your supports at headspace given any suggestions on coping with dreams? It sounds like you are considering other options such as hospital to keep yourself safe and offer more support- this is such a brave step and it is great to see that you are considering what options are available to you. We are always happy to chat to you more about options for support too You've mentioned feelings of wanting to end your life, can you confirm if you are safe today? Coping with constant negative thoughts and feelings isn't easy, and talking about these thoughts is super important. Making a safety plan can also make it easier to cope when they get stronger, what do you think about making one? If you are unsure about how to make a safety plan, Beyond Blue has a fantastic app that you can keep on your phone for easy access over here. They also have a Chat and forums that may have some resources you can access as well. Let us know if you want any support making a safety plan- many of our members use safety plan and I am sure we can work together as a community to support you I also edited out the specific mention of what happened a couple of days ago, to keep the thread safe for other users. That being said, we are so grateful you are being open and honest with someone about what happened the other night, and we really encourage you to keep reaching out to your supports when you need them

Jay-RO · ‎15-05-2019

@Bananatime04 technically I am at work all by myself, but I am also at home :) It would be amazing if we could bring our pets to places like school and work regularly! All the wonderful cuddles :)

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