Hey @Saltwaterdreamtime I'm sorry to hear your family is going through a hard time. It can be especially hard if it is something that you have been through before as it stirs old and new emotions.    Is there a reason you're particularly upset about your brother going to resi? x  ... View more

@hellofriend This is an awesome post! I don't know too much about the love language theory but I can understand that there would be different categories for this!    The picture you shared worked and I am definitely an acts of service type of girl. Scheduling, cleaning, delegating and going out are the things I automatically connected with on that.  My second option would be quality time I think, I definitely just like to curl up and binge watch TV!   I can also say I am not a words of affirmation person and I have tried a few of those before because I know how great affirmations and journalling can be. Although I didn't give it much of a chance, I wonder if i persisted with trying these methods if they would stick!    Bonus Question: I'm not really sure! I don't know what my love language to other people is.  ... View more

@Saltwaterdreamtime hey! I'm a new builder here and I've only been here for about a month. We've had a few chats and it has been great to get to know you a bit hoping that we can continue to get to know each other on the forums!     ... View more

@Saltwaterdreamtime that's understandable! Everyone has a preference for how they like to connect with people and what they are comfortable with . Counselling isn't for everyone and it is good that you have another support system!    Have you had any updates from you YSW?  ... View more

Thanks @Bananatime04! I completely agree - we are so much more than how we look but it can be so hard to shift from the negative ideas we have about ourselves and this is one thing I'm really trying to work on this year, just for myself! ... View more

@Saltwaterdreamtime if you're comfortable with it, could you expand on what you mean about it not being the counsellor themselves? It's okay if you don't want to! I just want to make sure we can support you in the right way if there is anything going on   ... View more

Hey! Love this and it has come at a great time!    Today I wore my hair out and curly for the first time in about 10 years - my hair has always been something that made me very self conscious because I don't have perfect healthy curls after years of damage and I've always though that my unruly hair made me less attractive (plus anyone who has curly hair knows how quickly it can go from 0-100).  It was a huge step for me and I was so worried about what everyone was going to think but I got a million compliments and I actually felt pretty good about it.    I was definitely out of comfort zone and I will definitely do it again.    1 small step away from being self-conscious and a huge leap towards self-love/appreciation!      ... View more

Hey @Saltwaterdreamtime how are you today? I'm sorry that you don't like to see them  . Do you feel like trying a new counsellor would be a good idea for you?    At least you have your YSW that you are happy to talk with!  ... View more

@Saltwaterdreamtime that's awesome to hear, I'm sure they all really appreciated it.    It's really good that you have him as a frequent support that you can reach out to during this time. I hope that it works out for you  .    It is also nice of him to offer to speak with your counsellor for you, sounds like he's looking out for your best interest and making sure you have a lot of support! If you are not comfortable with the idea that is completely understandable, however it is definitely a good idea to keep your counsellor up to date with whats going on. Have you spoken with your counsellor recently?  ... View more

Hey @Saltwaterdreamtime I'm really proud of you for owning up to your behaviour and being able to apologise for it. It shows a great level of maturity and responsibility. Kudos to you, it takes a lot to do that sometimes .   When do you catch up with YSW again?    Keep us posted ... View more

@Bee sounds like your really taking charge at this new job! love seeing the positives you've been posting about it    My positives today are: 1. I put my washing away the same day I did it!!  2. I went out with my housemate who bought me lunch  3. I got 8.5 hours sleep last night  ... View more

Only listen! if i had to play the music it would be terrible!   Would you rather only eat cheese or salami for the rest of your life?  ... View more

@YunoGasai CONGRATULATIONS!! Sorry for the late reply, I have been a little busy lately.  I am really happy to hear that you got the job and it was helping you to feel a bit more positive.    How is it going at the job? ... View more

Hey @TB_99 just checking in to see how you are going . Hoping that you have been well and looking forward to hearing from you!    ... View more

@hellofriend what an exciting time ahead for you!    One thing I know about moving anywhere is that it can be really exhausting and can quickly turn from an exciting thing to a daunting process. It is a big task to move your life from one place to another so I definitely recommend starting to the process early and doing a little bit everyday so it doesn't seem overwhelming - planning out what room or what part your going to pack up on a certain day etc. Same thing goes for unpacking! I am the worst for just wanting everything to be set up and settled straight away and really burnt myself out staying up super late/getting up early to get it done asap. I realised the second time I moved that as long as my bed was set up on the first day, the rest could be done as I needed it.    I would also recommend taking time to explore your new country town - they often have little scenic drives or swimming spots depending on where you're moving. Finding a place you really connect with that brings you joy in your new town will really help you to connect with your new home.    Keep us updated with how you go!  xx     ... View more

Hey @BunnyWalks another place you could try to get more information is your local flight centre or an equivalent shop. They generally will have information on day trips and the best spots for people based on age/interests - even if you don't book through them it's a great way to get info and book later yourself .    I have also found that hotels I'm staying at often offer packages at the front desk so perhaps look into that - it would be a great way to meet people in your hotel/hostel too.    Travelling solo is a great idea, something I am yet to do but I think you will learn so much on this trip! I am very excited for you ... View more

Today I am grateful for a day off!  ... View more

hey @Mara just checking in to see how you have been the last couple of days.    Have you had a chance to try some of the suggestions provided?    xx ... View more

hey @dncinginthedirt I have an iPhone which auto generates my screen tim every week for me as a notification! But you can also search in settings for screen time if you have an iPhone and that should work.    I'm not sure if other phones have this setting though.    Hope this helps!  xx ... View more

My goal for the week is to look up internships and start applying! ... View more

hey @Saltwaterdreamtime how are you feeling today? x ... View more

dragons   sleeping with the fan on or off? ... View more

snot  ... View more

Update: I Marie Kondo'd my bedroom and it feels great! I had a lot of clothes I haven't worn which went to lifeline and reorganising to store everything the way she does actually makes it so much easier!    10/10 Would hug Marie in a second ... View more

I am looking forward to my first trip to Bali ... View more

@missep This is me to a T.   One thing that really brought my attention to how easily distracted I am is a notification on my phone 'Weekly screen time' which came in at 7 hours last week! I realised that even when I'm talking with friends at breakfast or at work, I'm constantly distracted by my phone. I set myself a goal to get this below 5.   I think it will dramatically change how present I am because I won't be connected to everything in my phone!  ... View more

Hey @ILikeCake, I'm happy to hear that you are working with your counsellor to manage overwhelming thoughts. I can relate as sometime I too get lost in my own head. However, you are definitely taking the best steps for yourself to manage these! How often do you see your counsellor?   Climate change is a huge topic at the moment and u nfortunately, we can not control everyone's approach to climate change and their impact on the environment. W hile it can seem daunting there are little things we can do at an individual level to help our planet and I try to focus on that.  Things like making sure I use my keep cup, reusable straws and limit my plastic waste. Are these things you could implement in your life?   Sometimes things that are out of our control can really impact us, so you are not alone in feeling this way but there is definitely so much to look forward to. Is there anything you're looking forward to this year? I'm going on a holiday soon and I can not wait to see what a different part of the world is like!    ... View more

I practiced self care by going to the doctors for a check up ... View more

@DruidChild I am absolutely dreading going back to uni this year. I only have 3 subjects to graduate but I had previously enrolled incorrectly so rather than doing 3 subjects in 1 sem, I have to do the 3 over a whole year. This was disappointing but I realised that having my courses a bit more spaced out would probably be way more beneficial because I'm worried I will fail one and extend my graduation date again! So silver lining I guess. A lot of my course work is group assessment and oral presentations this year which is very daunting also.    @N1ghtW1ng offered some great advice - I have worked with the support units at university previously and it gave me a huge sense of control over my work load which I really benefitted from!    Here's hoping we all do well this year! ... View more

much like @Bee I woke up this morning and did not want to go to an appointment I had committed to.    Neg: I was tired and wanted to sleep in on my day off Question: Will this benefit my health? Will you have time to reschedule this/ end up having to get up early on another day anyway? Pos: I ended up going and got more done at the appointment than anticipated. It also meant I practiced self care today because I prioritised my health over an extra 30 mins sleep (took a nap in the afternoon anyway hehe).  ... View more