originally posted on 21-07-2021 8:46 PM

For sure, which is where all of those micro actions you can take can be really helpful. 

In terms of creating more observable boundaries - this can take time. Don't give up if the first conversation with parents around boundaries doesn't go to plan or if the first boundary you put in place doesn't get respected. It may take a few conversations, but if the seed gets planted you can water it gradually until they start to respond in a better way.

I think putting in place boundaries with family and at home can be a great scaffold to building healthy relationships and feeling confident in setting boundaries in other settings or within other relationships!

originally posted on 21-07-2021 8:26 PM

Cya @WheresMySquishy! Thanks for chatting tonight 🙂 I hope you are able to do something nice for yourself after this chat ❤️ 

originally posted on 21-07-2021 8:24 PM

Thanks for being here @WheresMySquishy 🙂

originally posted on 21-07-2021 8:22 PM

Thanks for joining us tonight @WheresMySquishy always a pleasure.

originally posted on 21-07-2021 8:24 PM

Sometimes people can put pressure on us to loosen our boundaries, and out of fear of losing that person, we can often succumb to that pressure. However, this could be at the detriment of our own health and wellbeing. if we do feel pressured into loosening our boundaries, it is important to just take a step back, get support of people we trust and mabe a professional to hopefully get some perspective on what to do. When we feel ready, we can talk to that person again about why our boundaries are important, and why you want them to be respected.

As we have kind of talked about before, we hope that people will always respect our boundaries and not challenge them, but it isn't always the case. If you feel like your boundaries are constantly being pressured by someone else, you might have to re-evaluate your relationship with them.

originally posted on 21-07-2021 8:26 PM

Definitely a good take away from tonight @Akhil-RO - boundaries aren't always easy but that doesn't mean you shouldn't set them. 

And @GuestPsychologist1 taking time to lean on the supports you trust! 

originally posted on 21-07-2021 8:23 PM

This is when i would return to ensuring you create a strong support network around you whilst you are putting in place boundaries. These support people can be helpful in re-assuring you that your boundary is valid and you are entitled to have it in place, helping you when the doubt creeps in or the pressure to loosen them mounts up. 

originally posted on 21-07-2021 8:13 PM

Also - remember to take your lunch break! Rest + food = energy. Energy to keep doing your work.

originally posted on 21-07-2021 8:16 PM

Relatable... food, sleep and rest. My favourite things! 😁

originally posted on 21-07-2021 8:24 PM

Food sleep and rest are the ONLY things @Taylor-RO 😛

originally posted on 21-07-2021 8:17 PM

Same! 🙂

originally posted on 21-07-2021 8:14 PM

Exactly @Akhil-RO and @GuestPsychologist1 - without good professional boundaries, burn out is inevitible. 

originally posted on 21-07-2021 8:10 PM

If you continue to notice you are not able to complete your work within the hours you are at work and it repeatedly leads to you doing over-time or having to take work home, speak to your manager or someone you feel comfortable enough with to work out steps in rectifying this. 

originally posted on 21-07-2021 8:07 PM

There can be many boundaries within a professional setting. Boundaries such as keeping your work to within the hours you are paid to work. Packing away all of your work things at the end of the day so that you can transition into your personal life (WFH life can lead to alot of blurred boundaries and the old 'let me just check or respond to that email...'). Not working on the weekend! Taking your weekends to actually enjoy life outside of work. Turning off your work email notifications from your phone. 

originally posted on 21-07-2021 8:20 PM

I should add though if your shifts are only rostered for the weekends, then don't take the weekends off haha.

originally posted on 21-07-2021 8:23 PM

Lol @GuestPsychologist1 😂

originally posted on 21-07-2021 8:21 PM

😄😄

originally posted on 21-07-2021 8:07 PM

Having just started working with a new team, this is something I have been thinking about recently. The boundaries we set in our professional life are just as important as those in our personal life. There are of course some similarities, but also some differences. Some things that I have learnt are:

- Boundaries are super important in professional contexts

- Talk with those around you early and proactively! This can be about about things you are and are not comfortable doing, or around time and hours of work

- Hopefully there is an HR team at your workplace. They can be really helpful to chat to early on

- Even if someone is in a more senior position to you/your boss, they should ALWAYS respect your boundaries!

originally posted on 21-07-2021 8:22 PM

Workplaces seem so scary to me cause a lot can go wrong with boundaries! 😞 I need to stop being so scared of everything 😬

originally posted on 21-07-2021 8:24 PM

As someone who is scared of a lot of things 😁 I relate haha. It does get easier the more you have to do things that are intimidating. 

originally posted on 21-07-2021 8:11 PM

@Akhil-RO big YES to management/ boss or people in senior positions showing all employees respect!