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Rhelna
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23-06-2015
01:04 PM
Hi all, I hope you're all well. University is not going well for me. I feel like I am drowning. So far I have been doing my course for three years so far, and am only half-way through. Even though it's only a three year course, I dropped down to part-time a few times and failed a bucketload of classes, so it's been dragged out to this never ending stretch. I feel like I'm going to be a student forever. All my friends are either graduating soon or have graduated, and I just feel like that's an impossible goal. It's out of my reach. Usually my final scores for my classes go two ways. I either get a distinction or above, or I fail. And frankly, it all comes down to whether the subject is interesting or not. Well, I have a hard enough time sitting through a lecture even if the subject IS interesting... If it's not, lecture's are IMPOSSIBLE to concentrate in, and everything I am told goes in one ear and out the other. And getting me to read a wall of text? Forget it! Even if I am intersted I can't even get started. Even when studying for exams it feels like this long drawn out effort. I can sit and read and reread and reread somehting, but I'll never take take it in. And if I write it down, I have no idea what I've just written five minutes later. It's like I forget how to learn. I've seen counsellors throughout the last few years about various things, but have always jumped around the whole studying issue because of a few reasons. Firstly, I don't want them to think that I am stupid, beause I'm not. I know I'm not. Secondly, I felt ashamed complaining about something like this. Yes, is probably is my fault. I have a lazy brain or something that won't pay attention when I want it to. Maybe I subconciously don't want to learn. Maybe I'm too easily overwhelmed by information. I don't know. If it's my doing do I have any right to complain about it? Should I expect any help from anybody? Can anybody actually help me? Probably not. But I have TRIED to concentrate and I spend a lot of time TRYING to study. It probably isn't a big deal. I'm probably making a mountain out of a molehill, but it's affecting my studies and my life, and to me that makes it at least worth mentioning. As a result of failing all these classes I have a P average. Nobody is going to hire somebody with a P average. I'm going to spend years studying this subject, and it will all be in vain. This was my dream course, leading to my dream job. And I am single-handedly ruining my dreams. So how do I fix this?
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16-12-2013
10:24 PM
1 Kudo
Great thread :) Mine are: - CinemaSins - Northernlion - Dracula Fetus
- FilmCow - Jesse Cox - ProBoxStudios - SourceFed - Maxmoefoe - miracleofsound -PistolShrimps - FreddieW
- TomSka -Watchmojo.com - BravestWarriors Stuff like that :)
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15-12-2013
10:54 PM
Hey Pillow, Maybe it would be good to make yourself a schedule or set a series of goals to complete each day between now and Thursday. It might help to keep busy, and to have things to strive for each day. For example, maybe you could go for a run, or write a story, or draw a picture each day. Maybe doing an activity with a sibling or parent such as playing a board game a day would help? The KHL also have a chat service, perhaps you could try that if you start to feel desperate, but are uncomfortable with talking about it over the phone with an unfarmilar counsellor? I hope this helps. Hang in there Pillow.
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15-12-2013
09:31 PM
Hey @Killab93 , Welcome to Reach Out! Not having a girlfriend by the age 20 is not as uncommon as you think. i know lots of people who have remainded single up to that point, including friends, aquantances, family members etc. Every girl has a different taste in guys, some girls are more attracted to the manlier, bearded, type guys... And some are more attracted to the cuter 'baby-faced' types (not that those are the only two types). When you get to know someone though, I find that person ality is the key. I pay far more attention to what I would consider an attractive personality than an attractive apprearance. Confidence is also plays a major role in attractiveness. So maybe a good start would be to work on your confidence? Hang in there, girls may be tricky, but one day you'll find yourself in a rewarding relationship.
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14-12-2013
10:59 PM
1 Kudo
Uhhh that's a tough one.... There's so many.... Uhh Tanis, Raistlin, and Tasslehoff from Dragonlance. Gandalf, Faramir, Aragon and Legolas from Lord of the Rings. That's all I can think of right now :s From Harry Potter in particular my favourites are Sirius and Severus.
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14-12-2013
10:11 PM
2 Kudos
Awesome dream job Pillow, and a very good cause! I personally am completely stuck on my dream job.... When I was younger I wanted to be a 'rock raider' from the lego series of the same name. I followed that through all the way to the age of twenty where I now find myself studying geology.
Geology REALLY interersts me, although I'm not sure if the actual role of a geologist is my dream job. I don't really fancy working in the middle of nowhere in the mines. But geology research would be excellent! When I first started at university I was actually studying psychology with the same idea that I wanted to help people, particularly those who had a terminal or life threatening illness. However, I had a little freak out half way through that semester and luckily the university was kind enough to let me change to geology despite poor results. So yeah, I'm still working on what my dream job actually is...
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14-12-2013
09:53 PM
Glad to hear back @KeithH ! I'm so glad to hear you're pushing through things despite the situation. You are a pillar of strength and an inspiration to us all. Thank you for sharing your advice too. You're right, and I should apply it to my own life. I'm sorry that things aren't going well for your Dad, I wish I could help, or say something to make it better. I hope that, despite all the misfortunes and hardships you're facing, you'll continue to grow as a person. We're all hear for you if you ever need us.
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12-12-2013
11:52 PM
@hartley_ I loved Breaking Bad! :) Still haven't finished it... I have the last eight episodes to go... I've just been too afraid to watch them. Definitely give it a go!
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12-12-2013
11:42 PM
2 Kudos
When I finally start renting, the plan is to move in with my boyfriend and my brother, though it'll be a while away, so end of next year probably. I'll at least know my housemates habits, as I've lived with both my boyfriend and brother before. The thing that worries me most is how we'll cope financially. @Lex One thing that I struggled with initially when I moved in with my boyfriend was adjusting to the new households cleaning habits and routines. My family's routine was VASTLY different from what my boyfriends family did. It took a while to get used to.
@ruenhonx Good luck with your moving experience! Sounds like a good plan, and a very exciting prospect! @Gabi I think we'll all get along when I move out, but finances are my biggest worry :/ @chelsb Wow, that's quite a big change! I'm glad it all worked out for you! Thanks for the tips too :)
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12-12-2013
10:09 PM
Well done Pillow! I'm so glad it helped! And true, things don't get better straight away, but at least you know that if you ever need it you have someone to call. Thanks for letting us all know :)
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11-12-2013
08:56 PM
1 Kudo
I always have time for a good lord of the rings, star wars, or rush hour marathon :) In fact, I think I'll be doing that later in the week..
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11-12-2013
08:35 PM
3 Kudos
Hey everyone! I was wondering if anyone had any stories about when they first moved out of home? I technically have moved out of home, but I moved in with my boyfriend's family, so it kind of doesn't count.. haha. I'm just curious as to other peoples experiences with renting for the first time. So does anyone want to share their moving out experience? What complications did you have? Did you move in with friends? What were the good and bad points of living away from your family? Just anything you wish to share :) And if you haven't moved out of your parents house yet, what are your plans?? Thanks guys!
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10-12-2013
07:30 PM
Hey Pillow, Of course you're not boring us, we're here to listen and to help :) There was a Getting Real session a few weeks ago that covered the topic of positive thinking.
http://forums.au.reachout.com/t5/The-Getting-Real-sessions/POSITIVE-THINKING/m-p/57727#U57727 Some really good ways on dealing with negative thoughts were discussed. It might help you to read through it and consider some of the suggestions? It might help to be able to change the way you think about certain situations. I know it helped me :)
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10-12-2013
06:51 PM
Hey @Auzz_Honesty :) It's great to meet you! Welcome to Reach Out! I hope you're well. This site is a great place to talk, everyone is really friendly, caring and understanding. I hope you stick around! :)
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09-12-2013
09:28 PM
2 Kudos
how can we deal with this grief and turn it into something that celebrates the lives of loved ones who have passed away? Maybe give them a memorial branch on the christmas tree, with like decorations that are specific to them.
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09-12-2013
09:09 PM
1 Kudo
What support ideas do you have for someone who is struggling with loneliness this Christmas? I agree with @dreamcatcher on this one, keep yourself busy. Maybe chuck a couple of movies on and snuggle up close with a pet?
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09-12-2013
08:45 PM
2 Kudos
What is not to love about Christmas? Sometimes unexpected situations arise, which can ruin the joy of the season, but then again that doesn't really have much to do with the day itself. Hmm, maybe when your going to a massive get together with your extended family (Most of who you don't actually know), when all you want to do it bum around and have fun with your immediate family. I guess getting all the presents organised can be a little stressful, but I'm usually done before December even begins anyway, so I'm all set :)
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09-12-2013
08:36 PM
1 Kudo
@LeaLea07 I ended up doing solo karaoke for most of the afternoon/evening. It passed the time... Plus I was awesome. :P
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09-12-2013
08:31 PM
What is your favourite holiday/Christmas memory? Hmmmm, that's a tough one... I once bought wigs for my family and we all dressed up to look super ridiculous for the day! It was a lot of fun! :)
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09-12-2013
08:26 PM
So everyone out there tonight we were wondering if you do not celebrate Christmas (or imagine if you didn't) do you think it would be difficult to be surrounded by the holiday? If so why? Because it's everywhere and inescapable! I'd imagine that those that had no one to share it with would have a hard time. Last Christmas I spent the afternoon alone, it was quite lonely.
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09-12-2013
08:06 PM
1 Kudo
Hey everyone! I hope you're all having a great day! What does this holiday period mean to you? Well, I see it as a time to spend with friends and family. Just to relax and have fun with the people you are closest to :)
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08-12-2013
07:03 PM
Hello @Skeptik ! It might be a bit confusing at first, but you'll soon get your head around it all. Welcome to Reach Out :)
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08-12-2013
06:51 PM
Hey Pillow! It's great that you're still taking the step to seek help despite past experiences. I'm sorry that you've had a tough time with psychologists in the past. I wish I had some advice for you, but I've never been to headspace before, though I've seen lots of people speak very highly of their services and I've been considering it lately. Good luck with your appointment tomorrow. I hope everything goes well.
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05-12-2013
07:08 PM
2 Kudos
Hey Pillow, I'm really sorry that you had such a bad day. I hope tomorrow treats you a lot better! Self harming is no laughing matter, and the fact that they are laughing at something like that shows how ignorant they are. And you know what they say isn't true, there are people who care. Have you thought about talking to your Mum or Dad about the situation? If nothing else they could at least lend you some support. I hope you're feeling a bit better now.
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05-12-2013
11:39 AM
I've got some more good ones: ' Storms make oaks take roots.' -Unknown 'The best way out is always through'. - Robert Frost
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05-12-2013
02:48 AM
Rhelna: just had a nightmare and now am freaking out... wishing there was someone to talk to...
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05-12-2013
12:43 AM
2 Kudos
Negative: I'm becoming increasingly worried about my boyfriend. He's still in hospital and it's really getting to me. Naturally he's getting really upset about it all.. I just want him to be happy, healthy and be able to relax. Positive: When he does get out he'll be feeling a lot better and we'll be able to appreciate the time we have together even more. Plus, he has some really good nurses looking after him at the moment. I'm sure they're taking good care of him.
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04-12-2013
11:36 PM
3 Kudos
Hey Pillow, I'm really sorry to hear that these ex friends of yours are behaving this way. It's cruel, and really not on. Firstly, try not to let them get to you. They're just doing it to try and make themselves feel bigger and better. When they taunt you, don't respond. They're not worth your time or attention. Do you have a good group of friends now who will support and stick up for you? If things are getting to the point where they are really bad and you don't think you can cope I think telling someone would be the best option, or if their threat scares you, maybe moving schools is an option if you're comfortable with it. The kids helpline is a great source of support if you need it. You can call them everyday if you need and there will be someone there to help you through things. On their website they also have a chat service if you're uncomfortable with phone conversations. They could teach you some ways to deal with bullies. I hope this helps. Remember, you're not alone.
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04-12-2013
10:29 PM
Hey Pillow! Welcome! :) I'm really sorry to hear that you're going through a tough time. I hope that things become easier for you. Hopefully you'll find Reach Out to be a good support, I know I have. Everyone is so nice and supportive here. We're all here whenever you need to vent, or express yourself.. So yes, welcome! :)
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