My best friend cutting me out of her life
Hi reachout forums,
So I just wanna say this has happened for this past week and well um she has decided to cut everyone out of her life and doesn't want me in her life anymore me her best friend out of everyone I mean I tried my best to stay with her for the tough times and not so tough times and then she turns her back on me and cuts me out of her life and idk what to do now so yea this is what it's come to right now
Tulip_starling
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Sorry to hear that your relationship is going through big changes. It's understandable that after all the effort you put into being there for your best friend, you would be left confused and unsure as they've chosen to change your friendship dynamic. I'm sorry to hear that after going through so much for your best friend, they are not reciprocating that back to you as you deserve.
Have you been able to figure out the reason why there are choosing to cut out a lot of people in their life? maybe they are going through something big?
I hope you are well, and as the others have said you are not alone 💙
Hi reachout forums,
The reason why she's choosing to cut a lot of people that were in her life is because that apparently she thinks everyone will judge her for what she's going through and that shes basically saying that I was a fake friend to her from the start which I wasn't and that basically the only reason why I was her friend was because of the problems I had who h that isn't true but I can't do anything about it anymore so ig that's it. I mean she could be but that's what she told me so yea and that oh I will judge her because that's what they all say before dropping her for dead whatever that means.
Ik I'm not alone it just feels like I am at the moment tbh I feel like I can't be here anymore just because of it😔
Hey @Tulip_Starling
It's really tough when friendships change or evolve or just have a bit of a break. But although it is really heartbreaking, sometimes it makes the friendship becomes stronger because of it. Or if not, you end up finding friends that are better suited for you 😊
I'm really glad to hear you have some other friends you can hang out with and chat to at lunch & on socials. I'm wondering how you're feeling about being away from them over the holidays? Do they live close by? We have this post that might be helpful to keep handy over the next couple of months whilst you're not at school.
Thanks for sharing. The situation with your friend is really hurtful and I am so sorry that you are going through this. I don't know your friend but it sounds like they are feeling vulnerable and are trying to protect themselves. It also seems like your friend is saying some hurtful things towards you which isn't okay. I hope you feel better soon, you sound like a really caring friend 
Also just so you know, I have sent you through an email if you don't mind having a look.
I’m sorry to hear that you have been going through a confusing time. It is always difficult when those close to us start to drift away, especially after we invested so much care, love, effort, and time towards them. I’m sorry to hear that your best friend is choosing to cut everyone out around her including you. Do you know the reason as to why she is doing this?
Also, how have you been feeling about the whole situation? Do you have other friends you can rely on for support and comfort during this confusing time? ❤️
Hi reachout forums,
Yea it has been a confusing time including she did it on the last week of school and the only people I told were the people in the year I was hanging out with and my year advisor so yea.well she texted me on a social platform saying that I will judge her saying that the only reason why she's distancing herself from everyone is because that apparently the only reason why I was friends with her was because I had problems with my life which that isn't the only reason I was friends with her at all I was friends with her because I was interested in being friends with her.
Well tbh I have been feeling like shit around the whole situation I've been feeling down about it a lot.and I do have have friends to rely on during the situation and some comfort from my friends which they are all in year 7 and I'm in year 9 so I can only talk to them at lunch and that's all so yea or on social media when I'm at home.
Tulip_starling
Hey @Tulip_Starling, thank you for reaching out to us tonight and sharing a bit about what has been going on for you. I'm sorry to hear that you're experiencing this right now. Hearing that your friend doesn't want you in their life anymore is incredibly hurtful and heartbreaking. I can only imagine what you're feeling right now. Have you been able to talk to your friend about this and shared some of your concerns with her at all? It sounds like such a horrible situation to be in, i'm really sorry you're going through this.
I'm not sure if you will find it helpful at all right now, but we do have an article on Changing Friendships and I wonder if it might help you come up with some ideas on what you can do. In saying that, it sounds like a lot to be dealing with on your own, so I was just wondering if you have been able to talk to anyone else about this at all? If you ever need to talk to anyone, Kidshelpline is always available.
Just remember that you're not alone and we're all here for you 💜
